Changing schools dad disagreement

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I'm looking at moving in with my new partner who lives in a different town then I do. My two children are coming with me their dad is not happy about this. There's a lot of reasons I'm moving and spoken with my partner about this he's fully on board. My Ex on other hand has a temper and has said its not happening, my question is can I change the kids schools without his permission. Bare in mind I have said to him the move doesn't no way shape or form stop him from seeing or having the kids the travel is just further for him again I'd compromise by taking kids to him.

Is it in the best interests of your kids to move away from their friends, school and their dad to live with a new stepdad? Im not sure it is. What if you break up? It would be better for him to move to you.

But as I say the way he is i was to afraid to do that at the time.
I do understand you don't know the whole story.
I also understand that if it was other way round I'd be angry to but I would talk about it and come up with solution where he's not willing to do any.

I don’t think a controlling ex can tell you where to live. Then the children decide where they want to spend time. Or go to school.

Again if you read all replies it's not a last miniute jump in to the unknown. They will see their dad no matter what. Negativity is why people don't move on with their lives. My relationship with their dad was 18 years and I tried everything to keep that going , he made his choices in the end.

It shouldn't be the case but when I moved out from him with the kids I had to stay within a 5 miniute drive from his.

All I'm wanting to do is give the kids a better start in life and in a positive environment

Because if I asked him for it he would make it into me wanting the money and that wouldn't be the case. He spends money on them when he sees them so I'm happy with that. H

As other posters have said, you will need his consent.

Totally agree with this.

As I said read my post. People are very negative. There's a lot of what if.

Your ex has to agree with your children moving schools. He could decide to stop you, by going to Court. You need to talk, and have mediation, to come to agreement.

Thank you. It's more the confrontation with him. I've seeked help through citizens advice.

How many schools have they each attended?

How many father figures have they had? It reads like 3?

What happens if you break up?

People are negative because of the impact new parents have on children - both positive and negative.

In all?

All of them?

Really?

I’ve see plenty of concerned posts in similar situations, Maybe get that selective vision checked out.

Youngest two primary schools this wasnt my choosing in the end , child that's in secondary only one primary and my eldest who is now a adult one of each. Eldest dad was barly in picture his choice not mine. My eldest was 2 when I met my other children dad and I was with him for 6 years before we had children together. Was with my ex 18 years.
Obviously I have learnt from past mistakes and blinkers are not on. I'm not young either I had my children at a older age. Plus after having my third I can no longer have anymore and didn't want anymore children.
What if we split up same as when I split from their father I found a house which is rented and pick up, plans in place. But the relationship iam in now is more positive one and I've dealt with demons only one thing holding everything back. Not ideal situation and one that I never thought I'd be in again. As said everything has been discussed before even thinking of the move ,just thier dad will not talk he is more the yell in your face type. And no not stepdads they have a dad thier dad. My eldest did to. One dad one mum.
I know the effects of a negative relationship ,but through experience and how happy my children are with the thought if moving then I know the decision is right.

OP

You can tell us it is right all you like, and that may well be the case. But you came on to ask if he could stop you, and he can certainly try. But if your kids want to move, and it gets to court, their opinions should be taken into account.

It may be worth starting the ball rolling with legal advice and a proposal for mediation. Show willing on this. There’s no way to bury your head in the sand.

Everyone deserves to be happy. If my kids where not happy then I'd struggle on. I can come off benefits I do work but I wouldn't have to worry about having a day off because my child's sick or if benefit stopped for any reason and can't afford to pay bills. Yes still be paying towards but more security for the kids in a possitive environment.

How well do you even know this new partner. The children are only at their dads every other weekend, it's not a lot of free time for you to have spent with the new partner. Does he even appreciate the reality of what living with your two children the majority of the time will be like. It sounds like a recipe for disaster. Your ex can object to them moving schools, assuming he has PR.

I've reached out to citizens advice. He has stated he doesn't have a problem with my partner. It is the move and I get that but if I could sit down and talk to him I would. I'm just angry as people are judging and assuming things and I feel the need to defend myself, something I never did in the past.

Again i wouldn't even be contemplating it if I didn't know my new partner and we have spent time together both by ourselves and with the kids. He didn't meet the kids until I knew the relationship was going somewhere so a few months and we are over 2 years. Not all relationship are negative his parents have been together over 50 years.

I get the what if it doesn't last well what if it does some people will work through problems some won't.

but if I could sit down and talk to him I would.

My understanding is, if he wants to take this to court, he needs to attempt some kind of formal mediation first.

You are not twisting my words again i will defend myself. First of all I'm not prioritising my love life that's has absolutely nothing to do with it. It's giving my child stability and a positive environment. One that they didn't have whilst me and their dad was together and no not putting all blame on him as it takes two to argue. I think you need to go back and read comments.

I don't think he would go this far I'll leave that reason off here. The response i got off him when he found out about the move may of been happening had nothing to do with the effects it had on the kids or the fact of him seeing them, again not putting on here. I only wanted to know if I needed his permission and people have started to judge and assume things which I think is sad really when it's ment to be a page for advice