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Son possibly being excluded for throwing object ar teacher - advice wanted

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Stressyball · 30/08/2022 20:07

My son (year 11) got into a dispute with a teacher yesterday during school and threw an object at her in anger. I’ve been invited in tomorrow and I’m worried he may be getting excluded and don’t know what to do.

BG my son is a hot head but lovely. The teacher had separated him from his friends in the class due to them previously mucking about (what kid doesn’t right?) and received the normal warnings that they get before a detention. He admitted he got frustrated at her when she told him to get to work instead of asking her to move seats (literacy is not his strong point and he hates it.) After he threw the object (which did NOT hit her) he received the detention and he thought that was it but now school are saying it’s serious.

i personally think the detention is enough as he understands why it’s wrong. How can I convince the school not to exclude him over this? And advice on dealing with this?

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cansu · 30/08/2022 20:10

What did he throw? How would you feel if the teacher threw something at him in frustration but missed? He is old enough to know better. I am guessing it could have hurt her if he had a better aim. Is there a history of this kind of behaviour?

FannyFifer · 30/08/2022 20:12

That's some amount of excuses your making for a badly behaved & aggressive child.

Hellocatshome · 30/08/2022 20:13

Year 11 he is old enough to be able to control his temper and not throw things at teachers, he gets what he deserves frankly. Its only luck it didn't hit her, if it had you could be looking at police involvement as well.

NerrSnerr · 30/08/2022 20:13

BG my son is a hot head but lovely. The teacher had separated him from his friends in the class due to them previously mucking about (what kid doesn’t right?)

Sounds like you're making excuses for him. What would you prefer? He gets suspended when he actually hurts a teacher? If he only gets a detention for this he'll feel like he's got away with it.

elephantoverthehill · 30/08/2022 20:13

I would guess it will be a temporary exclusion. I decided to take early retirement after being to to 'Fuck off you fucking cunt' . Does your Ds realise the implications of his behaviour?

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 30/08/2022 20:13

Whether it her or not is irrelevant. You can’t go through life throwing things at people when you’re frustrated.
I’d be surprised if it was an exclusion but can see that it would warrant a suspension of a few days.

FannyFifer · 30/08/2022 20:13

How old is year 11?

ballsdeep · 30/08/2022 20:13

Is this a wind up.
you son, who is in year 11, was kicking around, separated from his friends and then threw something?!?

absolutely disgusting behaviour. It’s assault and as his mother you need to step up and stop making excuses for him. And no, a detention isn’t enough.

NerrSnerr · 30/08/2022 20:13

FannyFifer · 30/08/2022 20:13

How old is year 11?

15/16

SpringSparrow · 30/08/2022 20:13

You seem to be excusing his behaviour. It isn’t okay to throw objects at teachers and most year 11’s are there to work not to muck around.

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/08/2022 20:14

Should not have acted like an idiot.

Hillsidehigh · 30/08/2022 20:14

Stop making excuses for him, he deserves the exclusion, who the hell does he think he is ?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 30/08/2022 20:14

So it's OK because he missed when he attempted to assault her?

That should be a permanent exclusion and a fast track to a PRU for the safety of all other women in the school.

Original poster
Stressyball · 30/08/2022 20:14

It was a small metal pencil sharpener. He has a history or getting angry and misbehaving, and I’m feeling like this is a similar incident. He kind of threw it in frustration, not Trying to hit her with it and didn’t mean to hurt her at all, and as I said it missed her anyway.

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VariationsonaTheme · 30/08/2022 20:15

I hope he is excluded. Completely unacceptable, and as for “what kid doesn’t?” - the majority of kids don’t, and get incredibly pissed off with the ones who mess about.

FannyFifer · 30/08/2022 20:16

15/16! I thought this was a primary aged child. Wow.

Maireas · 30/08/2022 20:16

Have you had anything thrown at you when you're at work?

isadoradancing123 · 30/08/2022 20:16

Stop making excuses for him, teachers dont come to work to be assaulted by a thug

Justgamboling · 30/08/2022 20:16

15/16 old enough to know better.

No wonder kids have no respect for teachers when they have parents that excuse their poor behaviour all of the time.

AtomicBlondeRose · 30/08/2022 20:16

Which country are you in? It was August Bank Holiday yesterday and most schools in England haven’t gone back yet. And they don’t have Year 11 in Scotland. Either way it’s very early in the year to get in any trouble, let alone excluded.

sleepyduvetcat · 30/08/2022 20:16

He should absolutely be excluded. Probably quite lengthy as he’s been aggressive towards a member of staff.

ballsdeep · 30/08/2022 20:16

Stressyball · 30/08/2022 20:14

It was a small metal pencil sharpener. He has a history or getting angry and misbehaving, and I’m feeling like this is a similar incident. He kind of threw it in frustration, not Trying to hit her with it and didn’t mean to hurt her at all, and as I said it missed her anyway.

Oh well that’s ok then. He missed isn’t the point, he shouldn’t have done it! Do you think it’s ok that the intent is there but because it causes no damage it doesn’t matter?

Doodledeedum · 30/08/2022 20:16

Oh well as long as it missed her hey? 🙄

No a detention is not enough. What's he learning from a detention?

Ffs.

Hillsidehigh · 30/08/2022 20:16

A metal pencil sharpener ??? Is this a joke, are you seriously this deluded. ??

Hellocatshome · 30/08/2022 20:17

Stressyball · 30/08/2022 20:14

It was a small metal pencil sharpener. He has a history or getting angry and misbehaving, and I’m feeling like this is a similar incident. He kind of threw it in frustration, not Trying to hit her with it and didn’t mean to hurt her at all, and as I said it missed her anyway.

A history or getting angry and misbehaving? so not the lovely child you tried to paint a picture of in your OP.