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If your child was given lines for something they say they didn't do

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:44

And they refused to do them and then they were doubled and they still refused and you could see no way of it being resolved - would you just tell you son to do them

'you are not angel and do them for all the times you were mucking around and didn't get caught' - type thing

God this is when i need dh around as I am to emotional

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fannyannie · 27/03/2007 16:45

yes I probably would - if he's anything like my boys he'll have got away with plenty of stuff before now and as you say - it'll make up for it LOL.

LilRedWG · 27/03/2007 16:46

Hmmm - not sure. On one hand, good for him for sticking to his principles, but on the other - "just do them, get them out of the way and know that you were in the right"!

I know this is no help, but hopefully someone will come along soon with some decent advice.

Glassofwine · 27/03/2007 16:46

How about getting him to write the lines,but change whats written to something like "I didn't do .... but I will write the lines, to avoid getting into more trouble"

batters · 27/03/2007 16:46

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Marina · 27/03/2007 16:47

Oh, I don't know beety.
This would be so unlike ds that I'd probably book a quick meeting with him and the teacher in question and get the child to say in front of the teacher that he was Not...Geeeelty

But if I had a Known Pickle on my hands I'd be tempted to the same route as you - consider it karma for all the times you got away with it sonny

Is this the same ds with the problem over taking things recently?

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:48

Trouble is Batters - he is not an angel and he does muck around (not bad but in the choir the behaviour rules are different)- so I think he might be on shaky ground.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:49

Marina - no this is the oldest. It is never dull in my house!!

Anyone would think my boys are a nightmare but they just have to live under scriter rules than most

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Hillary · 27/03/2007 16:51

I used to get detention for not attending detention, nobody could make me go either.

How old is your dc? If your dc is adamant it wasnt him it probably means it wasn't, I'd be behind him, you're his mum you can tell wether he's being truethful or not

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:53

oh Hilary I am behind him and he knows it but think he might need to just do it and move on -

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:53

and he isnot an angel - he is a 13 year old boy who likes a bit of a laugh

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colditz · 27/03/2007 16:53

if I was sure he was telling the truth, I would back him to the hilt.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:56

but how would it resolve? Choir master won't back down.

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ScummyMummy · 27/03/2007 16:57

Agree with batters. Let the school deal with it. And it's nice that he can stand up for himself in a way.

Marina · 27/03/2007 16:59

I don't think beety is sure, is she though?
I think it's important that charming chancers realise that their parents won't back them regardless when they have done something wrong and won't put it right.
School seem pretty confident about it too beety
I really would have a word with the teacher if it's not a huge hassle to do this

Hillary · 27/03/2007 16:59

I think it would be a head to head with the Choir master. You would win of course, after all he is your son and nobody can make him do anything you disaproove(sp?) of.

What did/did'nt he do?

Marina · 27/03/2007 16:59

x-posted
Then someone more senior in the school needs to arbitrate between the choirmaster and ds1, as others say

LucyJu · 27/03/2007 17:00

It's just part of life, isn't it? I'm sure we have all been punished at some time for something we didn't do - and got away with other things. We're just talking about a few lines here, right? Not imprisonment or a fine? If you believe your son, tell him so - but, beyond that, I'm not sure I would want to escalate the problem.
What is he supposed to have done, anyway?

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 17:03

He was chatting
his line are along the lines of
As an older chorister I must show a good example to the younger ones'

I have spoken to the head who says that he should jsut get on and do them as he is 'no angel'

Mum says - he will have the moral highground

DS1 did write a note to choirmaster saying that the reason he was not doing them was becasue the choirmaster was basing his punishment on his reputation not on his behaviour and he admitted ot mucking around in the past but had changed (as he teachers will admit)

Choir master threw the not at him

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Marina · 27/03/2007 17:06

I really sympathise with choristers round this time though. All that mournful Passiontide and Holy Week music is enough to make anyone go a bit troppo in the stalls. Even as adult choir member I find it all rather excessive - usually cracking some time around 9pm on Easter Eve.
Choirmaster should NOT have thrown the note back at ds1 that's for sure.
The pair of them sound almost as bad as each other!

ScummyMummy · 27/03/2007 17:08

choirmaster sounds like a child! I think you should back off and leave them to fight amongst themselves tbh, beets.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 17:09

and -

ds1 is doing a sponsored silence andthe choirmaster wanted a reaction of ds but as he could not talk he just siad nopthing and choir master shouted even louder and told him to stop being stupid (

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Marina · 27/03/2007 17:10

You know, even before you posted the circs I had a feeling this would be the choirmaster rather than a class or subject teacher Because IME they'd resolve this on the spot, not turn into into some kind of hissy slapping contest

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 17:10

Yes - think I will get mum to talk to ds1 about doing lines just to stop it escalating but that we beleive him but I will leave it up to him

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ScummyMummy · 27/03/2007 17:10

Sounds like they are having power struggles... Will your son's voice break quite soon and put an end to all this?

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 17:10

Marina - the stories I could tell!!

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