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If your child was given lines for something they say they didn't do

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 16:44

And they refused to do them and then they were doubled and they still refused and you could see no way of it being resolved - would you just tell you son to do them

'you are not angel and do them for all the times you were mucking around and didn't get caught' - type thing

God this is when i need dh around as I am to emotional

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edam · 27/03/2007 20:30

Well, your secret mission name is going to take you ages to type every time you feel like posting... and most people get sucked into MN and end up posting lots more than they'd expected...

NKffffffffee0f7f95X1118efd8f2d · 27/03/2007 20:32

I have been warned. I will change it. Honest.

Rather alarmed at the idea of being sucked in. I have been lurking for days now and can feel the lure.

Marina · 27/03/2007 20:34

I think we should all go to change our names and then hang about until we get assigned something catchy like yours nk...

spudmasher · 27/03/2007 20:34

Welcome NK!!!!

NKffffffffee0f7f95X1118efd8f2d · 27/03/2007 20:36

Marina. I did the same thing on ebay and ended up with one of those names that sound like a prison number.

Marina · 27/03/2007 20:40

I think that is entirely in keeping with the existential bleakness that is eBay though

tigermoth · 27/03/2007 20:43

marina lol at your inside knowledge of choir madness at Easter.

I'd promise a treat if he does the lines. Life is unfair, but he is no angel - agree your best bet is to keep out of childish choir manouevres, but offer a non school treat for towing the line. But just this once. A repeat performance and you are on the side of the choir master.

NKffffffffee0f7f95X1118efd8f2d · 27/03/2007 20:44

You are probably right. I never actually bought or sold anything on it. I understand some people have major ebay habits though.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 20:44

well he came home from choir and decided to do them - so we all helped

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 20:45

and welcome NK

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NKffffffffee0f7f95X1118efd8f2d · 27/03/2007 20:47

Thank you. Glad to hear it got sorted.

snorkle · 27/03/2007 20:47

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 20:54

four of use did them together.

ds said that the choirmaster shouted at him again this evening for NOT tlaking - as he is doing a sponsored silence- and scared him (which is hard) and he siad he jsut realsied he wouldn't win

Poor love

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Blu · 27/03/2007 20:56

Phew. I have just come in on the end of this nail-biting stand-off, Beety.

I was going to suggest you say to him "who do you think you are, Rosa Parks? Stop being a drama queen and get on with it" as he seems to have wanted to set himself up as wronged martyr a bit. He MUST have been at school and choir countless times when the wrong one in a chattering scenario cops it - it can't be unusual!

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 20:57

blu

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tortoiseSHELL · 27/03/2007 21:03

hi beety, just seen this - I think this is totally out of order by the choirmaster - we would never humiliate a boy like this. I'm glad your ds has decided on a solution, but if I were you I would book a meeting with the choirmaster - if he's anything like other choirmasters I know, he'll be expecting either a meeting or a letter...

I know it's sometimes hard to know exactly who was talking etc, but there are correct ways of dealing with things. And if your ds was on a sponsored silence, he was just being childish in getting cross.

Definitely think you need to follow it up!

tortoiseSHELL · 27/03/2007 21:05

Just to add, I was depping as DoM for a couple of weeks a fortnight ago and was REALLY tested by a couple of boys in the choir who really wouldn't stop talking - you know the sort of thing, lifting the copies so I wouldn't know etc. We try to give warnings, and generally deal with stuff outside of the rehearsal. One of the boys almost got to the point of being asked to sit out of the rehearsal, which I think is more appropriate than lines anyway. But after a couple of warnings he was fine.

CountTo10 · 27/03/2007 21:14

difficult one. i remember being away on a school trip and someone being rude to somebody and there was a complaint. One of the teachers with us was convinced it was me as she hated me. She made us all stand up and one by one she went round deciding who it was and asking us to own up etc. I knew it wasn't me but it would have been easy to say yep it was me and get on with it. I didn't see why I should though as I knew it wasn't me. I faced her out and in the end the guilty party stepped forward. My mum has always been big on stepping up and taking punsishments when we're in the wrong but she was always the first to march us out of the school when we were being treated unfairly as she felt it was important not to be walked over.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 21:37

I think i should talk to choirmaster - Ds says the only reason he did the punishment was becasue he i=was scared

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paros · 27/03/2007 21:44

Bless beety can we all sign a well done thread for him . I think the choir master is a knob (sorry I never use this word ) But well done to him . he can definately take the Moral high ground and if good kids like him leave the choir through their own choice everyone can see who is to blame .

CountTo10 · 27/03/2007 21:46

I would - I have only skim read the thread but it comes across like he is simply acting on a reputation which is unfair. Just because he may have misbehaved in the past does not mean he has on this occasion. My brother had a lot of that when he was at school and in the end he thought sod it if they're just going to assume all the time I may as well as make it so. God I'm dreading the day my child goes to school!!! What do you ever do for the best!!

Dinosaur · 27/03/2007 21:47

Beety, I haven't read the whole thread, but I think I agree with your OP - yes, just tell him to do them, part of life's rich tapestry, yes it is unfair and all that but...

NKffffffffee0f7f95X1118efd8f2d · 27/03/2007 21:56

But in this case, it sounds as if "reputation" means "past behaviouir." He's pushed it a bit in the past and now he's got a punishment. A minor one as I said before. Also, everyone is at the end of their tether towards the end of term. I bet the whole situation will look very different this time next week.

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Beetrootccio · 27/03/2007 22:16

yes I agree - that is why I have not gone in guns blazing. However, I am very cross with choirmaster for scaring him and shouting at him - not nice and unnecessary

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