What is the TRUE cost of private school?

[ElenyaTuesday]

I hope someone can help me here. We have decided to look at private senior schools for ds1 for next year. The fees are around £11,000pa which is just about manageable. My main worry is the cost of everything else - what else would we have to budget for? I know that music tuition and exam fees aren't included but are there other common costs at private school that we need to consider?
Thanks.

Xenia, sorry you are unwell.

It sounds like Anna is happy not working and I'm happy working. So that's fine. Let's just leave it at that but I would want my daughters to know how deeplyg unsatisfying and politically dangerous and deadly dull being a house wife is although anyone with intelligence can see that is the case and they avoid it like the plague.

Xenia - speculatingly about what I might not know about my partner is just plain silly... you . And from your speculations, you seem to think, rather strangely, that people don't know much about one another in relationships. Maybe you need to work on that yourself? So that you have fewer surprises next time round.

I'm sorry. You're right. We are both as bad as each other at posting personal information which doesn't help either.