Dreamer of dreams,born out of my due time, Why should I strive to set the crooked straight. Wm Morris

[indignatio]

Hopefully the link from the other thread will work

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ds is 4.5 - summer born
In reception class

Has issues with:-
Easy distractability (school work and practical tasks)
Concentration problems when not totally engaged by something (95% of the time)
Fidgeting
Getting "lost" in the middle of a complicated sentence/explaination.
Bossy manner
Isolation at school
Poor eye contact
Repetition of sentences until he hears the acknowledgement
No herding instinct

On the positive
Very loving boy
Exceptional reader for his age
Good at maths
Lots of "home" friends
If gripped by something, can concentrate on it for ages

dx:
teacher initially thought he might have dyspraxia - no longer thinks so.
I consider that he has more add traits, but would not go so far as to say he has add.
SENCO to informally assess him next week and then meeting to be arranged with parents, teacher and senco shortly thereafter.

Not sure what else I should put in.

Here, leafturner. The book is often highly recommended on here, but I have no experience of it as it didn't seem appropriate to DS3; as Bink says, there's quite a variety of dreamers on this thread .

Bluebob, your DS sound's very like mine (5). He has a comprehension problem. His speech is fine (bit muddled sometimes), never stops talking etc. He gets lost in a class of 30 and needs 1:1 to go over instructions then he's fine. Very bright, learns quickly etc. Also very sociable, friendly, amazing memory which are typically unusual for children with language disorders.

We saw a private developmental paediatrician in February after 2 years of being seen by various NHS people and not getting anywhere. This was after his reception teacher (brilliant woman) told us within 1 day of him being at school what the problem is but noone takes the word of a primary school teacher do they? Anyway, that led to an assessment by an educational psychologist & a SALT and we are now in the final stages of a statement application. He will remain in his current mainstream school and receive 15 hours (maybe more) of 1:1. He also has private speech therapy which has helped enormously. Once the statement is in place he will get all this on the nhs. Sorry, bit of a ramble but let me know if you need any more advice and welcome to the dreamers thread!

Leafturner, will come back to you - DD2 (7 months) requiring attention!

welcome to leafturner and blueBob!

Sphil and castles - sorry to hear you are down. I got the Dt's reports on 26th June and havent opened them yet! Cant bear the thought of that down feeling. I put them in the middle of a book somewhere and i cant even remember which book!

My Dh blossomed at around 14. He was bottom of the class all through primary school, failed his 11plus and then for some reason went to top of the class at 14 and got A's at A level . My brother was a bit of a dreamer also but unlike DT2 was excellent at sport. He also blossomed in his teens.

I live in hope!

Welcome to the new dreamers, too!

Maggiems, DH also said he was a 'lateish' developer. It's not quite true as he passed the 11+ in the top whatever percent and got sent to the 'top' grammar. But he said he was at the bottom of the class for the first few years, and then gradually moved upwards, and from about 14 began to do very well. He has an English degree from Oxford.

DS1 is so like him - forgetful, disorganised, messy, slapdash, but tremendously imaginative and enthusiastic.

BTW, DS2's maths teacher said the other day "He's just a bit of a dreamer," and my heart sank. Surely not two of them...

Welcome new dreamers - no pearls of wisdom for you from me I'm afraid as I am still getting to grips with ds being dreamy (he is nearly 5). One day I will be able to help mothers of other dreamers rather than just be a recipient of such help.

Maggiems - whilst I have been shouting at the computer over the last week or so saying open the damn reports - I now know where you are coming from. Ds's report arrived yesterday - I guess I just don't see the child the teacher sees. I am one biased mummy grrrr. To be fair, the best part of the report was written by the head - he called ds a "deep thinker" - I liked that bit.

Anyone else going to Excell over the w/e to see the big Star Wars expo ? Ds is going with a friend, which means I don't have to go. Yeh!

Singersgirl - I love the phrase "growing into his ability"

PS. Dating scan last week showed a heartbeat !!! good news but not out of the woods yet.

Thinking of you indignatio xx

Can't think of anything helpful to say to the new dreamers, sorry, other than welcome . Feel completely and utterly exhausted physically as well as intellectually, not that the latter is unusual for me these days!

Hi everyone
Feeling much more positive now -DS1's teacher invited me in to see some writing he'd done and there was such an improvement. He'd also done well in a numeracy quiz and even done extra sheets voluntarily. He was so enthusiastic about showing me his work and talked so articulately about it that I couldn't possibly stay depressed!

How were sports days for dreamers then? Want to see if there's any consistency!

I'll start: DS1 came 5th out of 6th in the sprint (but only because his friend who was running alongside stopped a metre from the finishing line) .He came last in the bean bag on the head race BUT went very slowly and kept bean bag on head for almost the whole race. (Unlike the ones who won I might add.....)

The great thing was he enjoyed the whole thing, didn't get upset about not winning and best of all, didn't do the windmill arm thing when he was running. OK his running action still isn't exactly conventional ( think new born foal or calf) but it's an awful lot better than it was. I was very proud of him in fact - it's not easy to go out and do something that you're aware you're not good at in front of hundreds of people.

Got dd's report from school today and it actually says "must try not to be so dreamy"

Re sports day - my dd has never quite understood that the point of it is to get there first. When the race starts, everyone else races off and she's looking around wondering what's happening. Luckily she's not at all bothered about being last.

Welcome pjqueen
Sports day was a hoot. 3 classes (KS1) mixed up into about 8 teams. Each team worked on an activity until the whistle went and then moved onto the next activity. After all 8 activities the scores were totted up and a winning team announced. A lovely mix of team work with a slightly competetive angle.
Well, despite the fact that speed is not a forte for ds he had a whale of a time. His strengths do not include listening to instructions (so he was not sure what to do in each activity), queueing (so he did not get many goes)nor does he have any sense of urgency (Well). He was however surprisingly good at chucking the welly and the slalom egg (potato) and spoon race. He was happy, I was hoarse.

Swimming gala - he shone. V V proud mummy

Both my primary-age children were in the obstacle and sack races, and they both, dreamer DS3 and non-dreamer DS2 alike, finished last in both events, but took it well and enjoyed the event.

DS3's report was considerably better than I'd feared - above national average in the subjects that matter, average in RE (I was a bit more concerned at DS2's considerably above average - where did we go wrong as atheist parents ) and below average in PE and music (and I take the latter with an extremely large pinch of salt!). So I'm feeling quite cheerful.

Had a meeting about DS1's report and teacher was very reassuring. She talked a lot about how much he'd improved recently (since reports written) but also about how difficult he is to assess (because he can be brilliant at something one day and ropey the next). She's already moved him up a reading group (before I spoke to her, so not a response to pushy mum ) and she gave me some ideas about how to improve his numeracy, which were useful as I NEVER do maths stuff with him... again.

Not sure how she'll feel when she sees the card he's written to her though. She told me he was good at sounding out words when he writes!!!

'Thak you for having my. Laove DS1 xxx'

Hi ladies. Sorry to have to let you know that a scan this morning showed another missed m/c. Thanks to all of you who were keeping fingers crossed for me.

So sorry to hear that news .

So sorry for you indignatio

I'm very sorry to hear that, indignatio

So sorry to hear your news. I had two missed m/c before DS1 too so do feel for you.

Thank you all for the kind thoughts.

Just back after 2 weeks away. So sorry to hear your sad news Ignatio. I had a m/c when I was pregnant with the Dt's. Should have been triplets but just wasnt meant to be I suppose.

I had a first appt with the physio for DT2 this morning. There are just 3 boys in the group. There was a parent viewing room where the boys couldnt see us but obviously we could see and hear what was going on. It was so good to speak to other dreamers mums as they all had difficulty in following instructions. Dt2 had great fun. He was the best of the 3 at actually doing the physical stuff but was one of two who seemed a bit distracted sometimes. All in all quite good and I have some excercises to follow up on

That sounds positive Maggiems. I'm starting Bink's 'daily command game' with DS1 tomorrow to help him with following instructions - will report back. He's also going to two trampolining lessons next week - am hoping he'll be keen as think it will be v gd for coordination and following instructions.

indignatio - so sorry to hear your news.

How are you doing Indignatio?

Thanks for caring. Physically still weak and feeble, but getting better. Mentally, just not gone there yet. I am concentrating on dh's 40th birthday w/e coming up as I have organised a "bit of a do". Thank goodness I arranged most of it before this happened and I have well trained family/friends who are helping out now.
ds is having the most wonderful time as 2 of his cousins are staying with us for the week.

Indignatio - glad to hear you are bearing up. Hope you continue to improve. Enjoy the "do" for DH.