What should I do and am I being overly sensitive?

[JennyLee]

my ds is 7 has changed schools as we are homeless accomodation. He thought school was great untill today. He has problems writing and had a white board and pen at previous school and about a year ago had feelings of being dumb as he could see what the other kids did but his old school helped him so much he started to know he is clever and stopped feeling like that. He is also 2 years ahead in verbal comphrehension and understanding and has a wide vocabularly was assessed, so isn't stupid. Basically cannot write very well because of coordination in hands but was progressing.WE told the head teacher this when he started and his teachers do not talk to parents so have never had the chance to discuss it with her.
today ds was asked write a story about a cat and a dog.He tried to write and got as far as 'one day cat' but he felt it looked wrong so knew it wasn't done correctly.Techer said'get a move on' ds puts his head in his hands trying not to cry and feeling angry. Teacher says 'hurry up lewis' he asked 3 kids sitting at his table to help him of course they could not. he asked the teacher for help but she said no as she was dealing with another child, that is fair enough. 'Goldentime' where they get to play and do fun things began and the other kids who has finished it (not all the other kids) went to do that.Lewis had his head in his hands for some of this time. When 'goldentime' finished and lewis had not got any further she said 'lewis, you're lazy, you know' Teh it was home time. At home time I waited for ds he was the last one out had a face like thinder and he ran home all the way home across 2 roads, with me limping behind(have bad ankle)when i caught up with him at the fron door, he said I'm stupid I'm going to clean the streets everything went wrong at school I hate school and then burst out crying and sobbing.I called the school to ask to see the teacher next week and was told by the office girl that parents are not allowed to talk to the teachers and I would have to go through the head teacher....sorry for long post

I said to ds if they think he is dyspraxic how do they expect him to know to bring his jotter home and they should make sure I am aware of things like that, all easily resolved by chatting to the teacher

Not ds, DH would never say that to ds. typing too fast

I mean I said that to my DH

Oh I can really relate to that "you should just know" thing - drives me mad too.

My dds come home on a school bus, so we have no informal contact with the school, if we want to ask questions about stupid little details, we have to phone up and turn a small thing into a big issue.

That is exactly what it is like at my son's school and there I was thinking that his school is the only one like this. its totally against all that is sensible