How much do you sacrifice to send Dc to private school?

[VeryTiredMummyOf2]

I have 2 Dc, just want to know what people give up? And is it worth it?

And what got you the first job at 16 I wonder ? You must have been articulate and showing promise to have got your foot through the door.

Well not necassarily Heswall I went to a terrible comp but was still able to get a job at 17 when I left school...in fact I got one at 14 and another at 15...I was also shy.

I went to the local comp. Left at 16 and got the job in the bank that led to a 21 year career with them.

I'm sorry eastnorth but I don't agree the kind of eduction offered by some independent schools I accept not all is not available in the state sector. But this arguement has been done to death on MN what ever I say there will always be those who don't agree and vice versa.
The top indpendent schools are not just about results and Oxbridge entry it is so much more than this and that is the bit the state sector can't provide primarily because it just doesn't have the resources or the time particularly the time that many boarding schools have. We looked at a top performing grammar for my DS it was great but his indie school is in a different league and IMO worth every penny we pay and all those things which lets face are only material possessions that we give up.
FWIW my DS does not feel particularly out of place either.

I answered the phone for a small company that built up very quickly. I was just a dogsbody really. I think it was easier to walk into jobs then. Anyone can go to uni and make it why do you feel the need to go private?

The only reason my son would if there was no decent state schools where I live.

Happy gardening I never let my mum know that I felt out of place but I did.

I'm not 100% sure mine will go to uni actually that's not what it's about for us, it's their general knowledge, they way they carry themselves, difficult to put a finger on but they themselves know that they are receiving a better education than they were at the local church school, having more opportunities.
Without outing myself any more than I have already my child met a prince at school and felt that she had plenty to say to him and held his attention for a few moments and made him smile. I couldn't have done that at her age.

Fgs This thread is gold dust to any comedians who need new material and if some smart female journalist doesn,t paraphrase it in her column this week for an easy jibe at MN I will eat my hat(boater)

Oh come on noddy have you never met a prince and held his attention for a few moments and made him smile.

I am assuming most of these posters did,t go to private schools themselves otherwise they wouldn't talkmsuch bs. Dp and I both did one of the reasons our ds didn't. If you feel that you can't give your children the tools to mix with all types of people and hold their own in any given situation then it is a sad reflection on you that you think you can buy this. Tbh you all sound nuts

Well we might be sad twats but I love the photo of my child shaking the hand of royalty
That alone was worth whatever we've spent.

Really? Blimey you are easily pleased

only a few moments Heswall?? tut tut.

I am easily pleased it's that comprehensive school I went to, ensured my expectations weren't too high.

I think it says more about the prince ,than the child talking , if they can't pretend to be interested in what someone is saying for a few minutes.

If your child went into a homeless hostel she would probably get to meet royalty too they do not just shake the hands of people in private schools.

Nice it was only moments not minutes.

No east north and are often to be found hanging around prisons and sleeping out in London streets so you are pretty well covered. My ds went to state school and him and all his mates are charming and educated but no royalty thank god

I certainly wouldn't have spoken up or cracked a joke in that situation at her age was my only point.

That is a personality thing.

It's confidence.

Yes you can,t buy it though. Otherwise all rich people would be confident and all poor people would cower in their presence which much as they would love it is not the case. You cannot live through your child it's sad I think. Night all x

Night this is getting silly I am going to bed to dream of princes

I think it's sad that people who've benefited from something themselves don't offer their child the same opportunities but it's all down to individual choice thank goodness.
And I have seen poor people cower down in the presence of people who aren't even that rich or important people, like the head teachers, their GP's so clearly confidence comes from having control of your life which can be bought.
Night.

Heswall: "I think it's sad that people who've benefited from something themselves don't offer their child the same opportunities"
Spot on!