Quite, Wordfactory, I wish I could like your post as you are absolutely spot on.
I've lost count of the amount of people who have said to me 'of course Amy's daughters were only able to achieve as they did because they have an IQ of 150 plus' and other comments in the same vein.
Children really are more capable and more robust than so many seem to think. I read this which I found inspiring:
Thoughts to keep in mind re: your children
You don't know until you try
You still don't know if you didn't finish
You can can complete this project/school assignment/sport season etc because any normal child can and you are a 'normal child'
You learn nothing if (Mum, Dad, significant adult) does it for you
Come and ask for help if you really need it - otherwise you are doing fine
Quitting in the middle is not an option - this doesn't negate changing direction but too many directional changes constitutes quitting
Manners - these are still important - please say thank you, please etc
Also like this written by an employer. Sorry a bit o/t but with some relevance:
Tiger Mum - you gave me and adult who can't think for herself. She can't work without being micro-managed and I don't have time to micro-manage her like her Mum.
When she does get moving on a project she can never seem to complete it because it's never perfect and any constructive criticism is so traumatic that I have to battle to see a partially complete project.
Why didn't you let her do her own work? Why didn't you let her see how to grow by learning from her teacher? How can I gauge that she's working in the correct direction if I can't see a prototype?
So your straight A child is ineffective and now has some real life lessons to learn.
Western Mum - you gave me a child that can't seem to stick to anything. She is so full of herself and thinks 'doing her best' is good enough.
She's heard the words 'nice try' 'good job' for every missed goal etc. Then when she wasn't successful (because she never tried) you let her quit!
Her science project looked just like Mount Vesuvius because that is the box it came out of and even that she had Dad create in the garage whilst she watched cartoons. I can see her potential every now and again, but she quickly sinks into her self-absorbed nature and quits more often than she completes a project.