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Parents from private schools

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freakazoidroid · 15/12/2011 08:57

We are considering private school for our dd. She is already at the nursery of the school we like and is due to start in reception in sept.
What I am worried about is the community of a private school. If she went to our local primary it would be more like that.
Can anyone please say what their experiences are? Have you made good friends with other parents and socialise with them?
Also we are not loaded and do not have a massive house and lots of nice holidays. In fact holidays would not occur much if we go private.
Will this hinder my dd at school as she gets older with her friends, will they pick on her for not having the lifestyle?
Thanks!

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Everlong · 19/12/2011 17:54

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wordfactory · 19/12/2011 17:54

seeker you come on every private school thread. Every. Single. One.

You don't come on to be helpful.
You're arrogance must be astounding or you must think we have collective amnesia if you think other posters haven't noticed.

FellatioNelson · 19/12/2011 17:55

I'm getting deja vu on this thread now....

She's not going to back down is she? Shall we just drop it now?

seeker · 19/12/2011 17:55

Did you actually read what I posted? No, of cours not. You wouldn't want the facts to cloud your judgement in any way!

Why are you here?

Pagwatch · 19/12/2011 17:57

Why are any of us here..

FellatioNelson · 19/12/2011 17:59
Everlong · 19/12/2011 17:59

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seeker · 19/12/2011 18:01

I was responding to the perennial myth about there being all sorts of people at private school. At no point did I attack anyone. I have never ever made personal attack on anyone, and I defy you to find a case where I have.

Are you I'm not allowed to express an opinion on private education?

Everlong · 19/12/2011 18:06

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wordfactory · 19/12/2011 18:07

Of course you are allowed an opinion, but is a thred where a parent is asking a perfectly reasonable question and may be worried, anxious even, the right place for that debate?

I think enough reasonable posters have stated their opinion that it is not.

But you seem to have convinced yourself seeker that you came to this thread to offer advice, so I suspect you won't be moved.

Self delusion is a wonderful thing.

seeker · 19/12/2011 18:10

I didn't realise initially that it was an exclusive thread! I'm wondering why my 4 words are being blamed for derailing the thread rather than whoever it was posted my life history in gory detail. She seems to be getting away scot free. How was that helpful to the OP?

seeker · 19/12/2011 18:13

Actually, I was coming on to be helpful. I know a lot about how difficult it can if your child does not go to the school that his or her neighbours go to. those of you who appear to be experts in my personal circumstances will know that I have posted frequently on that subject in the past.

ElaineReese · 19/12/2011 18:13

But it's like if someone said 'I'm thinking of buying a Range Rover Sport, will other road users treat me any differently?' and ten posters said no, not at all, you have to think about the best fit car for your lifestyle.... it's not unreasonable that someone might say 'well range rovers aren't very ecologically sound and actually a lot of people might respond differently to you'. The side of the debate which says yes yes, you're fine, it'll all be ok because all kinds of people drive range rover sports can surely be countered?

wordfactory · 19/12/2011 18:17

Oh come on it was perfectly clear that the op was seeking opinions and experiences from private school parents. It was even in the thread title.

You are making yourself look silly now.

You know and we all know that you saw the title and waded in. Like you always do.
I'd take a bet that you have posted on almost every thread that has anyhting whatsoever to do with private school. Regardless of what the OP wanted/needed.

Now you can either say you didn't realise that other posters found it rude/upsetting/annoying/unhelpful but accpet that's not good.
Or you can say, too bad, I don't give a shit.

But this suggestion that you came to this thread to help is utter nonsense.

ElaineReese · 19/12/2011 18:19

But isn't that what always happens on here? You get a thread saying 'not really an AIBU more of a WWYD really' and you can guarantee there'll be 357 posts saying 'YABU'! You can't proscribe responses like that.

wordfactory · 19/12/2011 18:23

No but this is an education board.
Parents should be able to come here and ask questions about education without having to be sneered at for their choice of school.

In theis OP the questions were very specific. Only someone with direct expereince could really answer. Trying to get involved for politcal reasons is so unfair.

It's got to a point now where a lot of us private school parents wpuld never dare post a problem. We know we would be hammered about how we pay for it.

seeker · 19/12/2011 18:32

Actually, re reading the op, I see that she really is asking specific private school questions. I picked up on the local school/ not so local school aspect. And I honestly didn't come on for a fight.

Unlike the poster who detailed my private life so very clearly.

Interested that nobody has linked to any of my famed rudeness yet!

wordfactory · 19/12/2011 18:40

seeker enoug of us are saying that we find your relentless posting on thesee threads daownright rude. Ypu're just choosing to ignore us.

I for one find it rude. And annoying. And pointless. And unfair.
And if I were to post ehre with a problem and you came oin to help I would find it very upsetting.

If you are expecting me to go through your history and link to your specific rudeness you will be waiting a long time. I have no intention. What would be the pint anyway? You will defend each and every comment. You will never accept that you are rude and upsetting even when other srae saying you are.

ElaineReese · 19/12/2011 18:41

But you seem to be saying now that it's rude just to post?

wordfactory · 19/12/2011 18:43

No.
I'm saying it is rude to come on every single thread pertaining to private schools simply to say something negative about them.

particularly when the poster is seeking specific advice and help.

How could it be otherwise? In which universe is that polite or helpful?

Toughasoldboots · 19/12/2011 19:22

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seeker · 19/12/2011 19:50

Ok. This thread. Who is the rudest person on this on this thread? Me? Or possible the person who posted extensively about the details of my life without checking that it was OK? The person who said they were sorry for my child? The person who called me names? The person who talked about my "genius pfb?"

Toughqsoldboots, I understand that. But could you at least give me an idea of what I said?

belledechocchipcookie · 19/12/2011 20:06

I would have said it wasn't you until you accused me of being a Daily Mail reader. It wasn't you. As I said above, the poster who wrote about your children was out of order. It was very unnecessary.

seeker · 19/12/2011 20:20

I'm delighted be in the company of someone who think "Daily Mail reader" is an insult! I suspect to most people on this thread it's merely a statement of fact.

belledechocchipcookie · 19/12/2011 20:25

It's a terrible newspaper, I can't understand how they get away with printing mysogynistic, racist, homophobic material. People on her do read it, unfortunatly, it's their choice though so who am I to criticise?

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