Sensitive one ebay sexual sale

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Looking for some constructive feedback if possible

I’m a long time lurker but just joined

Ok, as you can tell from my name I’m cabin crew. Over the years I’ve sold a few old uniforms, name badges, shoes and tights/stockings on eBay. Almost all sell to men and I know it’s for sexual pleasure for them but that really doesn’t bother me.

I’ve got a message tonight from a guy that bought some shoes off me a while ago saying he’d pay £200 or even more for another pair, if I include photos of me wearing them. Only have to show up to my thigh, so nothing identifiable.

The concept of doing this doesn’t bother me in the slightest, but I’m nervous about bringing it up with hubby because I don’t think he’d be keen.

To me it’s a stupid amount of money to turn down for showing less than I’d show on the beach, but is there any risk to me? I’m a private seller, can the buyer find my address etc? What’s the worst that could happen lol?

Anyone got any constructive input as to if I’m insane to do this or insane to turn the money away?

Customers can sometimes request a sellers address, for returns. Don’t do it.
He could get such photos online for free, he’s chosen you for a reason

@Timewasyesterday

Customers can sometimes request a sellers address, for returns. Don’t do it. He could get such photos online for free, he’s chosen you for a reason

Thanks, yea that’s a good points I think it’s a specific air hostess thing, doing the deed into a pair of heels that have been worn on board etc, I’ve heard the fantasy from several men so know it’s a thing, I think it’s innocent but am wary

Change your address on eBay for the time being if you can then do it.

Oooo that’s a good idea, hadn’t thought of that. I don’t really buy anything on eBay so won’t cause any issues there

Now just need to decide do I do it, and do I tell hubby lol if I do

Don’t do it. Furthermore I’d report him to eBay. He knows your user name, location if not exact address and has a means of contacting you. Why are you even considering this?!

£200 or more for sending someone a photo of my legs/feet and a pair of worn shoes isn’t a bad deal lol

But yea I get what you mean

Also how would you actually do the deal? You’d have to list a photo of yourself otherwise eBay could ban you. This means anyone could view and buy them. It’s just so weird!

I’d just list the shoes on eBay, let him buy them, and either print the pics and put them in the box or more likely just stick a memory card in the box with them on.

He ha sspecificed all he’d want to see is thigh down, so no risk of face etc.

Might bring it up with hubby and see what he says

So you’d list the shoes for £200 but actually send him shoes and photos?

I don’t think eBay wouldn’t protect you on this if anything went wrong.

Can’t see what would go wrong with the sale though?my concern would be him knowing my real name and address, which I think can be hidden.

If he gets his kicks out of a pair of my old heels and a pic of my legs/feet I have no objection to that, it’s more him identifying me that would concern me

Hang around OP, there's someone on MN who does this regularly. I can't remember her name though. She has regular customers and sells well worn shoes, sometimes with photos.

He will see your name on your PayPal account.

True, but he bought a pair of shoes off me before, about a year ago, and hasn’t caused any issues

You just said you didn’t want him to know your real name. Presuming he does, as he’s bought from you before, if he googled you what will he find? Are all your social media accounts locked down?

Things to think about if you’re seriously considering it.

I’m one of the few women my age who isn’t on any social media, literally none, and google won’t come back to me. I do have a Facebook account actually but it’s in my maiden name which is very different to my married name.

I think you should discuss with your husband.

@cece

I think you should discuss with your husband.

I think that’s the plan.

He knows I sell old uniforms and shoes etc so won’t take issue, I don’t think he’d be bothered at all about a guy wanting pics of me tbh, it’s more the fact he’s an unknown quantity that would concern him I think

£200 isn't a lot for your potential marital strife or a crazy stalker

Just mentioned it to hubby, he’s of the same view as me, £200 for doing nothing.

Yes there is a slight risk but the guy ha sbiught from me before without issue, the message is extremely polite and almost apologetic, and explains his reasons for wanting said pics (in summary he’s an old man and wouldn’t get this kind of thing in any other way)

I’m never home alone and hubby is more than capable of being strong if any issues, so will sleep on it but prob do it

(in summary he’s an old man and wouldn’t get this kind of thing in any other way)

So he says.

You’re clearly going to do this OP so I really
hope it works out well for you.

Ask if he will do the deal off ebay, he can send the money friends and family then he won't get you address details and you're not risking your ebay account (not sure if against the rules) x

@RosaBaby2 OP will be suspended from eBay for that kind of activity. If anything it also provides her with less protection.

I created an ebay and PayPal account with a new email not linked to anything else. It led me to create kik and i then sold my shoes privately through there and had money sent straight to my PayPal. Its more risk for him youll just nick his money but if youve bought from him before itll be fine. Go for it, i would.

Morning guys, hubby and I spoke about this last night and messaged the guy.

Basically we have zero need for the money but equally it would be daft to turn down £200 for doing virtually nothing.

Hubby messaged the guy and he replied and was very open about what he wanted the pics/shoes for. He also said he understood it may not be right with us so would be fine about it not happening. After a brief exchange the guy has sent us a copy of his passport and driving licence, so we know who he is and where he lives etc which all matches with eBay.

He’s nearly 250 miles away, so not local. We’ve agreed to do ti but o the condition that if there is anything untoward in future we’ll go to the police etc.

He has just sent me £200 using friends and family as he had PayPal address from when he bought from me before.

Hubby took pics of my feet/legs and has already emailed them to him, will post the shoes tomorrow.

There's been a few threads on here about sellers putting in false claims about not receiving the item or faults that were not there when the item was sold. Ebay nearly always sides with the buyer. I wouldn't sell on Ebay for this reason.

Once these pictures are in circulation, there is no way to stop it, if you are happy with an unknown number of men wanking off to your pictures then go ahead. Does he have any of your personal details already? Obviously you don't want a creepy stalker but also you don't want to risk your job for the sake of £200.