Thanks all for the replies, links and personal experiences.
First it looked like 'no no stay away', but a few of you have positive stories. Lots to take in and think about.
I just had another look on preloved and widened the search area, but there is absolutely nothing that I like. In my head I compare them to the China ones that are stunning.
momb thanks for the link, but it's too small. I'm a size 14-16. Big bust, which is 16, the rest 14.
tigertrainer I'll read through your link in a moment.
The thing is, the wedding is as small as it can get - only me, DP and our DS. Nobody knows that we are even getting married! We haven't told family or friends, only some know that we are going away on holiday, but they don't know about the wedding. (I have my reasons for this)
The plan is to get married, send everyone a special Christmas postcard from Lapland and then telling them the news, so a nice picture of me in a princess dress and DH and DS in matching suits would be fab.
It will be a one hour affair at our hotel in Lapland, some pictures in the snow afterwards and then dance in the hotel with the rest of the people staying there and Santa and the elves
. As long as it looks good, I'm not really fussed about quality.
So, with that in mind, shall I try a China dress? As I said, got time until December no rush for posting.