Anyone starting egg donation July/August?

[Leala20]

We maybe starting our egg donation treatment (first time) July/August and I thought maybe there’s anyone here that would like to join me. Ive found this forum very useful and supportive and thought I would reach out as I cannot believe it is so soon and getting a bit nervous. We had a year of rollercoaster of trying for many years to being finally told my amh is too low and I wouldn’t qualify for IVF. We did our research and found DCN very useful and are really excited about it.

Team donor.... I need your help.
To those who had gonapeptyl, how long did it last? I was hoping to get the other shite embryo out of the freezer before Xmas. BUT my consultant says I have to wait for my next period. That could be months and months away? I’m rapidly approaching 40 and I’m so upset and pissed off tonight that my chance at another go this year has just disappeared.

@tikha agreed, best way is to keep busy! Weirdly my easiest wait was the 2ww after transfer, and I think that was purely because I was busy, time flew.

@pleaseletitbeme what is gonapeptyl?
I was worried about waiting months for next AF (purely because my cycles aren't that reliable and all the meds from previous cycle messed it up even more), I was given tablets to take for 10 days to induce a period, so I can start another cycle. I was worried about asking the clinic at first as I didn't want to sound like an impatient nagger, but they were really understanding, I think it's common in a donor recipient situation to have the long wait for AF concern.

Just wanted to share as you’ve all been such a huge support, I got my BFP. Fingers crossed this one sticks, and that everyone still waiting gets successes really soon.

@Sunbird24 thats great news. Wishing you well for the first scan and all the way through.

@Sunbird24 wow that is amazing news. I am sending positive through a your way! We found out egg retrieval is Nov and transfer in Jan. Providing there is no lockdown..... x

*thoughts I meant ;-)

Congratulations Sunbird.
Hope everything goes ok.
Keep us posted. I especially need some hope.

@Sunbird24 great! Fingers crossed for you.

This cycle is dragging on forever. Coming off Norethisterone tomorrow, so hopefully AF by next week so I can start next cycle. Praying for no lockdown!!!
My clinic in Manchester have thankfully confirmed they are still open even when in tier 3. Phew.

How is everyone doing?

@Cleozeta all ok down south. I stop my progesterone tomorrow too. Just waiting for date for chris to do his bit....
And so glad it's Friday.
I know I should cut back on the booze but need a glass of something tonight!!

Have a lovely weekend all.

@Pingupp you might as well drink while you still can!! 😉😁

Does anyone know what the difference in treatment would be between a 1st cycle and a following FET?

Hi all, hope you’re doing well. I took some time off before transfer and after so wasn’t commenting. After the past experiences I decided not to take anything for granted and be very cautious. I got a bfp and was totally shocked as didn’t really expect it and now so super careful and worried about the hcg and then the first scan and not thinking beyond.
@ksusha20 @Sunbird24 congratulations to you and hope all goes well for you!
@Cleozeta and @tikha i hope all moves in the right direction now and once the cycle starts it flies. I was so surprised how time flew! My FET was very similar but they increased my progesterone and estrogen from the first time. Timing wise all was similar.

@Pingupp It’s exciting now you know the pathway and time will fly!

@Leala20 yay! Great news. Fingers crossed it continues!

My advice to all those with BFP's, (great we are getting so many now after all the failed first attempts - interestingly I've heard FET's are more likely to succeed) is to actually do the line comparison tests. I didn't want to do that last time as it can be really stressful, but what I didnt realise is that all the meds we take after transfer will mask any mc or chemical, as we will not bleed if it goes wrong. The progesterone stops that. So the only way to know if its progressing is to compare lines. If I'd have done that after my last transfer I'd have known a lot sooner that it hadn't stuck after the first BFP. It'll save all the trauma of turning up for a scan at 7 weeks to find it failed ages ago. Unfortunately in this situation, no bleeding doesn't mean all is fine.

Congratulations @Leala20! Hope you’ve got a sticky bean!

I know what you mean @Cleozeta, I think that’s why I haven’t said anything to my parents yet. I’ll do my official test from the clinic tomorrow and call them on Monday to arrange next steps according to that result.

I must admit, I'm surprised the clinics only provide one test as it must be fairly common for that to happen. Maybe they need to provide 2, and advise taking the second a week later to make sure it's still positive. My BFP line using the clinics test, on official test day was very strong, so there was no way of knowing with only one test that it would fail. I followed all procedures and time lines for testing etc, so it must be a fairly common thing. Then to turn up to a scan unaware is wasting my time and theirs. I think they should really advise a second test, or at least alert us that a mc or chemical will be masked by meds, so we can choose to test again with our own test. It would save a lot of wasted time and unnecessary false hope.

@Leala20 congrats. Again hoping for good progesston.

In regards to line testing. Its useful to a degree but after 5 weeks it just remains very dark and cant differentiate between 20000 or 100000 for eg. But in initial stages its useful for progression. I actually did quantitative testing as well. Best to use same test at same time.

@Cleozeta there is not much difference between cycles except its frozen as opposed to fresh transfer so they will have to thaw the embryo. Frozen ones takes longer to implant. So you may not get a bfp until 7 or 8 days post transfer.

Am still waiting but hopefully af arrives in 2 weeks. Hard to tell when and i dont have much hope at present for future cycles. But each day is different for me.

Progression.. typo earlier on

Thank you ladies. I am a bundle of nerves already as it feels so fragile at this moment. I will continue taking tests maybe the digital ones with weeks until scan. The clinic indeed only offers one blood test so will ask for another end of the week. It’s a waiting game as always.

@Leala20 the cb digital may not give consistent results one day it might say 3 weeks and next 2 to 3 weeks creating a lot of unnecessary stress. It is actually a threshold test basically picks up how dark it is and converts it to a range but the amlunt of bhcg produced can vary from day to day. You can chart progress with first response for a few days and maybe do cb digital later on.. the general trend is important but be prepared for spurious results and look up hook effect. Testing is ok as long as you get caveats. You could also ask the clinic to a blood test twice. I asked lwc to do it.

Congrats Sunbird24 and Leala20. Hope all other milestones will be successful as well :)

I agree with tikha multiple home testing does not bring any reliable information and only cause unnecessary anxiety and worry. Only scan is what matters.
I have got mad with testing myself. Did clearblue with week estimator at 4wks+6 , it came back as 2-3 weeks. Then i stupidly did another test on Friday expecting 3+ to show on monitor to match my term of 5wks +2 but instead i received the same 2-3 weeks. I felt sick of worry entire day and my husband was so upset with me. Then I realized that whatever it is I cannot do anything about it and just need to wait for a scan with no expectations but also get rid of negative thoughts that stupid test caused.

@ksusha20 I agree it can be really stressful, but with the amount of meds we are given, the only way of knowing its failed before scan is extra testing. 3 weeks is a long time to have false hope when it may have gone wrong ages ago. I have told myself off in previous pregnancies for doing stressful repeat tests, which is why I didn't do it this time, but this time I would have had a negative come back before the scan, so may have saved the upset of finding out there... Or would it? I just don't know, but all I do know is that our bodies will not tell us this time.
Maybe the answer is not to do the digital (I've heard they are not the most reliable for date accuracy) but to do line tests, not for comparison, but just to see if it's still positive?
To be honest, the whole process is always going to be stressful in the early days, whatever we do!

Not an expert but I think your test might be still showing up as positive for some time even if pregnancy did not progress.
All this is very stressful and we are all eager to have success. And each of us deserve to have a healthy happy pregnancy and so much wanted baby.
But I realized if i dont curb my anxiety and continue creating reality based on my worries and assumptions and not facts then I will feel miserable. I made a lot of mistakes with my previous pregnancy. Instead of enjoying these 6 months that my daughter was inside of me I was constantly feeling anxious, stressed. Of course all these feelings where justified since we end up loosing our daughter. But it does not change the fact that whether I was feeling stressed or not things happened the way they happened, and my pain from the loss would have be the same.

All of us has some negative experience on this journey and it is extremely hard to stop seeing the frames from our past. But to stay sane and and finally get this wanted healthy baby we have to disattach ourselves from this negative past experience.

@ksusha20 let's hope so. Lots of babies in 2021 🤞🏻 x

@ksusha20 I completely agree with you. I was so stressed in my last pregnancy too, convinced it was going to go wrong, which it did eventually, but I wish now that I'd enjoyed it more, as you say, the pain is the same. In some ways I think we feel we would lessen the pain if we have negative expectations, but as we have both found out the hard way, that is not the case.
Bring on the positivity. Maybe if we think positive, positive will happen....