Me and my wife are just beginning our journey to have a baby! As we both want to be involved we have opted for shared motherhood ( me,carrying my wife's egg, with doner sperm- this will involve us having ivf treatment) We have decided this so we are equally involved! Due to the lack of suitable sperm in this country we have been looking at the California Cryobank (we have found the PERFECT donor!) Just wondering if any other same sex couples have gone through the same treatment or have used the this sperm bank???
Any advise or help will be really appreciated
Thanks
J&D
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Jazsimone · 09/08/2018 13:54
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Nemo1189 ·
04/01/2019 15:40
You’re absolutely right, positivity is the main thing, I wish you nothing but nothing luck for your journey ladies. I will keep adding to this thread if ok with you, and I’d like to know your progress and how you both get on? It’s nice to find another same-sex couple going through the same as us. That’s not bad, I thought it may of been more. £1k off is never going to be a bad thing 
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Nemo1189 ·
04/01/2019 18:59
Everything crossed for you to ladies, baby buddies sounds good to me :D. The clinic have just phoned us, her blood levels are sky high so we aren’t having the hcg trigger tomorrow and they are changing it something else as they don’t want to increase her risk of OHSS. And it looks likely they’ll do a freeze all for the eggs on Monday and then a frozen transfer when her levels go down. What’s another 4 weeks wait when you’ve waited over a year 
. I’ll check back in on Monday, have a lovely weekend. 
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Nemo1189 ·
06/01/2019 01:38
Yes exactly it’s better to be safe than sorry. The PCOS doesn’t help matters either or her high amh level and number of follies 25 on right ovary and 24 on the left all measuring 18mm+ so she’s pretty packed in there. We had to go for another scan this morning her ovaries are now so big they are touching one another 
. They changed our trigger to Buserelin instead of the gonasi trigger, apparently much too risky to have hcg trigger when levels are so high. Anyway last injection done at exactly 10pm tonight and we are all set for Monday morning at 10am. Fingers crossed we get lots of good eggs that can be frozen ready for a FET in a few months. Disappointing to have to wait again, but my wife’s health comes first. I’ve never heard of drinking milk to stop over-stims, maybe something to look into? My wife can have the milk, I’ll stick to the 
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Nemo1189 ·
08/01/2019 16:59
They rang us this morning, 5 have fertilised with 2 coming up behind. They will us again tomorrow to let us know how they are getting on. Fingers crossed they all make it to Thursday so they can be frozen. It sounds like everything is going well for you both and you are right on track. Fingers crossed for you both.
Nemo1189 ·
13/01/2019 21:29
Sorry for the radio silence, all 5 eggs made it to freeze and are now on ice, thankfully. Just wondering how are you ladies getting on? Did you have egg collection yesterday?
Nemo1189 ·
14/01/2019 18:15
That was much the same for us, the wife felt like she was housing 2 birthing balls, I never knew you could feel your ovaries but she could! All is good over here just waiting to start our FET in a few weeks. Wife swollen tummy is going down, luckily we’ve avoided OHSS :-)! Ooo exciting one more shot tomorrow then your done! I bet your wife will be glad to see the back of them, although she’ll have to start those pessaries (beaver bullets) as we call them in our house fingers crossed all goes well for you both, looking forward to an update on how many eggies you manage to get! X
Nemo1189 ·
15/01/2019 01:59
Oh of course doh silly me! Well you have the pleasure of the beaver bullets then you lucky thing are you triggering with gonasi? We had to trigger with buserelin due to the risk of OHSS. Almost at the end of the tunnel ladies, wishing you all the luck in the world! x
Nemo1189 ·
16/01/2019 18:35
Wow! 33! Congrats that’s an amazing number, and I thought we had a lot with 21! I bet your clinic were so pleased with the number. I bet you’re both so nervous to know how many fertilised, will they ring you tomorrow to let you both know? Will you be having a fresh transfer? Looking likely it will be mid feb for our frozen transfer, the wife needs to have a period and then phone the clinic on the first day of it so we can get the medication delivered so looking at mid-feb for one of our little eggies to go back in. so pleased for you both! Looking forward to hearing an update
Nemo1189 ·
17/01/2019 17:56
Hey, wow amazing news! 11 is great fingers crossed they keep developing until transfer on Monday, 11 is a great number just in case you loose some before Monday you have plenty of little eggies to fall back on 
. Good luck for the transfer Monday, I bet you both are so excited. I bet they were pleased it’s a great number of eggs! Beaver bullets are certainly...something else . Yes, the wife is all ok back to her normal self, we are just ready to get one of our little eggies back on board. So much waiting around in this process. Love and best wishes to you both. 💜
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