#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided – all welcome! Thread #6

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

How did iui go pez?
How did blood test go karen?
I'm ok thanks lovely kwick 😊
Totally agree with everything above.... I think going in single shouldn't be squashed...yes it'll be difficult but as won't know anything else we wont have anything to compare it to. My whole life has been hard but I'm going to stop achieving things because they are hard.
I find it hard when it comes from people already with children because they (mostly) understand that total womb aching urge to be a mummy so are we not allowed to try because we don't happen to have a partner. One of my best friends was very negative about it yet her husband is rarely in on time, when he is he usually interrupts bedtime or does something to wind everyone up. I will say when bedtime is,set the boundaries.
I think the main reason I'd want someone else around is for when I'm poorly and need someone else to look after them but that isn't enough to shack up with some random

Ah snowdog hey hi, so pleased u have things booked... how exciting 😊

Pez it doesn't matter how long your surge lasts. It's all about the timing from the start of the surge. I think you are in the perfect time! So sit back, relax. If you haven't ovulated already you will in the next 12 hours and sperm will still be there waiting.

Hi snowdog. Best of luck to you on your journey! It's exciting that everything is right around the corner.

pickle I'll get my results tomorrow. Had some nausea this morning. Mild cramps. Exhausted. I'll feel better if the numbers have doubled. Of course I'm worried but all I want to do right now is sleep.

Ah it's all about waiting 🙄, hope u can get a good night sleep karen
I'm just watching pottery challenge from last night and then bedtime for me! So pleased it's the weekend just to not get up (well no alarm) at 6.30!!!!yay

Hi snowdog
That sounds positive. And maybe you can get a few days sightseeing in Prague too? I've heard it's lovely there

It went well Pickle, as far as an IUI can go. As one of my good friends said the other day, if an IUI was orgasmic women would have got rid of men from the planet a long time ago

Thanks for the reassurance Karen, the whole issue of timing is really getting on my nerves every month! At least I've just tested my surge out on a digital so I can now relax a bit more...
how annoying you have to wait another day for the results - I'll sleep with my toes crossed for you tonight x

Cherry any news from you? Have you been testing again today?

Hi snowdog, sounds like you have a good plan lined up

I'm glad it went well Pez and relax as stress won't be good for you. I hope you hae nothing planned this weekend and can just rest.
The line was darker this morning so I'm definitely pregnant. I'm just waiting to see if it's a sticky bean. My AF is due Monday and blood test with clinic Tuesday.
How's the TWOT treating you Hoping? Good luck with your results, Karen.
Suddenly realising that the torture of waiting doesn't end after the 2WW!

Spreading positive thoughts around to everyone.

That's great news cherry! Just another 9 months of waiting.....hope your dr appt goes well.

Great news cherry 💞

Glad to hear it went well pez when I think about timing I worry but I'm just pushing it to the back of my mind. I hope twot goes quick for you

God twot is dragging for me!!!! In my head I keep hearing that geordie bloke's voice from big brother saying ' day 3 past iui and time is dragging for hoping'

I'm started to get torn between wanting to know and scared of testing and having a chemical again :(

Kwick I love that thread and it cheered me up. Sorry work a bit shit. I'm totally off work, the never ending deadlines and stress I just don't want it anymore. I really hope they value you and come up with a better role fo you.

Thanks everyone for your messages. I absolutely know I want a child and I do know it's best to move up north. (Pez I'm in south London too). Spoke to mum again tonight we didn't refer to conversation yesterday but she started saying would have to be careful of x/y in case I was pregnant. I guess mums have wobbles as well as husbands / partners.

Pez I also love how your thread is still bubbling along x

Hello to everyone else and the various bits of good news about surges/ next steps with this journey
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Karen* good luck for results tomorrow x

Congrats Cherry!

Smoothie is essentially: half tsp cayenne powder, half tsp cinnamon, pineapple, lots of kale, tblsp peanut butter, banana, blueberries, coconut water, full fat Greek yogurt, half tblsp coconut oil, avacado, half tblsp chia seeds.

pez we certainly do not have that type of behaviour in North London!!!

Best of luck for TWOT!

Hello again snowdoggy! 65% is amazeballs!! Are you still in the US? How are you finding things?

pickle with that Pottery thing am I the only one that finds Cait REALLY annoying?!

cherry 🤞🏼for a sticky bean!!!

karen I really really hope you get good news today. 🍀

Um stork what is the taste like?

I went to my cousins last night - first time I have seen her since MC and it was so good to talk with her. Only person I know IRL that has done IUI and IVF and also had a MC. So next steps for moi that are now forming after last night:

• see what £900 blood tests say (I nearly fell off my chair when I saw the bill yesterday) and what CRGH consultant recommends
• explore using IVI in Spain - information is power
• ditch the online CBT which has caused me additional stress and feelings of being overwhelmed and seek bereavement/infertility counselling
• think more about using a donor egg
• look at all the positives - I have got pregnant TWICE and it looks like less drugs work better on me than more

Lol pez I'm quite grateful it's doesn't cause an orgasm 😳think would be even more embarrassing. Glad all went ok....maybe just focus on what you'd do for ivf and reverse psychology ur body during the tww(whilst hopefully not actually needing to ever put in place but I find organising helps relax me!)
Ooh cherry that's fab, hope ur blood test goes well on Tuesday
karen keeping fingers crossed for yours today.

£900(!!!!!) fxxk me that's another iui cost but hopefully will be worth it if can tell u anything to help maintain pregnancy
Ah kwick yeh can't stand her,she never really does great either just skims on by while some good people have gone.
Glad you were able to chat with your counsin sounds like you have some good outcomes and things to look into
I was awake for 3hours last night with nausea, hate it cos u wonder whether you'll come down with some vile sickness bug, kept thinking maybe in a few months I'll have to put up with this loads but at least it would be for a worthy cause not just to lose weight in a really vile way. Feel ok at the mo, I was so looking forward to having a lovely sleep doh

Beta hcg doubled so that's good. Lying awake worried because my puppy hurt herself playing with my other dog. Such sad screaming. Fingers crossed she just pulled something in her leg and with some rest I hope she starts feeling better.

kwick those are some expensive tests! I'm glad you have a plan for immediate future. Good to figure out your options. X

hoping fingers crossed for you!

Karen wow you got those results early! Fantastic news hurrah 😀

is your dog ok? I know what you mean whenever Sophie hurts herself she runs to me to take the pain away and it breaks my heart

Yayyyy karen so pleased the blood tests were good 😊
😔Sorry to hear molly is hurt,hope she feels better soon x

hoping with the lab here I can look up my results on line. No waiting for the doctor!

Really should not be awake at 3:30am. Just took Molly outside and she is a bit better. Hopefully just pulled something in her front leg. It's only been six hours.....hate being a vet and having my own dog hurt. Too many things go through my head. But it is handy that I can rush to the clinic and get her pain meds.

Is it weird my beta doubled almost exactly? I feel like on line you see people whose numbers more than double. I know that as long as I goes up but 60% in 48 hrs they say it's good. I just seem to be in worried mood and over analyzing.

Ah yes! I love it when I go to bed early and wake up to some good news on the thread!

Karen I'm so so pleased for you that everything is on track, is your early pregnancy scan booked already? Hope there's nothing serious with your puppy though

Cherry, fingers crossed the line keeps on getting darker!

Kwick, I love reading how you are planning things again and you're right, ditch that bloody CBT if it makes you feel miserable. I really hope those excruciatingly expensive blood tests give you proper answers to help with your decision making.

Pickle, what is that pottery programme, I need to watch it!! I still haven't connected my sky dish so I rely on catch up TV on my smart TV. It means I don't see any ads so the dish might stay in the shed for another while...

Stork, that smoothie looks like it's made of all the food I eat but I'm not convinced about mixing them all together I'm also not a big fan of smoothie so that's probably why...

My temp was up this morning so I have ovulated and within the times! Yay! Swimmers and egg would have met during my sleep if they did meet...

I'll give it a few days and book my ivf cycle to get my back up plan in place...

kwick its fruity deliciousness! Deffo a great way to eat the cayenne!

Also your plan sounds eminently sensible.

Karen, don't worry I'm pretty sure doubling is more than enough!! The issue would be if it wasn't increasing or increasing very slowly. Try and get a bit more sleep and look after the little bean

Wow that's fab you can look up online,saves some of the waiting.... on Google says usually doubles every 48-72hours but looking at chart below these values vary so so much. Try not to worry too much sweet.
There must be so much going through ur head I'm not surprised ur awake

pez my temps are going up so presume ovulation occurred-not sure how quick after it's meant to go up but least it's going up 😊

Pickle, was your opk+ on 27th? If so I think you could draw your coverline at 36.5. Your temps should stay above that cover line during the whole luteal phase.
There's a bit of a dip on Thursday but it could just that be you took your temp earlier that day.
You can use this temp adjusting calculator with caution (i.e. Not everyday)
whenmybaby.com/basalbodytemperature.php

This is how I know I've ovulated

I meant opk+ on 26th sorry

Opk+ was 27th.
Yes I woke up very cold on Thursday morning. I will have a look at the link. Thanks 😊