Hi ladies,
I, think thats a safe soubriquet , i am your hated male, but please here me out, I have come to the prainfull decission that after more than 50 years i must close the door on my life with the woman i love, but no longer like, and i know she feels the same , l
Havnt shared any of this with freinds or my children,and to talk to numerous people who i will never meet seems sort of liberating.
Why are we here? So from my perspective.
I have never been unfaithfull, mentaly or phsically abusive to my wife.
This is the problem, i had a workplace relationship with my boss, she was 30, i was 69 at the time, she turned out to be my best friend, we just "clicked",same sense of humour, same work ethic, she looked to me as her "work dad" and we talked about family things, bills, house improvements, the little one's school ( bullying for a while) she was happily married, with a daughter, in fact it was at times boring to how great her husband was.
There was no sexuel attraction on either side, we were really good friends. She was a toucy feely sort of person, and would tell people at work ( about 17 people) "luv u" (except one mechanic, she didnt like) and give them a hug
Sorry for such a long post but if youve got this far. TA DA the problem started 2.5 years ago from a stupid whatsapp message, to say she wouldnt be to work because her daught was in hospital, i sent back ok dont worry its ok, return messagse,
Thanks luv u, i sent give (childs name) a hug luv u.
My wife subsequently broke into my phone and picked up out of all messages sent between us 95% work related, the two single occaissions where luv, NOT LOVE, was mentioned, I dont understand how a wife of 50 years could suspect that a woman of 30 could be sexually attracted to a man 68 at the time. I subsequently found out she sent really horrendous, and abusive messages, from my account to her.
I had to face this poor woman the following day, and do you know what she did, she'd obviously been crying, even at 8.00 am, and gave me a hug, and said "its ok" . I resigned from a job i loved, to make peace to noavail, she moved away, for another job. And after all this time, between periods of silence this still rears its ugly head.
I expect neither castigation, nor condolance,at least not here.However if that comes so be it, but to those who cast those stones, do not transfer your bad experience of men to all, we're not all bad.
I make this post, not to gender any sort of justification for my decision, it is made.
But what i would say to all you Ladies is, it takes 2 to fall in love50/50, it takes 2 to make a baby 50/50, one cock up 90/10 does he deserve another go? If he was abusive in any way........... any way, kick him in to the long grass.
Sorry this has gone on so long, hav'nt been able to express this to anyone, quite cathartic, because i will never know who reads this and my anonimity to some extent is safe
Live your life as you would wish, and never regret what has passed.
Regards Mike