Ex is having a laugh

[Munchkinjack]

This divorce offer sucks. Ex who left me and the family home and shacked up with another only offered 60/40 of assets to me .. and half his pension .. how's that fair when I have 2 DS to house (19&22)?? 20 years we have been together!!

This. It seems like a reasonable offer tbh.

Your kids are adults, you got a good offer why dont you move on with your life.
20 years have gone dont let him have a moment more of your time or energy.

I don't want to accept it I'll make him wait . Why should he always call the shots . The kids won't pay rent prob not.

They’re adults

Oh wow OP your responses are awful. Ultimately there are currently 3 of you to house so that is not a fair offer. Do not accept it. I hope you have a solicitor who is fighting for you. If not you’ll need to fight as hard as you can to get the absolute most that you can to house you all. Good luck! It can be done.

Hard facts, he does not have a responsibility to house your 22 year old if he is not his biological father. Both of your "kids" are now adults and even if they need to live with you (which isn't a given), they don't get to choose not to pay rent. The offer seems fair and you will gain nothing by waiting and actually risk costing yourself money and ending up in a worse financial position if you let the courts decide the split of assets in this case.

I don’t believe you actually think you are being reasonable here. You are being difficult because he has left you and is with someone else.

You will not get want to you want, and will likely end up with even less than has been offered if you continue.

I'd suggest seeing a solicitor (I am one) but based on the info you have given you could be entitled to more based on his income (and therefore mortgage cap) being higher.

What, ask for less?

100% this. Not sure what planet @NiftyGreenBiscuit is on.

You'll eat away at any settlement by getting solicitors involved, they'll be the only winners in that scenario.

I divorced when our DD was 7. I got 50% of assets excluding pension. I could probably have got more but I'm wasn't interested in screwing him for every penny because I wanted to walk away with dignity. I worked full time to raise my daughter and support myself.

Grown adults living at home can't just expect not to pay rent, you're not exactly setting them up for success there.

with a 19 and 22 year old to house. two adults then? Best they go out and get jobs then

He’s certainly not responsible for the 22 year old who isn’t his.

And yes, adult children should be paying rent if they’re earning. And if they’re not earning, then they should be.

More . . .

Based on ops manner and responses it’s unsurprising that her husband is seeking divorce

op what do you think is a fair offer then? You run the very real risk that by going to court to actually get less than current offer.

and a judge won’t factor in your adult children at all

I would really suggest you see a solicitor, even if you can do a free 30 mins. A lot of misinformation on this thread.

What advice will she get from a solicitor in 30 minutes that isn't being paid for??

1.Legal advice needed to ascertain if this settlement offer is adviseable.2.I dont think adult childrens housing will be factored into this unless ?in fulltime education?

Lots of solicitors offer free preliminary advice on matters such as this. I can usually quite easily predict the outcome of a financial remedy within 30 mins.

When I went to school 60% of something was larger than 40% of something.

I know that was a long time ago, but I can't imagine it has changed.

Yeah same for me. Maybe it’s Trump maths.

A judge might give you 50:50 on the house and say you have to share your pension with him as well...

Sorry.. if they are working adults, why would they not be paying rent.. if studying they should be working part-time and still be able to contribute.

Opening line a bit uncalled for - you can give advice without the personal insults when you have no idea what OP's reason for divorce is?

Your ex isnt the one having a laugh. 60/40 to you is a very fair offer without 50% of his pension. Including it you are getting an excellent deal. What exactly were you hoping for?

At 19 & 20 they are adults, not children. He no longer has a legal obligation to house them (nor do you).

You will need to cut your cloth and your sons will need to contribute or find their own places.

So what do you think he should giving you?

Is he the father of your youngest?

Millions???

Haha