Ex is having a laugh

[Munchkinjack]

This divorce offer sucks. Ex who left me and the family home and shacked up with another only offered 60/40 of assets to me .. and half his pension .. how's that fair when I have 2 DS to house (19&22)?? 20 years we have been together!!

It's a negotiation- go back with 40/60 . . .

60 pc of assets and 50pc of pension is very fair your kids are grown so now time to look to yourself for future financial income

If you have only been together 20 years is he the father of your two sons? At 19 and 22 you won’t be obliged to house them much longer, if at all - I think you are getting a very generous divorce offer

What is unreasonable about that ?

What were you hoping for?

I think that’s a very generous offer. Have you been working?

Presumably he is not the father of your 22 year old?

He’s not responsible for adult offspring particularly if they’re not his…

Your dcs are adults. Unless they are in full time HE or have special needs, they shouldn't need much financial support.

How old are you? Are you working? What split were you expecting?

He’s offered you 60% and half his pension? Take it!

Another one says take it before be changes his mind.. what did you think you were going to get?

yep, take it before he changes his mind.

What were you hoping for just out of curiosity?

Haha. Take it. Fgs. Not unreasonable

Sounds good, why do you feel entitled to more?

The grown men can house themselves or live with their fathers, there's no obligation for you to do it.

Why do you think you’re entitled to more ?

Seems ok.

Do you get 40 or 60? If 60, bite his hand off. If 40, go back and ask for 60 (and maybe settle at 50). 60 is a very good/fair offer as your kids are grown up and you presumably work full time.

60% to you? Go for it!

Yes he is over offering as the children are adults.

That's very fair, What's the issue?

How is it unfair when you got more than half and your children are adults?

Are you the 60 or the 40? 60% of assets plus 50% of the pension is probably a fair offer.

Go back with YOU getting 60%, him 40%. It will probably end up being 50/50 since your children are adults but he’s having a laugh thinking that you’ll accept 40% after 20 years.

Assuming it's the 60% as OP wrote that's his offer to her, and half his pension.
Are you splitting your pension too OP?

@Shitmonger
He appears to have supported her now 22 year old for 20 years.