Contemplating divorcing DH. 6 years of infidelity.
We decided together that I would be a SAHM, his job requires long hours but pays well (salary around £500k, likely to increase significantly in the next few years). Important to add (before someone comes along to start SAHM bashing), I very much wanted to stay home with the children, I have treasured the time with them despite how tough and lonely it can be. I believe we made the best choice for our family.
Married 8 years, with 2 DC. I am hopeful we can remain amicable, despite being a shit husband, he is a good father and cares deeply for his children (with the obvious exception of cheating).
Our assets are relatively small in comparison to his earnings but it could be financially possible for me to stay in the family home with DC, minimising the change to school and home life.
Spousal maintenance - I understand that this is a rare now but considering his earnings and my situation, is that up for discussion? 8 years is not that long. But SM for a period would allow me to find suitable employment. I say suitable because his job is so demanding that I would still be the primary carer, any job I take would need to fit around the children’s lives. We could put them into wraparound care 5 days a week but he is strongly against that (as am I). He still wants me to be a ‘hands on’ (for lack of a better term) Mum, so if he wants that and earns that much money then surely he will need to make up for the shortfall in my earning potential?
At what point should I be finding a job? I read on a thread here that you should wait until the divorce is finalised because it could negatively impact the settlement.