Me and my ex separated last year as I found out he’d been seeing a co-worker. It’s been a bit up and down and up until recently we’d been getting on, that was until he decided to start bringing the affair partner round where I live and prioritizing her over our son.
My ex still sees our son, we have a schedule where he sees him every other weekend and then 2 days in the week for 4hrs in total. I have found out he has been palming him off during his time to his brother or mum so he can go pub, which is annoying but it’s his time I guess.
Anyway, I mentioned to him the other day I was considering moving. Might I add not far, an hour max due to a potential job. I just feel I need a fresh start. He is not happy and basically said he’s taking me court.
I honestly don’t understand it. He drives an hour to the affair partners most days and only comes over this way when he has our son, who he has at his mums. He hasn’t sorted another place to live as I guess he’s up there all the time, so hasn’t needed to. He also won’t be moving anytime soon if he could, as he’s in massive debt. He’s recently had bailiffs after him, he’s in arrears with the car and had a massive credit card debt.
Hes tried guilt tripping me saying your taking my son away, but in my eyes I just think, hang on, you’ve moved over there? Yet I can’t move and have to stay here because it suits you. I’m not stopping contact and it’s his choice to keep staying at the affair partners. If he stayed at his mums like he said he was going to, he’d have about half hour drive if I was to move. I’m really not going far as my family’s in the area.
Am I being unreasonable? I just feel like he’s dictating my life, yet he can do as he pleases.