My husband of 10 yrs (together for 17), 2 children, left on Good Friday. He had been depressed, had been short tempered for months and months, no time for the children, the house had become toxic. He told me he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t want ‘us’. He refused to get any help, despite me making doctors appointments etc. He moved to a friend’s house. I was devastated and still am. I thought that maybe in time and with some space, things would change, but they didn’t. I begged him to come home, tried to convince him that we’d make things better, but he had no interest. He didn’t want to try. I wasn’t part of his decision making. He just left. He told me he couldn’t see things getting better. He said he felt unloved, our children’s behaviour had caused huge problems and work was stressful for him. He told me ‘I just had to do what was best for me’.
3 weeks after leaving, I found out he had been on a date with a girl from work. He would have kept this quiet if I hadn’t had access to his emails and spotted cinema tickets. He betrayed me in the worst possible way. My whole world just feels like it has been turned upside down.
Of course, I have sent plenty of angry texts, wondering what other lies he has told and why he has just ‘thrown’ me away after all this time, like I never existed. It’s heartbreaking and I honestly can’t see how this feeling will ever go away.
What frustrates (and angers!) me, is that he tells me I have never given him space and have bombarded him with texts every day.
What did he expect me to do? Accept all this and move on? I’m distraught but I still don’t think he has ever fully taken my feelings into consideration.
Yes he’s depressed, but surely he got what he wanted? No me, no kids to look after 24/7, the life of a single man! A new woman-10 years younger than me and probably getting lots of S! It actually breaks my heart knowing that he’ll be doing things with her. I hate it.
I feel completely broken.