Hi all I really need some advice. I’m gearing up to leave my abusive husband. We have one child together and I’m hoping be out by the end of the week but I am petrified.
I’ve been subject to emotional, psychological and financial abuse over the last 7 years.
I’m in the middle of a degree and just started a new placement which I’m finding hard and has brought it all to a head. I’ve been receiving support from women’s aid and I have the live fear free number for refuge but I don’t think it’s an option as it’s £300 a week as I’m employed. I know I can make myself homeless and go into temporary accommodation and I’m strongly considering this but I don’t know where to go. I’m isolated and several hundreds of miles away from family and don’t know whether to go into temporary accommodation up there or try stay down here and finish the course (18 months left). I do have friends here who have some idea of what’s going on but no one I can stay with. He plays on his mental health to get me to stay and says he feels su*cidal. Like the last few days he can tell I’m off because I’m planning to leave and he’s ramping it up again.
I don’t feel safe having a conversation with him about leaving before I go as when I found evidence of another woman being in our bedroom (clothing) he lost his mind and was inches away from my face shouting and turning it all on me. He did this before too when I caught him out trying to cheat on me with a workmate.
I’m just really scared and anxious and just wanted to know if it will get better and what to do? Family or degree? I don’t want to rip little one away from their dad but I’ve been so depressed with all of this I’m at breaking point.