Son's dad has started to reduce how much he sees him

[Forgetmenot51]

Just looking for advice on how to deal with this.
My son is almost 5 and has Autism. He usually sees his dad for 2 to 3 nights at the weekend.
His dad used to get him either on a Friday evening or a Saturday morning and have him the rest of the weekend.
In the last month he has started taking him much less, like a day less than he used to and he's also being very vague about times and when he is taking him.
I have got used to the break and also am able to have my own life while my son is away. I am usually burnt out by the time he goes to his dads and end up just resting.
To have this free time drastically reduced is so hard to accept, yet I know I can't make or force his dad to see him.
His dad knows I need the break and is using it as a way to get to me by not taking him as much so l feel he's doing it out of spite. He could possibly be seeing someone as well, not sure.
I text every weekend and ask is he taking him and get vague answers back and I'm never given a time as to when he will be picking him up. It's always me asking and getting in touch with him. What should I do? I'm torn because apart from my son's school, I don't have any other respite other than his dad amd I hate relying on him like this. My parents are elderly so can't help out .

Is he now in a new relationship?

I genuinely never understand why people have an every week end arrangement, I can’t see how it works for anyone.

I think this is actually the underlying motive.

OP thinks her ex is wanting to date, and it's rubbed her up the wrong way. He probably is, and generally needs one weekend night to do so... And he currently has the child every single Fri, Sat and Sun night.

Now he's reduced it to every single Saturday and Sunday night.

OP's thread starts, with her shock that whilst he works full time and she works zero, that he is "only" having their child 3 nights a week, compared to her 4(!) and that she is unhappy that he might drop to 2, in the name of tiredness. However, she then later reveals that if she loses children time at the weekends, when can she go out and date? So it would seem she wants DS out of the way to facilitate that. When, even on the reduced timetable, she has from Sat 5pm to Mon 2pm entirely child free, plus every subsequent day when he's at school.

It seems that OP suspects the ex has met someone, and OP is not happy that she hasn't yet, so wants to hinder the ex, whilst optimising her chances.

I don't doubt that OP is tired. The ex is probably more so. However, I think the driving force is jealousy.

I was waiting for this. It was so obvious from the first post but the details took a while to trickle through.

Essentially, you are complaining that a parent who works full time has recently reduced the number of days they provide childcare from 3 days to 2 days a week? A parent who presumably you receive child maintenance from on a regular basis? You're complaining that you don't get any downtime.

I think I understand why this guy is resentful and why he's reduced the time he is sharing childcare with you and it's got nothing to do with you choosing to leave the marriage or him being spiteful. He's probably exhausted because he never gets a day off whilst you were getting 3 days off.

I think you need to firmly remove your head from your backside and start thinking about people other than yourself.