Child contact help

[MaryQ89]

Hello
Looking for advice
Have put in agreement DH to have children
every second Sat night and Sunday all day till tea time. Collect after Sat activities 2ish or in am if not on.

2 week in summer. Half other hols.

And flexible to other arrangements as agreed in between.

He had never been able to commit with job to collect from childcare by 6pm in our relationship therefore I don’t want to add a must have on set day in week now if he can’t commit. He also lives 1 hour away now.

Does this seem reasonable? I fear his lawyer will say it’s not enough access?

Any advice appreciated.

Thx

On the odd occasion ExDP has been called into work on his time off (don’t get me started) his parents have had D.C. (they live round the corner from him) and I have no issue with that (I still meet up with his Mum from time to time, she’s lovely).

Wouldn’t be so keen on them being in childcare. DD2 has ADHD and wouldn’t cope well.

He’s never once asked where the kids will go after school or booked anything for them or how much it costs.

That's because you took control of it.

He's an adult. Time for him to step up and parent his children himself including sorting out childcare when necessary.

You haven't said how old your children are but if they are over 5 they would be able to give him an idea of where they normally go and make it clear to him what they don't like.

Remember your job is to offer contact, his job is to be an adult and parent his children in that contact time.

Also be aware there are steps you can take if you have offered contact, he consistently doesn't turn up and/or changes times. However first you have to wait to see if he messes up.