My 12 year old sons mother has told him that he has ADHD and is that he is Autistic, her parents have also told him.
However he does not have ADHD and is not Autistic. It looks to be a type of child abuse called Fabricated Illness by Proxy. I have been working with his GP to get Social Services involved, his mother has been falsely stating to people for the last few years that my son has these conditions, however this week was the first time she has told him.
Any advice please on how I should approach it with my son? I have explained the situation as clearly as I can to him and confirmed that he does not have ADHD or Autism, but I don’t know whether to talk about it with him more or just let him come to me if he is worried about it.
Thank you
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Son’s mother telling him he is ill when he’s not
Dylan222 · 02/03/2023 23:23
welshpolarbear · 03/03/2023 08:58
I can completely imagine your exs side if she'd posted here.
"My son is showing many signs of adhd and/autism but the school are denying him formal tests and disagree with me. It's so stressful because as his Mum I can see signs all day every day.
On top of that my batshit ex has now reported me to social services for FII. He won't entertain the idea his child could have these neuro diversities. It's so stressful as I just desperately won't someone to listen and get him some help"
Dylan222 · 03/03/2023 08:01
Thank you for your message, my sons schools Senco has stated that she is absolutely certain that my son is not Autistic, and his school have stated to Cafcass during a recent custody hearing that they do not think he meets the criteria for ASD, and that they are not providing any additional help to him in school.
ZeroFuchsGiven · 03/03/2023 09:08
OP I'm not sure why you've been piled on in this thread tbh
Its because he has a penis, Dads rarely get help and support the same way a mother would on here. The replies would be totally different if the sexes were reversed.
lifeturnsonadime · 03/03/2023 09:07
My children's senco's laughed in face when I said I thought my son could be autistic ! He was subsequently diagnosed by a multi disciplinary panel.
School are not qualified to diagnose. It is in their interests often for there not to be a diagnosis as it costs them more and they have to work more.
Your poor wife and child.
Dylan222 · 03/03/2023 08:01
Thank you for your message, my sons schools Senco has stated that she is absolutely certain that my son is not Autistic, and his school have stated to Cafcass during a recent custody hearing that they do not think he meets the criteria for ASD, and that they are not providing any additional help to him in school.
lifeturnsonadime · 03/03/2023 09:11
No it's because rather than actually getting his child assessed he appears to have some form of vendetta against his wife and is accusing her of fabricating illness.
The only way anyone can know for sure is if the child is assessed.
He will harm his child by accusing the mother he will not harm the child by supporting an assessment.
ZeroFuchsGiven · 03/03/2023 09:08
OP I'm not sure why you've been piled on in this thread tbh
Its because he has a penis, Dads rarely get help and support the same way a mother would on here. The replies would be totally different if the sexes were reversed.
lifeturnsonadime · 03/03/2023 09:11
No it's because rather than actually getting his child assessed he appears to have some form of vendetta against his wife and is accusing her of fabricating illness.
The only way anyone can know for sure is if the child is assessed.
He will harm his child by accusing the mother he will not harm the child by supporting an assessment.
ZeroFuchsGiven · 03/03/2023 09:08
OP I'm not sure why you've been piled on in this thread tbh
Its because he has a penis, Dads rarely get help and support the same way a mother would on here. The replies would be totally different if the sexes were reversed.
Dylan222 · 03/03/2023 08:01
Thank you for your message, my sons schools Senco has stated that she is absolutely certain that my son is not Autistic, and his school have stated to Cafcass during a recent custody hearing that they do not think he meets the criteria for ASD, and that they are not providing any additional help to him in school.
FuchsAndMöhr · 03/03/2023 09:12
Yet another MN example of replies that would be completely opposite should the OP be the mum 🙄
This place gets worse!
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