Help - am I going mad? I feel like I'm being emotionally abused for being a bad dad

[Cumbria1978]

Hello, yes first post and I'm sure going to be directed to something existing on here... Which is great if so.

It's 4am and I've not slept yet tonight. Not because of our beautiful baby, but the thoughts running through my head of the continual put downs and criticisms I face from my wife.

I'm not sure if she's gaslighting or if I'm genuinely a terrible dad/husband/person, but without going too deep my whole world (personal and professional) is dedicated to serving others before me.

I work relentlessly and want to do my best in every moment I have outside this to meet my 4 month old daughter and wife's needs (have been together 11 years, I'm 39). Why am I getting it so wron

Can anyone share a view, whether telling me they empathise or to man up or otherwise.

Original poster here.

Thanks again for the kind supportive words and to the negative anti-men people out there, it's water off a ducks back. I imagine your position has been shaped by the very common and your own difficult circumstances and treatment from men, and I'm sorry for that, but I assure you I'm not one of the type.l that you one to pigeon hole into.

We're in a much better place. My wife and I have talked more, she has accepted some things, in fact I'd say she's changed, and I have been more flexible and patient.

Baby is the best thing in the world to both of us, were very lucky.

Be kind to eachother