What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

I've just seen this thread and cannot offer anything helpful other than sending you a big hug.

Thinking of you today, hope everything’s ok

Hiya cindbelly .
She was meant to be at probation today. She didn't go. Instead her and her girlfriend come here. Eat coco pops , go upstairs and smoked weed! My house stank. Then I'm going bonkers at them both.
Everything is my fault. I favour her sister apparently. Because I helped her sister get a job.
So me helping her with a cv, applying for jobs, sorting interviews that she never attended.....
I spoke to her social worker today who told me off . She knows what I have done to support that girl.
I chatted to a friend today and voiced the opinion that my daughter is emotionally abusing me, borderline gaslighting me. But because I know she is I can deal with it .
I asked her the other day to go town with me on Tuesday , Christmas shopping. Just the 2 of us. I would love her to, have lunch, girlie day. Then she's horrible and hurtful to me , then the girlfriend joins in and I'm thinking why should I bother.

Sat in a&e she's been in a car crash with fuck wit

Oh god, she’s putting you through the wringer 😢

Jesus -- what a shock for you. Have you had any information about how they are?

Hi Drinks,

Very unmumsnetty hugs for you, I've just read the whole thread and wanted to say how much of an amazing woman you are. I hope your daughter is okay and hope you have some irl support with you

Got her home. The car skidded on ice hit a lamp post and wall. She wasn't wearing a seat belt. She was rushed to a trauma hospital, head injuries and shock. This was about 8pm. Neither the police or the hospital informed me. The girlfriend did. She had been taken to a different hospital. I then had to phone my dad as my partner had a drink. Got to resus and , blood everywhere. All down the side of her face cut open, head, ear, shoulder. No loc. GCS 15 . Dosed up on morphine. Got discharged at 2am. Monitor at home , take to local hospital if any problems. Called in Work. Meant to be on a 14 hr shift. I'm just glad she's ok. I had horrors going through my mind. Working in icu , I see the worst of the worst and was scared I would be one of those families.
She says they only went Mac Donald's for chicken nuggets. She had a milkshake, took her seat belt off to put it in a cup holder behind her when it happened.
Cup of tea, shot of brandy then I need my bed.

Bloody hell drinks. Just looked at my phone and seen this. Glad she is okay. And hope you are too. Brandy and a good nights sleep sounds just what you need. At least you can relax a bit knowing she is at home.
I don't know what to say! I wish I had some cheery anecdote for you, but that would be pointless.
You are amazing. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It might not seem much but remember is MNers are always here for a chat or a cry or a rant xxx

*us

I’m amazed you’re still standing and coherent with everything she’s put you through.

Drinks you're going above and beyond what some mothers would ever do. Hope she gets her head on straight and starts working on getting clean for good.

It's amazing that mners get such bad press for being horrible and I've found everyone so supportive.
Thanks for the hand holds last night.
Her face is even worse in the cold light of day. Chunks of skin missing. Dried blood but everything hurts too much to clean it off

Oh Drinks. Poor you and poor DD. Can you clean it up? Salt water or dettol? How is she? Is she apologetic? Regretful?

I imagine she needs lots of tea and toast and mum hugs.

It's too sore to clean and the cuts keep opening up and bleeding

Oh my goodness Drinks. I’ve kept up with this thread but didn’t think I could say anything helpful. Now you just need hugs and a round of applause! I don’t know how you are managing what you are doing. This would tip me over the edge. I’m sure that one day your daughter will wake up and realise everything that you have done for her, even if she in entirely ungrateful at the moment. Over the thread there have been times when she seemed to realise but the girlfriend and the stupid behaviour then gets in the way. One day she will grow up and realise that you have pretty much been the definition of unconditional love. You are amazing. Do you feel like you are looking after yourself? By that I mean keeping well, talking to people, not getting ill with the stress? Xx

I sometimes feel that I'm boring people with it, but I have an amazing support network of friends . Also the support on here is amazing too

Hi drinks,

I just wanted to tell you how incredible you are. You’re a wonderful mum and your daughter is very lucky to have you, one day she’ll realise that.

Take care

Wow lass. Going through the ringer indeed. I hope she heals quickly and well!

Lol at “boring people”.

Boring is the last word to describe everything you both have been through.

Drinks I've been following your thread, but I had nothing constructive to add until now so I just lurked.

Is she ok? Also how are you? Please take care of yourself as you feeling rotten will help noone.

Aaah, the thread didn't refresh so I look like a right pillock.

Regardless, how are you?

Bless you cheshirecat.
I've got bandy and chocolate peanuts.
I get what your say whowants2know. But everyday is the same.

She's going back to a&e. To have chunks of glass dug out of her face. You can actually feel it under her skin. How the bloody hell did they miss that! I'm fuming. The wounds were starting to heal and now will need to be reopened.

Drinks They may have missed the glass because her face was too swollen or the glass was deep and has just come to the surface. I injured my hand and arm on a glass door which shattered and had an operation to remove the glass. However there was still glass coming to the surface as long as a year after the accident/operation.