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What to take to prison

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drinkswineoutofamug · 18/01/2017 21:38

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 13/03/2017 17:00

Just come back from a visit. She's ok. She's had a hospital appointment and the consultant has increased her meds. But she's still waiting for the medics to give her the dose. They have taken her off the other pills. As they were messing with her head. She's doing her English But had to stop work because of her seizures. She had a big seizure during visit . The guards just looked over then carried on chatting.
Not long now.

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Carollocking · 13/03/2017 19:00

Thinking lots of you both hope goes quick the last few weeks

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drinkswineoutofamug · 24/03/2017 17:41

27days to go. I've had some grief on line , social media due to her story, well bits of it , well the bloody press taking bits from every case making it in to one with wrong dates etc. Sad
'The mother must be just as nasty'
' must of been dragged up'
You get my drift , those are the nice ones.
Fuck em and their keyboard warrior fuckwitt mentality . I know the truth and I've been there. I'm trying not to let it get to me.

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Vq1970 · 24/03/2017 20:58

I remember this post when you first posted it and on,y just seen it again. You've been incredibly brave and a great mum and I hope your DD is holding out for the last few weeks.

Try and ignore what people are writing. About 7 years ago I got into trouble for doing something to help my mum, didn't realise it at the time but was committing fraud and ended up in court, in the local papers, conviction for fraud and thankfully community service instead of prison. I was the last person you would expect that to happen to.

I made a decision not to listen to what other people were saying and not to care what they were saying. My real friends wouldn't judge me (and they didn't) and those who did judge me, weren't my friends so why would I care about their opinion of me. When written down, what I did looked awful but in reality, it wasn't as bad as it sounded.

You're absolutely right, you know the truth and fuck the keyboard warriors.

Mu123 · 24/03/2017 22:25

Much love to you drinks, im a petty and hot headed cunt so i couldnt not reply to some of the comments. Im trying to imagine my dm's heartbreak if we were you, its just not imaginable.
Chin up, you are both almost there

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drinkswineoutofamug · 25/03/2017 19:28

Had our visit today. She sat crying because some girls had spiked a roll up with buscopan and spice. She saw them roll it in front of her and smoked it. They then started laughing at her and told her what they had done. She's been ill for the past 2 days because of it. She's been clean herself since October. She used to smoke illegal highs Sad
She's covered in an rash from something possibly an reaction to something. It's all over her and her eyes are weeping .
She's a nervous wreck. Shes spoken to the Chaplin and got given a colouring bookHmm
Not long to go now . It's going to be a long 3 weeks.

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youarenotkiddingme · 25/03/2017 19:39

Hi. Sorry RL crept up and this fell off my threads I'm on.

Sorry to hear the seizures are proving problematic for DD and she's suffering infections. Can you make her a go appointment for the day after her release? You can ask for a double appointment.

You sound as incredibly strong as before and dd is lucky to have you onside.

Hope you are holding up ok Flowers

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drinkswineoutofamug · 25/03/2017 20:11

Never thought of that . I'm an idiot at times. Yes I will make her an appointment .

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youarenotkiddingme · 26/03/2017 08:55

Not an idiot. I suspect you are taking one day at a time. Easier to look ahead when it isn't you stuck in the middle BrewCake

Penfold007 · 26/03/2017 09:56

For you today Brew Cake. Stay strong

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drinkswineoutofamug · 26/03/2017 13:32

I'm spending Mother's Day stripping my kitchen

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Groovee · 28/03/2017 07:02

Oh drinks hugs for you and Dd. Ignore the online keyboard warriors. I bet they wouldn't be brace enough to say it to your face x

WestleyAndButtockUp · 28/03/2017 07:31

You've been given a sentence as well, especially because of your love for your daughter. It's causing you to worry all the time.
You have to get through your sentence, and as much as you can let her get on with serving hers.
You cannot serve her sentence AND yours. It will wear you out.

I hope that makes sense.

endofthelinefinally · 28/03/2017 10:50

OP others will probably have better advice than me, but I am appalled that staff ignored your dd having a seizure.
My son died from obstructed airway because the person with him did nothing.
I would be making the relevant people aware that they would be responsible for death or injury due to lack of safeguarding should your dd come to harm during a seizure.
They sound ignorant and neglectful.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 28/03/2017 10:51

It does make sense west . I'm keeping myself busy now. Doing my best not to dwell but think of the future when all this shit will be behind us and we can have a normal weekend that doesn't involve prison visits and body searches!
Not just doing my uni work which some how hasn't suffered, I'm busy redecorating the whole house! Just off to buy my tiles and re tile the kitchen. I find it like a therapy , makes me think of other things and I've stated with a social life .
It is a punishment for all involved and is unfair on us , frustrating for the family but it's a lesson learnt for her, which was needed and hopefully will be the making of her.
I will never condone what she's done as she was stupid, violent, and an utter dick head. Especially what she did to the police , totally uncalled for in my opinion . I just find the fact she was a dv victim and was arrested for fighting back so unjust. But that's history now. My stupid daughter and I love her.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 28/03/2017 10:53

Jesus that is awful endoftheline SadI'm so sorry for you and your family.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 01/04/2017 18:53

Went for a visit today and she's had a better week. 18 days to go . She wants to get out , find work and make a fresh start.

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thecapitalsunited · 03/04/2017 21:08

Glad to hear she is doing better, Drinks. Hope these next two weeks go at the speed of light for both of you.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 04/04/2017 16:50

Thanks, saw her last week and she's had a better week. Busy doing her maths. 15 days to go. Got another visit this week end.

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thecapitalsunited · 04/04/2017 20:58

The maths sounds good. Could she look to continue this when she comes out? Doing some college courses or similar might give her something to focus on for the future.

How are the visits for you? I visited a relative in prison quite a few times as a child and there was a huge variation in the quality of visiting rooms and the processes involved. One prison used to actively look for excuses not to let you in!

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drinkswineoutofamug · 05/04/2017 14:34

She's hoping to finish the maths course before she's released. I've mentioned college to her. She doesn't want to attend our local college as she knows people there. The last college she applied to turned her down because of her criminal convictions which was a shame.
Visiting is ok. A lot of hanging around waiting to go in. It's in a huge porta cabin open plan with a little snack shop where you can buy drinks etc with a voucher. There's a children's play area . You are given a table number and there she is . 2 hours seems to fly by , actually it's not even 2 hours because they are always late letting us in.

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thecapitalsunited · 05/04/2017 17:07

Being late in was one thing that was the same at every prison I've been to. Funny that! Hmm

It's a shame your DD got turned down for college. How are people supposed to be rehabilitated after convictions if places like that won't allow them to improve themselves. It's shit. Is there anywhere else she can apply to? Or maybe look at doing an apprenticeship if she's can find a place willing to overlook her convictions?

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drinkswineoutofamug · 05/04/2017 17:45

After care seems to be lacking unless your a serious offender . She's petty compared to some. She has a care worker through social services who said she will do her best to get her a job if some sort , if given the chance.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 09/04/2017 08:22

Our last visit today before release date.

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Catmint · 09/04/2017 09:16

Hello Drinks. I've just read your entire thread in one go. Wanted to send you strength and support. Hope your daughter is feeling better.

I know nothing about this, but just wondering if she would benefit from some structure to her days when she is released? If paid work & college take time to sort out, she could look for volunteering opportunities. Really good way to build up skills, social networks and prove you can stick at some thing, so may help when applying for jobs.

Take care.