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What to take to prison

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drinkswineoutofamug · 18/01/2017 21:38

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 17/02/2017 13:07

It's not march, it will be April. She has 8 weeks to serve. I got mixed up. The ex has been sent the fuck off and get back under your rock letter off the solicitor. She's trying to pass messages on that she has a new gf. And?
But icing on the cake? My mate asking me to find out about jobs at the prison for her? Wtf? Request ignored.
Family visit on Sunday

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Carollocking · 17/02/2017 13:11

It will go so quick for sure and thinking of you both,have a good visit

catinbooots · 18/02/2017 06:46

Hi drinks

8 weeks will go so quickly.

Glad the waste of space has been given her marching orders by the brief

Good news re the family day. Is that a longer visit???

SailAwayWithMeHoney · 18/02/2017 07:59

Am glad you get to see her tomorrow Drinks Flowers

And that the troll has been legally and politely told to go fuck herself Grin

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drinkswineoutofamug · 18/02/2017 20:28

Sorry, been at work. No cat the visit will still be only 2 hours. Me, her dad and brother and sister are going which will be good. sail I would of loved to if been a fly on the wall when she opened that letter off the solicitor. carol your so lovely.
I will let you know how tomorrow goes.

On a side note. I've not replied to the so called friend wanting me to find out about jobs at the prison Hmm. I think , and I've had people agree with me that it was very shallow thing to do. With friends like that .......

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drinkswineoutofamug · 19/02/2017 12:36

Off for our visit. I'm excited to see her.

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Carollocking · 19/02/2017 12:42

Have a great visit lots hugs to you both

Groovee · 19/02/2017 18:03

Hope it was a good visit! Cannot believe your friend thought appropriate to as you about prison jobs!

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drinkswineoutofamug · 19/02/2017 20:57

Had a good visit. My youngest practically ran to her sister and they hugged and hugged.
Broke her heart crying when we had to go, I had to separate them, which was sad.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 19/02/2017 20:58

I know Grovee with friends like that, who needs enemies.

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Carollocking · 20/02/2017 09:30

Not long to go drinks,bet she's a very very different girl on coming home and hope she finally begins to listen to her wonderful mum.
I have a big feeling she will.
One thing I do know is she needs to behave once back out as if she upset any police big time before then they will do anything they can to catch her out so she has to serve the rest of her sentence so please make sure she understands that as they will do anything to harass and bother her if they can. (Seen in past In local town so not just something that gets talked of it happens)
So keeping fingers crossed for you both totally and look forward to the release date for you both.lots hugs to you both.

CondensedMilkSarnies · 20/02/2017 09:33

Hi Drinks , glad you had a good visit xx

MaudOnceMore · 20/02/2017 09:41

Only just found this thread and admit I haven't read it all but, in case you haven't already found them, these organisations offer support for people with family members in prison.

Hope it goes well for your daughter.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 21/02/2017 11:13

Found out yesterday she gets 2 visits a month plus a PoV . Despite being told by another prison officer that because she's a yoi it was weekly.
Got a visit for this weekend but none for next week.
She's not been given a release date but we are placing bets.

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drinkswineoutofamug · 21/02/2017 11:14

maud thank you for the links.

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6demandingchildren · 21/02/2017 20:00

They don't tell you about how to cope with stuff like this in the parenting books.
Thinking of you all xx

MaudOnceMore · 21/02/2017 22:34

You're very welcome. Again, you might already have found this but there's basic information about prisons on the Ministry of Justice website.

Carollocking · 24/02/2017 08:58

How'are things going ?hole welland you have new visit soon.
When is the release date do you know yet ?
Best wishes to you both thinking of you both daily xx

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drinkswineoutofamug · 24/02/2017 13:33

I go to visit on Sunday. Not heard of a release date of yet

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Carollocking · 25/02/2017 11:46

Ok will be thinking of you and hope tomorrow goes well

myoriginal3 · 25/02/2017 11:50

How is she coping herself? Does she get a daily phonecall?

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drinkswineoutofamug · 25/02/2017 13:13

She tells me what she wants me to hear, pleads with me to get her out of there, as she says she doesn't belong there. Is pissed off that the ex gf is free, out on the streets after everything she had done and now regrets never pressing charges herself . She gets picked on for having nice clothes, a funny accent Hmm other prisoners say she is privileged. And never ever wants to step foot in a prison ever again.

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Carollocking · 26/02/2017 08:59

I hope she manages to cope the last few weeks I understand it's hard.it us not easy when she stands out a little from the others as most won't have great mums that are helping them.
I hope she finds a way to find something that keeps her busy so it goes quickly.
Best is if she can forget the other girl exists as it will only make harder thinking about that.
Thinking of you both and good luck today on the visit
Xx

Squeegle · 26/02/2017 09:10

Flowers to you. I just read your thread it made me well up; it's so hard to keep our kids on the straight and narrow. She knows you love her so much and hopefully she has now realised that it's only her who can make the right choices. Good luck to you both x

SailAwayWithMeHoney · 26/02/2017 12:07

Hoping she gets a release date soon (as in, is told the date she's due to be released) as it might help her to cope better knowing there is an end in sight iyswim.
Sending hugs and Flowers