Miss all the regular posters who are no longer with us
jam need poster on island who retired and wanted to buy a camper van whose name escapes me lonely wreck cag poster with the seasonal lists whose names also escapes me collie??
Well they say a leopard never changes his spots and it's certainly true regarding my ex. He just stopped short of blaming me for dd's teeth needing braces, threatened cutting maintenance and told me in no uncertain terms that he wouldn't be paying for the braces that I want her to get!! In our legal separation he's legally bound to pay for them!! I've deferred it until after Christmas because I want to get my house first and I don't want another expense showing up on my record but I'll start her then and get my solicitor to send him a letter looking for payment for them citing the terms of the legal separation.
He finished up with that he'd see me in court and that he was up to his neck in it. How he has spent half the proceeds of the house in 8 months is beyond me but it's not my problem anymore. He made a swipe with his hand above my head by the way knocking a cobweb but I think it was to see if I'd flinch or cower under it. I didn't.
After I left I cried with frustration that he still had power to frustrate me and upset me like he did. But during the night I came to terms with it. No one will ever make me feel like he does because I've learned from his bad behaviour.
My fear now is that he will retain dc Santa presents and I'd have nothing for them on Christmas morning. Wondering if I should get stuff and find out if I can get refunds if necessary.
He's a manipulative spiteful man and even said in front of them yesterday how much maintenance he pays so would he go as far as that, reading this you'd think only I would know, but I don't.
Arrgh ignore the waffling, it helps to type it out.
One good thing is I don't binge after he does this anymore so that's something.