em I posted already on your other thread but it sounds like your DM has old fashioned views which date back to when men were the breadwinners and women had full responsibility for domestic matters. So long as the men brought home the bacon, they were entitled to pursue their own interests after that - traditionally, that might have involved pints and darts in the pub or football training/watching football matches. These days it's more likely to be cycling, running, golf or the gym. Women weren't supposed to have hobbies or interests or if they did, they were hobbies that you could do from home - things like baking, knitting, crocheting, sewing, flower arranging etc. Caring for their husbands and children took precedence over everything else. Obviously the world has moved on and today lots of women WOH (some out of choice and some out of necessity), but attitudes have been slow to catch up with these changes. I think your DM is afraid that if you continue to defy your DH (as she sees it), then it will result in him leaving you. And she doesn't want to see her daughter separated/divorced and to see her grandchildren being the products of a broken home. This should be avoided at all costs, so you must sacrifice your wishes and desires. I can see her where she's coming from, but obviously I don't agree with her.