The Lockdown Saving and Spending Continues! May Frugaleers continued

[LaneBoy]

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Oh em your sis has a bf now, that's news I think I remember her split from her bf a year or so ago

My spends yesterday were €8 car wash €8 bottle of Pinot Grigio €48 diesel €10 microfibre mop for dm

Oh that sounds positive em
Much fairer .
I think its communication which is key.

Mango, definitely agree, woman/mothers should not be at the bottom on the pile!

Em, sounds like a wonderful afternoon with you dsis and everyone else.

Went for a lovely walk yesterday, there were loads of people, but most were sticking to the rules.
Spends yesterday £4.20 in co-op, on an ice lolly each for me and dd, a cucumber and some mint.
Should be a NSD today.
Will be spending the day getting work stuff ready, tomorrow we have training on how we will manage the 'bubbles' of children from next week and will be marking out 'zones'.
I don't know how we will explain to little 'Johnny' that he can't go and say hello to 'Sally'!

Will also be doing some tidying and some ironing.
Have a good Sunday everyone.

We seem to have bees in our Eve's. Bumble I think.

Eaves . Eve would be very pissed off.

Curvy
I think men take what they need and we should do the same.
Not in an unpleasant way, compromise and all that, but I need a daily shower, exercise, decent food, down time and sleep haha yes I know babies etc
However waiting for it to be given to me doesnt work and actually its me whos responsible for carving out what I need.
It also isnt good for DC to see their Mothers at the bottom of the pile either in terms of how they form their future relationships.
Its not easy particularly when Mum guilt is peddled here, there and everywhere and in the form of do this, buy this, you must have and you must do -to have happy children.

Well Fuck that shit quite frankly !!

That's funny, dd just said she spotted a bee going into our eaves! I just hope it was a bee, not a wasp.

I do that "going for a quick shower" then disappearing for an hour thing Em It's because I always find jobs to do though like putting some washing away or cleaning all the mirrors or something and I suddenly realise half an hour had passed and I'm still not in the shower!

Mango, some of those reasons are now why I'm single!
Making time for ourselves should not make us feel guilty, but somehow it does, the media doesn't help either, even some of my female colleagues still do everything when they get home, even though they work longer hours than their husbands.

Strangely though ever since I've been single (just over a year now), and with two dcs at home, they are 15 and 10 (the other two are older, so don't live at home), and after laying down some ground rules that we all agreed on, I actually have more time now and make myself a priority.

snuggly see that in my view is ok because you’re doing something. Dh sits on bed. And looks at his phone.

Busy morning here. After my lie in shower and breakfast I gave Dd her breakfast and then got the kids dressed. Dh went up for a lie down. Dd went for a nap. Ds and I made a stone circle around our bean teepee and i re-jigged the stones under the washing line, have brushed up the front garden, repotted my pineapple plant, and tidied up the kitchen.

Made lunch - cheese and ham swirly wraps and salad with guacamole and humous and crispies.

Coop rose ice creams for lunch pudding.

Dd has 7 teefs now. Which explains a lot of her grouchyness.

Sounds like a nice day Em. We have the paddling pool out again. I am sitting in the shade supervising. We'll have ice creams in a bit. The suncream I bought last week is nearly empty. It doesn't go far between 5 of us! I was hoping not to go to the shops until the end of the week but Amazon didn't have much left and we have to be careful about brands because of dcs with eczema.

Went for a 3.5m walk early doors, still hot as hell. Made dinner for lunch so I can chill this aft and making most of the oven already being warm . Made flapjack - banana ones but a slightly altered recipe to the one Em shared.

We're watching the penultimate Harry Potter film, we've been working our way through them (for about the millionth time)

Ds woke up in full Kevin mode but appears to have chilled out a bit now

Curvy I know just what you mean about more me time. Even though I'm probably busier than ever

Have just done some sourdough. #productive.

Cleaned kitchen again after lunch. And am now about to settle on bed with my book and some strawberries.

Glad things have improved Em
It's been a productive day here, dh is painting the fence posts & I've been pottering in the kitchen. I've marinaded meat for BBQ tea tonight, made meringues and made a lovely salad for dd & I for lunch. I've rediscovered my love of my Ainsley Harriott cookbooks! I have his Barbeque Bible which is full of great recipes so I'm trying some new ones today. We also have his Feelgood food book which the salad recipe came from. The salad was really good, I'll report back later about the BBQ food.
I'm about to do some more blocks for one of the quilts I'm doing & then will sit out in the sun later.

Wolf, its strange, isn't it?
Maybe its because we don't have expectations, or don't have to fit around another adult, or we are not walking on eggshells, or that we don't have to think about another person's mental load as well as our own?
Or a combination of all of the above?!

Em, glad your afternoon is going well.

North, sounds like a wonderful day.

Definitely agree with more peace and me time since split with ex. Not have to consult or consider what the other party thinks is a large part of it.

I do things to please myself now and even though I'm in a new relationship it's still on these terms we meet when it suits us both with no obligations or apologies if we can't.

But I'm not saying that can't be done within a marriage and with children it just wasn't how my marriage worked

Don't have to wait for someone else faffing about before you can leave the house - if I want to go somewhere I go. Heaven

I do the dc!!!
Today coming home from dps is such a novelty, no one on the phone saying thought you'd be home by now where are you now every 30 mins of a just under 3 hour journey

Bf : let me know you've got there safely, enjoy yourself and say hi to your parents for me.

Being able to purchase something without explaining it, having more money on my own than when we were a double income household

16.91 in Aldi on their protein bars fibre 1 bars protein granola pilau rice and their bean pouches a la Heinz ones.

Wanted to get their cast iron welly stand but it wasn't in either Aldi I went to

Yes yes to feeling like there is more money to Happier. There isn't but it certainly feels like it because I can 100% control where it's spent, I'm not generating debt, and weekends can be spent doing something that isn't spending money like going to the big scary outdoors

Another lovely day in the garden. My mum came up to sit for an hour and then my db & dsil came over again. Absolute bliss.

I absolutely agree that mothers have as much right to me time as fathers but I have to confess being a professional procrastinator I am guilty of going for a shower and then still not being in the shower one hour later I don’t think I ever really broke it down into specific chunks like that. I think Lockdown makes everything more magnified and intense.

Absolutely Happier, many marriages and relationships work great.

Wolf, I definitely have more money now, ex never really contributed.
I remember a few times when I bought something and had to play a round of 20 questions!

Ahh Born, I'm a huge procrastinator too! I can put off how chunks of things by doing other things!

A definite part of my staying single is because I like having time to myself, having my own freedom, I don't have to compromise, I can spend my money how I want. The only time I miss having a man about is when I need to move something heavy 🤣

We have had a lovely last day of half term, we went to the garden center this morning I spent around £15 on some new plants. Popped into the co op for a few bits (they have an excellent freezer deal on at the mo, 6 items for £5.) spent £15 in total.

Mum came over this afternoon, we had dinner and walked the dog.

Dd and I are watching Stranger Things from the start for the 3rd time!!

Don't want to go back to work.

Oh definitely Girlie!
How long have you been single now?

Haha girlie

I said to dh that I’d manage fine being single last night. We were talking hypotheticals btw.

I worked out that I am fully capable of taking care of the kids on my own. I earn a decent amount of money myself so would be fine financially (would have to learn to budget my spends accordingly...)
My parents would be on hand to help if I needed it. And I do all the life admin anyway.

Dh would struggle.

£89 garden centre yesterday so have a plant to pot today. It's sat having a drink first.

Going to Sainsbury's this after for DH birthday present from the DC. And a catapillar cake.