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Prostitution and universal credit

35 replies

tightrope83 · 03/10/2019 12:44

I dont know where to turn, Im so upset. Basily my Fiancee is working and has 5 children. She's been moved over to universal credit. She is far worse off than she has been under previous systems. She's been told what she'll now get on top of her 16hrs a week minium wage job. The trouble is the maths doesnt weigh up and it looks like she a cant aford to live, let alone provide properly for her 5 children. Im not much help as likewise I am a single parent and have to provide for my family. I am gobsmacked at what she'll have to raise her family on. As a single mum of 5 the benifit cap is kicking in too. She has no prospect of a job above mimiumum wage. Being a single mum means shes not really at liberty to work more hours. And even if she does she wouldnt be any better off on minimum wage with the current system, except her children would be worse off for not having her around and having to fend for them selves.

The only solution she can see is prostitution to bring in a bit of income to provide for her family. It broke my heart when she said the only answer she can see is using the only thing she has to make money (her body). And she is dead serious about it and the work is there in plenty of supply. I am so upset and angry, not at her but the system. I dont want her to turn to prostitution. I love her and I dont want her to be in dangerous situations or have to deal with the emotional conciquences. And I hate the thought of her being used by other men just so she can provide for her family. Its causing a lot of stress to us both and I shouted at her (I never shout). But its not her Im angry at, its a sitution that seems so injust. How can it be fair that any working parent cant receive enough to provide the basics for their familiy and has to turn to prostitution. I am so scared she will do it and I hate it.

Is there anything we can do? I've looked at the maths and im struggling to see how she can provide a decent life for her kids without some extra income. Likewise I dont see an other way to raise it.

OP posts:
HalfManHalfLabrador · 03/10/2019 19:32

This will be in the Fail tomorrow Grin

DavetheCat2001 · 04/10/2019 08:12

Could she take in some ironing...?🤔

Sammy04 · 13/10/2019 08:50

Why aren’t you living with her and helping with the bills?

SuperMeerkat · 16/10/2019 19:00

Can she not work nights whilst you take care of the kids? No childcare bill then. Only obviously counts if there’s childcare. She could do the sex lines (dirty talk on the phones) Psychic text messaging (you don’t need to be a psychic and I know this as o do it) There’s loads of work from home jobs.

Shplot · 16/10/2019 19:03

If you’re worried about the 5 week wait to get uc you can apply for an advance to see you through. In my experience you do get enough to live on, maybe not holidays, new cars etc but budget and she’ll be fine

Littlechocola · 17/10/2019 08:25

She won’t have to pay out for a uniform which is a bonus.

Rainbowhairdontcare · 17/10/2019 08:31

There's cloudworkers (online sex chat rooms) and you can also do QA for Google. If she can use a computer there's no need to turn to prostitution

Serin · 18/10/2019 13:50

How ridiculous.
Prostitution solves nothing
She will be in a much worse position if she catches Hepatitis or HIV (yes it is still around) or ends up being beaten senseless by a punter.
Could it be her way of putting pressure on you o make you contribute financially?

Teaandtoasted · 12/11/2019 15:05

Who would look after the children if she was out doing Sex work ? Can they not do that whilst she does another type of job . I’d move in together . One work days , one work nights . Childcare solved .

PlumsGalore · 02/12/2019 14:31

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