Absolutely meadow you’ve lost nothing by asking! Fingers crossed!!!
I think I might have ds home with me tomorrow. He came home from dparents and I had to lift him out of the car he was sound asleep. He woke up but was really quiet and also super chesty/raspy. Ok in himself but poor baby sounds awful. No temperature.
I’ve given him calpol and have smothered him in vapour rub and have the calpol diffuser on in his room.
I’m in bed and both our doors are pulled ajar. I can hear him snoring from here. Poor baby boooo.
Dm is on hand tomorrow though if I need help. Suspect I might...
Sorted through a huge laundry bag of clothes dfriend gave me for Dd. And have put them all away. All sorts of ages and seasons. So kind.
Two loads of laundry done today.
And I had a response from our payroll and accounts manager re my mat pay. She’d miscalculated. So will send through revised figures.
Spoke to dh about our budget. He’s dismissed everything I said because there are “hidden” costs in that we put food and shopping for the dc on his Amex. Which is paid from the joint ac. He puts in the money for this. He won’t show me the statements though apparently he doesn’t get them. So the budget I’ve done doesn’t make sense because I can’t work our the average food shop etc.
I have said that I’m not happy still laying 50% of bills etc while I’m on leave. He kept telling me it’s ok money’s not a problem. But insisting I still paid in. I’ve suggested he deals with it while I’m on leave. Or at least during the November to January part. I’ve told him he has 20 days to think about it. I’ve cancelled my SO to the joint account so won’t be sending any money until I know what we agree.
I did also say that considering he earns roughly £15k more than me we shouldn’t be putting 50/50 in anyway it should be split accordingly. He wasn’t happy with this. I did remind him that when he lived in my apartment he paid no me rent or bills and saved everything (he also claimed he didn’t live with me as all his post etc went to his parents place), when we bought our apartment he took a massive pay cut (almost !15k so he could train to be an accountant) and we split the mortgage etc proportionally. Now he’s the higher Earner. I think it should flip reverse and I should be paying in a proportion. Not 50/50.
He keeps saying it’s joint money anyway so what does it matter. Joint savings etc. He’s due a payout from the shares he has in his employer this month. I’ve suggested that if it doesn’t matter he sends me the payout money and I’ll put it in my savings ac. Because I get a higher interest rate. So makes more sense. We shall see.
Tomorrow I have a busy day. Window person coming round at 10. Then am meant to be meeting a friend for coffee at 2. But the matter depends on ds going to nursery. I’m not taking him on a play date if he’s not well.