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Oh sounds like even I could manage that :o thanks

Thanks all! It’s super exciting.

I’ve just sat dh down and told him in no uncertain terms that I’m not happy. I’ve Told him he’s behaving exactly how Fil did to mil. As much as I have issues with mil she did not deserve the way Fil spoke to her and treated her. She divorced him.

I’ve told dh that yes I haven’t been pulling my weight (this is very true. I’m not lazy but I usually do more) but I haven’t been well and am really struggling with my anxiety and with this pregnancy. I’ve said that I will not tolerate being spoken to like I’m beneath him. Or being treated like a twat. Or being gaslighted. I’ve told him to look it up.

I’ve told him I will walk if things don’t change. I’d be in a very strong position if I did. I have over half the proceeds of the remainder of The sale of our apartment stashed away in my name only. Law here favours the mother (if I was to go down the walking away route).

I don’t want to do that. I’d be absolutely heartbroken to do that. I do love him. But man is he a twat sometimes.

I’ve told him I won’t accept any more excuses. No busy days at work. No tired. No stressed. Because I’m not allowed to use it as an excuse. No more double standards.
Moore talking. Less arguing. More appreciating each other.

And more looking after me and my baboooooos.

How did he respond to what you said em?

Glad you are not taking any crap!

Well done for being clear about what you need Em.

Sooo the weather report for when I need to get on the drive 10miles to the train station tomorrow is “dangerously windy and overcast”. Deep deep joy.

Well done em for getting that out

Congrats em, and well done for speaking to dh.
cag so glad gas sorted

Em. You. Are. Awesome. 💐

He said he was sorry. He didn’t realise how I was feeling. He agrees we both need to try harder.

His try harder apology dinner is a pork and apple burger and home made skinny fries. Damm him knowing my weakness. #iheartburgers

em Yay to baby minisheem. Boo to dick of DH. Although that burger looks good.

Dumplings can be made with butter instead of suet if you can't be arsed getting to the supermarket. Horseradish and parsley are my faves. Could you imagine the fun to be had with stuffed dumplings?
Stew always causes me dilemmas… yorkies, roasties or dumplings?

Wolf I am looking at that weather too... not beautiful. I have to travel to our office in Liverpool, where there aren't enough desks, hardwired networks or even wifi and the meeting room is too small for all of us. Why they can't come to mine or the office halfway between is beyond me. I may decide to be ill tomorrow and dial in from home.

Just tried to post on old thread 🤦‍♀️

Summary- morning after pill worked 👍
£££ spent on gear fir DofE gear 👎

Deliver due tomoz £85 ish

DD1 needs a dress for MIL no black dress funeral.

Well done em hope he sees the error of his ways & you can get out of that cyclical behaviour. As you know my H couldn't stop himself & still attempts to gaslight me even now.

Fingers crossed happier

If I’m honest I think I scared him earlier by saying I was prepared to leave if I had to and if it meant we weren’t fighting.

I scared myself by saying it too. But id Be ok if i had to go it alone. Would break me. But id Be ok eventually.

Nsd.

I’m pretty excited about dd to be honest. It’ll be so nice for ds to have a little sister.

I wouldn’t have minded if it was another boy but I think deep deep deep down I wanted a girl.

I hope so em xx

Evening all.
Just caught up.
Happy Birthday to your dd Lonely.
Cag glad the gas got sorted.
Huge congratulations to you em, a lovely dd! And bloody well done on telling your DH the score

Glad you found us Adora

Hey Adora. Is dh still going eleventy million miles to and from mil house?

Nsd planned today.

You would totally be fine in your own em but hopefully the stern talking to is enough.

Just checking in. I've been awol lately. No good reason except life being busy. It was a very non-frugal weekend and I need to get back on the frugal wagon!
Lovely news about DD Em. I intend to catch up with everyone else's news today.

Congrats on the girl Em. Two boys would have been lovely, one of each is lovely too. You can’t really lose but glad it was what you wanted deep
down.

I didn’t quite manage to come back to posting last night because dd was sick again - everywhere! She didn’t make any noise but we found her before we went to bed so had to wake her up, change her and the bed, and it was a devil of a job getting her back to sleep after that. So it was a very late night. She’s still sleeping but I’m going to have to get her up in a mo for the school run. Ideally she needs a hair wash too. I’m knackered. Cancelled plans to meet a friend and her little one as we’re in quarantine 😷

I need to pop to Jojo on my high st and buy another sleeping bag today though. Somehow we only have 2 winter weight ones and it’s not enough when vomit strikes as they seem to take +1day to dry. Annoying as I’d have picked a cheap spare up on fb if I’d realised (I’m sure ds had more?!) but I need it today as we’ve no clean and dry ones now.

If I’m organised (and DD lets me put her down) I’ll make my soup for lunch tomorrow, otherwise I’ll have to buy sushi at work ££. I’ve a heavy day tomorrow So not sure when I’d eat soup anyway!

Oh no sea. Can you tumble them?
I would try and make the soup anyway you can always have it in a cup while working. I make a point of a long meeting goes over lunch to eat in the meeting.

I do too Life but prefer not to eat chunky soup though - it feels messier than ‘solid’ food!

The sleeping bags say not to tumble, I think, but I’m always wary of things like that anyway as I’m never confident the outer and lining won’t ‘shrink’ at a different rate and go wonky.

DD has now had a bath. She wasn’t impressed. ‘I want milk first mummy! I say please! Really thirsty!’ . Poor girl is so cross I will only let her have sips of water. I’m impressed at her speech though! She’s eating a rich tea biscuit and tells me the little dimples are ‘lots of stars!’ 😍

Fair enough sea. Bless her.

I see no other solution than taking a tray bake to work and scoffing it throughout the day sea. Maybe you will get some invoices paid if you withhold sharing them until payment received.

Wow. Bit gutted, DH didn’t even get an interview for the job he applied for. I’m amazed, which sounds really arrogant but it’s unusual, even without the fact he was specifically told to apply for this by his manager. He has emailed to ask for specific feedback.

No idea what to do now. Not really sure what jobs he can do physically. And unlike last time it’s not like I can go out and get a job, I wasn’t ill before, but it was going full time that tipped me over into CFS/fibro that I obviously still have now.

Of course we have also lost a steady stream of income as DH can no longer run sports club, which was really quite successful.

Bugger. Now what?

Bugger cag. You would expect an interview of you are told to apply.

Oh I'm sorry to hear that @cag, what a worry for you.

Hope DD is on the mend quickly @sea; that's funny about the roast chicken sandwiches, my DD is also a big fan of roast chicken; funnily enough, I've never really given her sandwiches as DS just removed the filling and eats the bread so it turns into a not very nutritious meal, but I'll have to get her started on them. Actually, I might put roast chicken on the meal plan for this weekend, I have breadcrumbs in the freezer too that I could use up for stuffing.

Congratulations on DD @em.

Yesterday was NSD.
Spends today £2 work canteen