Spending sparingly in early Spring - frugal friendly folk gather round.

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Ooh yes Lonely, post the cake pics! Happy birthday to your dd.

And what is traditional patchwork vs what they taught her at school? Just curious... don’t answer if you cba

Happy birthday Lonely’s dd . We loved our guinea pigs

Which reminds me @MeadowHay I saw your thread yesterday, I am sorry you are having such a tough time. Please come back and post here if you need some friendly support. Good luck returning to work x

What she did at school was just botch some hexagons together with top stitching . I have her tacking round a card template and hand stitching together!

Cake was a success, except it slightly traumatised dd3 cutting it's head in half! Her cousins (who don't get a lot of sugar) went utterly mental after grabbing handfuls of sprinkles. It went a bit crazy for a while. Almost crashed driving home...2" of icy slush had my car sliding sideways. Followed dp after that at 15mph. Very trembly.

Gosh the guinea pigs are lovely. I'd forgotten how ace they are.

Will try to add on pics, my tablet doesn't like the size of my phone pics...

That cakes amazing lonely!

Love the cake lonely hope you've recovered from your scary drive.
meadow I haven't found your thread, I hope you're ok

Was thinking of meadow today, hope she is okay.

I thought 'dead' unicorn cake was a typo 🤣 that cake is awesome, well done 👏🏻

Weather been mad here, wind, rain, sleet and hail all in one day!!

I'm watching Crufts, looking forward to best in show.

Made my vegetarian chicken pie again tonight, in fact it was chicken and mushroom pie and really delicious 😋

Awesome cake lonely

Swimming was a success. Ds and dh enjoyed it. Only one other child in the class. So will definetly take ds back.

He super enjoyed splashing and jumping in and collecting toys. All supported by dh.

I watched from poolside but next time must remember to watch through the window. The pool was 32 degrees. Sitting poolside it was ridiculously sauna like. Almost had to go out.

Dh has been funny with me today. Started off telling me this morning I’m messy and dirty and lazy. Then wondered why I’m upset. Then has proceeded to tell me that I’m lazy because I spend every day in bed until 11. Not sure how I manage to get up and go to work if I’m doing that.

All this stemmed from me saying I needed to rest yesterday afternoon because everything was hurting and him getting huffy because I didn’t want to traipse round yet another charity shop looking for shit we don’t need.

He has done all the laundry today though. His I’m messy outbreak resulted in me showing him all his mess and telling him about glass houses and throwing stones. He’s tidied and laundried. And put away.

Lovely cake Lonely. Em I don’t know how you have the patience. H and I rarely rowed but there would have been an epic row if those words had been said here in those circumstances

wolf me neither. I did tell him today I’m slowly losing my patience with him being an arse. And am not happy and would be happier if things changed.

The “mess” was a pile of clothes on the floor next to the bed and a pile of paperwork I hadn’t got round to sorting yet. The “dirty” was because I haven’t changed our bedding for a week (pointed out that he could also do this) and the “lazy” I was up 4 times with ds last night, I slept until 715. And then stayed in bed until 815. I was on my phone googling and researching things for my essay. But dh assumes that I was on Facebook. He’s again accused me of social media taking over my life. I offered to show him what I was actually Looking at to prove a point but he wasn’t interested. Phone has also been upstairs most of the day but he knows I was sat using it when ds and I were having breakfast. I suggested he ring it. And then find it. On my nightstand. Plugged in.

No apology.

If I wasn’t so exhausted and pregnant I’d be making a stand. But I cba. He knows he’s hurt me. He knows I’m unhappy. He knows this. Because we talked. Dkesnt make it right. But he knows.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow. And almost told him I didn’t want him there. But that’s being cruel. So I’ve emailed the midwife and asked her to reiterate that I need to rest for the sake of the baby’s health. And stress how important this is. Because I’m not really resting. But if dh tho is I’m lazy when I try it’s only going to result in Ann argument.

Em he's being awful. Hope your scan goes well.

Cat woke me up at 5:30 for some reason dh didn't close the bedroom door last night when he came up to bed. Not impressed.

Work today. Need fuel and at some point still need to get a birthday present for DD's friend.

Dentist today £30 for a mouth guard.
No other spends planned.

What a knob em. Hope today is better

Good luck today em hopefully seeing little one on the screen will give him some perspective! (If we are placing bets I think boy)

Good luck with the scan em isn't it called gas lighting when someone tries to make you believe you're something you're not (lazy etc)? I think it's abusive personally.

I'm off to a spa today with a friend, using a bday voucher so should only cost whatever lunch is, can't wait!!

I'm saying girl.

Stay safe in the hideous weather Irish and West frugaleers

girlie yep. Yep it is. I’ve pointed this out to him. He doesn’t get it.

This morning he’s been a right arse. We’re going to grandmas on Friday. He wanted to know how I’d organosed to get us to the airport. I said because it’s too complicated to do two trips with his dad driving our car (with ds’ car seat) as we won’t fit two suitcases and a pram with 4 of us in the car so we’ll drove ourselves and park at the airport. It’ll cost £50 for the weekend but is much easier. And will cause me less stress. The thought of flying with ds is stressing me out enough.

But no. I’m throwing money away unnecessarily. I’ve told him to stop. Stop trying to control me. To stop his behaviour.

And that I don’t particularly want him to come with us at the weekend. So he needs to think about this.

I also told him unless he apologises not to bother coming to the scan this morning.

He’s annoyed that I’m not excited about it. That I don’t have a boy/girl preference. I don’t. I just want to make sure everything is ok.

@ChristmasSeacow DS is 3.8 and DD 15 months. Up until now, DS would just have run off at a picnic unless he was pinned down somehow but he has chilled out a little so will hopefully be ready for picnics by summer. And even is DD turns into a similarly lively toddler, I think her love of food would win out at a picnic! That's sounds like such a lovely day for end of term, I hope the weather works out.
@ememem84 I want to reach into the phone and knock DH's head Against something hard. Good luck for the scan today .
Spends yesterday : £2 my contribution to tip; DH paid for dinner.

Waiting for appointment. It was at 11. Apparently they’re running super late and can’t give me a time.

I hate waiting. And have to be back at work for 130. Apparently I’m “just going to have to let them know I’ll be late”

They can’t reachedule me apparently. Not possible and it needs to be done this week. Ffs.

How frustrating Em. Especially if you are full of water and need a wee.

em. I don't know how your DH survives sometimes...

Have sent him off to get me something to eat.

I’m starving.

Have emailed work and asked to take a half day because I don’t know how long I’ll be waiting. I know I’m allowed to attend appointments but this does feel like I’m just taking the piss a bit.

Em assuming you are not going back to the office go home and sleep afterwards

Probably not wolf! Still have no idea how long I’ll be here for so little point in going back. I’ve done the grand total of...1h45m work today.

The receptionists have all gone for lunch too. Absolute shambles.

I’m so annoyed.

That's awful em!

That’s crappy em normally all your healthcare providers over there sound amazing quality, this seems very out of character and rubbish :( hope the scan goes well. Sorry DH is being a dick.

I made banana pancakes again except the banana was underripe so I mushed up raspberries instead. Was nice but obviously not as sweet. Now I’m wondering about chocolate chips...

Also I must try making fritters again. Sweet corn/courgette. Le yum.