Nearly November; Friendly Frugaleers Navigating (K)nitting, Nattering and Nuturing our Pennies

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New thread. Happy end of October/Early November frugaleering. All welcome we are a friendly bunch

Em hope it's something good

€10.79 on milk, weetabix & ham. Have given another big pack of ham to cats & dog today because it's just not getting eaten. Going to put in ziploc bag this time, bought a small pack.

If you join the New Zealand heritage you get English national trust and English heritage entry. It’s about £35 for the year.

But not parking unless you buy a NT sticker on eBay. The only house Ive seen parking charged is shrugborough which is a council run car park.

I saw a documentary about the nt years ago, not nice people. I think they support fox hunting too.

Em Hope it’s not something shit like lemsip.

Nsd.

Au pair got milk too

Ooo em hopefully it's those shoes 😁

Fluffy there's a few NT places here that charge parking

LSD as only sent Caglets to Asda for some cake to share with visiting friend. On the way through the park they took photos of the new build, temporary from 10th November till probably early January... a freakin’ ICE RINK!!! I’d heard rumours that it’d be in “our” park this year (as opposed to in town where it was last year) but it’s confirmed now. Literally 5 minutes from our house. Holy crap I am excited for the Caglets even though I may struggle to do it myself. Last year they had a sort of season ticket thing, didn’t look at price but hopefully they will have something like that again because to be able to just send the Caglets whenever they wanted (not even restricted by school hours, they could easily go daily so would definitely get money’s worth) would be AMAZING.

Trying to be positive today as mood slips further towards wintery crapness. Think it may be time to go back on something (I came off sertraline just before conceiving Cagletini). Not sure if I should though as the “flatness” that results is sometimes worse. I have an appt with GP on 6/11 though so will discuss it then as maybe a change is in order. Also going to ask for another vitamin D test as I may still need a higher dose.

Looking forward to tomorrow as the Caglets have a four hour art class and DH and I can have a nice lunch (with the baby) courtesy of clubcard vouchers. And maybe make some more plans to get more organised (which should in turn hopefully help me cope better with the bad days).

I am also distracting myself thinking of Christmas. I’ve decided I might start collecting Holztiger animals for Cagletini. But I may set myself a challenge of only getting used ones or something as they are £££. But they are sooo gorgeous and will make good stocking fillers for the next few years if we gradually build up a collection.

Well today was spendy and I blame all of you that were talking about boots

But they were on sale for £74.99 and then student discount so were only £67.49. I really like that schuh do discounts on their sale stuff too.
£7.10 Costa
£28 on some bits for dd2 in various shops and a stall. When we got back from shopping yesterday I found that none of her trousers fitted and most of her tops were on the small side.
£3.00 eyebrow threading
£9.20 train fare to my Mums, were we are now.

Welcome hotchocolate

I'd like to join in here. We are trying to save to fund a move to Cornwall by summer 2021! But we have a large family and it's the run up to Christmas. I keep telling my husband the children don't need that much and we've already bought quite a bit, the youngest certainly doesn't need anything else.

We are sending postcards. The post office is properly olde worlde here and very nice. Just getting ready for the business of sleeping in a new house, which is very exciting for ds.

Cag That's a good idea to go and ask.

I keep wondering a bit just how many people plod through PND or anxiety without any help, and how many people get talking therapy or medication or both. I don't really know if there are any stats on that. I think that having those stats in public knowledge would be hugely helpful for getting women the actual help that they need from friends and family.

Between the last 2 days £1 on crisps. Been very hungry today.

Plodding on mammy not doing either 100% but that's ok.

Have to buy bread tomorrow and some stuff from Tu so will walk to Sainsbury's at lunch.

Exciting about the ice rink cag.

Lebkuchen. He bought me lebkuchen. For all the bad things I’ve said about him recently, he’s redeemed himself. Star and heart shaped lebkuchen. A big bag. Yummo.

Anyone else reserved a raven from argos?? Theres a funny thread running about some argos vouchers.

I'm in a race against time now with the plastering. I have about 1/3 to go, and my blister is very much worse. I just want to get it done before it rips open - should I put a blister plaster on it?

The new dishwasher is way cleverer than the old one (same make and model, just 8 years newer), it opens itself when it's finished to steam dry! All installed and running. Plus the cupboard of doom, baking tins, tupperware etc had to be emptied, so I've gutted it out and thinned it all down. Need new muffin tins.

I guess it’s hard to measure the former autumn if women don’t seek help. There is such stigma around not being perfectly happy with every day full of sunshine and rainbows with your new baby! I must say I’m finding it much better this time round with the ability to speak openly about such things here, and also on FB chat with my home ed mum friends - they’ve all been there and just to have someone say “me too” when I mentioned for example hiding on the stairs the other day 😳 is incredibly reassuring and helpful. 💐 I do also wonder if maybe the abundance of Facebook memes and bloggers etc that take an irreverent look at motherhood will help too, and makes it easier to talk about and see you aren’t alone. :)

Mmmmm lebkuchen!!!

Ok em he gets a point back. Lidl do amazing ones with apricot goo in the middle. Much nicer than the tesco equivalent.

I also got an ebay 'from china' order today, 50 little tear drop glass danglies for chandeliers. I'm going to try to turn them into christmas fairies to hang on the tree. £3, so we shall see.

Ohhhh I just had the coolest idea for Christmas decorations. I have been meaning to PM you about this sort of thing lonely

cag put up a photo of exactly the figures you'd like (assume you have one or two lying around) and I'll happily make something(s) for you x

quite I’d usually fight the dr but didn’t this time. Just admitted defeat and took the time off. Work understand. They know I’m stressed out of my nut.

autumn my dr told me that 90% of women suffer from pnd. Essentially she explained it to me as a form of ptsd. Everything changes and you Have no time to recover and adjust as you have to take care of a teeny person usually with no experience. And you stay home and recover and take care of Baby and lose your identity (at least a bit - you become “x’s mummy”) and you’re also expected to carry on as normal. That’s how I felt anyway.
There is a massive stigma though and their shouldn’t be. I know so many people who went through the same as me. I’ve been honest to everyone and have told everyone that I have pnd. I’m not ashamed of it. Why should I be. That’s my thought anyway.

Dm actually bought me a bag of the German ones with the apricot. Oh. They are joyous.

Roast chicken dinner tonight. With sausages. And stuffing. And parsnips.

Watching bake off now.

Just catching up!

Welcome newbies 😊

Have a nice holiday sunny

I'm glad you've got some time off em

Am amazed at the plastering skills, that must save tons of £££ I wish I was handy like that!

Think I've managed a nsd. It's suddenly got colder here and I'm in bed already!

I think pnd is common but not sure I recognise that 90% of mum's have it. I felt over whelmed after I had dd, I felt anxious that I was going to bugger it up and I definitely struggled with having my whole life and identity redefined. However I definitely did not have pnd, I think motherhood has messed with my head at various points in other ways though!!

Cali I've been on and off ADs for years. I've been off them completely for almost 4 years now. I found exercise really boosts my serotonin levels.

I started playing rugby in 2013 and I got the bug from there. Previously was a very good couch potato.

I couldn't work out with my DS around when he was younger (still can't now but I don't when he's asleep) but I did find going for a walk massively helped keep me buoyant. I don't know if you're already trying that?

Rocking the DM's Curvy 😂😂 I'm assuming they're DMs?

Thanks :) am definitely trying to walk more. Moving here (we got housed in HA property and things are waaaaay better) means we are in a location that is walking distance to town and various other places so I’m walking much more and building up stamina. Unfortunately I also have fibromyalgia, POTS and CFS/ME so have to be careful about doing too much. I was getting a lot fitter in the summer and was doing home workouts etc but the move/stress etc tipped me over into flare up and I’ve struggled to do anything since TBH.

Meeples in the photo lonely :) but will look for a flat, template type pic later. :) 💐 Meeple was one of the bump names when I was pregnant :o (swanhilde being the other... long story)

Prototype 1. It usually takes me 3 to get something I'm happy with. I need some tiny pliers to make some wings for an angel one.

Tomorrow will be spendy.

That's fine cag was just checking as I'd had a bit of a google! Will have a wee go and report back.

Welcome ilove.

Plink yes they are DMs! They last time I had a pair was years ago, and must admit I forgot about the blisters. I stupidly wore them straight away and within 10 minutes I had blisters!

em glad you took the time off. With re to women losing their identity and just being "someone's mum", at my workplace we learn all the parents names (mostly mums) and a lot of them like this, and appreciate it and feel that they are human again

That’s so cute lonely

Wow 90% that is higher than I thought but then also doesn’t surprise me.

It’s the lack of identity that I’m struggling with ATM I think which is odd in a way because I was SAHM already with the home ed. I need to start tutoring (I’ve said that a lot on here I know) it’ll earn some money and hopefully help me feel like me again. But then, I’m not sure I like “me” that much either 😳