Frulgaleers - Jumping into June

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That's a good idea to talk that through with someone Em. If your mil was a child I'd be very keen to get her under the eye of a child psychologist. Alas, it is harder to pull that off with ILs.

Sorry things are so stressful em bet you’re counting down till MIL bogs off again 😡

We leaned the spare cotbed box (because they still haven’t collected it 😡 need to phone Asda shortly) against the fridge as the chairs aren’t tall enough. However as it’s been opening for the last couple of days (I kept blaming DS 😳😰 he has form for leaving it open) and it got distinctly warm (we have a little thermometer in there) so I’ve not kept the meat 🙄 I do tend to be over paranoid about these things but when a small baby will be eating it too I don’t want to risk anything. Thankfully we have a decent size freezer now so I’m wondering about trying to do lots of batch cooking on Wednesday when we get a delivery. Although DH has just moved some stuff and it seems to have put less pressure on the door so maybe it’s ok 🤔

So, house is ours if we want it, estimated to be ready 18th June 😱we would still have rent to pay here on 28th though so would be a big overlap.

We didn’t get to view the house officially - it’s HA so we have to wait for them to phone us. But after we were finished at the council we got the bus up there as it was driving me crazy not seeing it 😂 it’s definitely a new development, although even the little HA corner (seems to be otherwise occupied, so not sure if we would actually be the first tenants in this property or maybe they had short term tenants in there first. But it is like a mini estate... gated as well, WTF. Looks lovely.

It does look very small but hard to tell until we can go in. I know logically it has to be bigger than here as it has two double bedrooms and a single. It also looks from the outside like it has a downstairs loo as well, so that is a big plus. Garden is definitely small but it is 3 minutes to the entrance of a big park. Two nice pubs nearby (but not near enough for disturbance). Small Tesco and massive Asda about 10 minutes away in opposite directions. 15 minutes walk to town which in itself, given how much time we spend now waiting for buses to all the various activities etc, could be genuinely lifechanging.

O. M. G.

Sounds fab cag my two bed new build looks small from the outside but both bedrooms are a really decent size and the living room/diner is really big. Are you going to say yes?!

em your dh is being a dick, I don't know what to suggest really as I would have ltb months ago 😅 hopefully once mil buggers off everything will feel a bit easier.

Had a nice morning here, my friend wouldn't take any money for the wine so that was lovely, I bought her a cake and cuppa to say thanks!

Spends
£2 a card for a good friend
£4 coffees and cake

£30 cash to give me friend for spa evening.

I hope it settles down. I’ve messaged dh and told him that I’m going to speak to Someone about us on my own. I need to go through things with an independent person.

I don’t want to ltb. I’ll state that right now.

Dm says I should just let him be. And shouldn’t expect any support. And I should calm down and just get over everything. Do I think ddad gave her support? Etc. Essentially be a good quiet girl and don’t complain there’s a good wife.

I don’t think it sounds like LTB territory yet anyway Em. You know things are completely different while MIL is around, he’s a good guy normally, and things are often harder when you have a baby anyway (I must admit Cagletini has made things tenser round here!). But that absolutely doesn’t mean you have to put up with crappy behaviour or play the dutiful little woman. I think talking to someone is a great idea.

TBH Girlie I am pretty sure we would say yes. The only thing that worries me is the size, but having looked again at the photo we took (really hope the neighbours weren’t looking out at us thinking WTF are those weirdos doing spying on us 😳) I think it must be ok, as we can sort of work out what goes where. So basically unless we get in there and it’s REALLY tiny, I can’t think of anything that would make us turn it down. We could theoretically hold out for a bigger property, but there’s no guarantees, and they are likely to be far less central which would take away the huge benefits we’d have living nearer town.

I am in such a daze this afternoon. We should really be packing more but I feel like a total zombie.

Unescorted how do I find the planning portal thing please? I googled and found a thing on the council website about planning permission but nothing came up with the new address. Not sure if that’s the right thing 😳

Cag it sounds like the hours is in a really good position. I hope you get to see inside soon.

£39 on sandals.
DH bought coffees. Grocery delivery due tomorrow, it will be expensive due to DD having friends over at the weekend.

Oh em poor you

Cag this is so exciting! I'm actually a bit jealous

We've had a bbq and play at the park, paddling in the stream. All time parenting low of catching ds' poo in a dog poo bag as he was desperate spent £24 in Tesco but got £15 back from friends so lsd just about at £9.

So exciting cag

Don't know what to say to help em but you know we are here whatever you need

So far I have been awol but not written any job applications. Or been very frugal.

My mum emailed me today to say that my dad's cancer which they thought they had removed, is still there and has nodes that are spreading. Hospital have ruled out chemo due to his age and are referring him back to the GP. I'm just having visions of not nice things happening right now She didn't have any more info than that and my mum is not sure if my dad is understanding as he is so hard of hearing.

😂 at the dog poo bag wreck

Love Chemos not easy to go through. see what they want to try instead.

Em 🍷

Cag I’ve noticed the new builds these days are bigger than the Barrett boxes of the 80 and 90’s which were teeny tiny inside. The gated entry sounds brilliant, shows they want to keep the riffraff out .

I lived here before the bottom of the street was finished and it was really common for people to nose about the unsold plots. It was no bother.

£6 Tesco, mainly salad & dhs mayo.

Oh Love that doesn’t sound good. Where is the cancer? And do you think your mum understands the possibilities?

Cag it’s so hard to gauge space even when you see a property if it’s rmoty if furniture. It sounds as though it will be life changing, I am keeping everything crossed that there nothing you can’t live with.

Em it sounds like you and DH are having trouble communicating - no doubt exacerbated by the tension caused by MIL’s visit. Hopefully things will settle down soon.

Wreck 💩

DD is crawling round following DS everywhere and trying to touch him /his stuff. It’s driving him crazy, thus driving me crazy by proxy. I fear this phase may last a looooong time. Years even.

EMPTY OF FURNITURE. Ffs

It's in the bowel seacow. He's mid 80s and has aged significantly over the last couple of years. I'm concerned that they will just be leaving it to run it's course, as otherwise surely the hospital would be looking at treatment rather than the GP?

I think my mum does as she was talking about finding his notes where he has written his requests for his funeral

Love What does the GP do if a non-fixable cancer is referred back to him? I have no idea. Really sorry to hear that.

Love I'm really sorry to hear that. Sunny it'll be pain/symptom management.

Sorry to hear your news Love.

NSD here. Hooray!

Sorry love I didn't see your previous post. It does sound like they're going to be looking at managing symptoms rather than treating the cancer. I wouldn't jump to conclusions though, just because they can't treat it it doesn't necessarily mean things will deteriorate quickly

Sorry for your bad news, Love.

Love so sorry to hear that

I’m not clinical Love but I’ve just been through this scenario with my Granny, who was 91. They felt she would not be strong enough to withstand chemo or surgery so she did not have treatment. I can’t (and wouldn’t) say it will be the same for your father as every patient is different and clinicians also have to make their own decision about what treatment options are viable on a case by case basis. However, i don’t think it’s common to actively treat in this scenario so I think you should be prepared for that. I am so sorry you are all going through this. Please feel free to PM me if I can ever be if any help, or just listen

Sunny GPs have a role in onward referral if appropriate (eg to palliative care team) and they also provide quite a lot of care to patients with cancer, in the form of pain relief and supportive treatments like anti emetics, dietary supplements etc. Both my dad and gran had a lot of help from their GPs, including home visits. They were incredibly helpful and responsive

£9 supermarket on salad and ice cream (I've forgotten over the winter how quickly we go through this in sunny weather )

@Loveabaconsandwich I'm very sorry to hear that about DF. My DF has an incurable cancer; he's having treatment at the minute but I dread the day he is no longer considered able for it.

love so sorry