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Aspiring to Affording April Amusements

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mammymammyIRL · 11/04/2018 22:29

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QuiteCleanBandit · 17/04/2018 07:35

Its baffling how men get away with paying so little to support their own DC-disgraceful Creme Flowers
Im an avid news follower and its something I am always interested in.
News that is rather than opinion.
Yes its sometimes upsetting but it makes me feel grateful for the simple freedoms I have in life that are denied to others .
I do avoid FB and insta at times.

LonelyOversharer · 17/04/2018 08:00

creme you have my sympathies. I moan too much on here about my ex, but if I ever asked for extra money he would stop it all together. He has ranted about this. At least I don't have to see him.

Just pottering today, working and sorting things out. Have good days out there everyone.

Cagliostro · 17/04/2018 08:02

Creme 😡
Tesco order is here so must go and scan it all. I don’t think we actually had more veg than normal (or fruit as I’m not planning to do fruit this week) I think there’s more meat though. As well as more store cupboard stuff. Turns out a couple of things were unnecessary eg I found an entire Philadelphia in the fridge 😳🙄
Definitely not a NSD today as we are off to chessington to reuse the tickets from when it snowed. Woohoo!
I have saved at least £50 though as my friend is dropping off a breast pump (actually might be two different ones to try) and high chair booster 😀💐
Need to order the

ememem84 · 17/04/2018 08:17

Ds apparently was super noisy last night (dh slept in with him). He (dh) brought him in at 7 and has gone back to bed. We’re supposed to be doing the nursery drop off together then going for breakfast. But maybe I’ll do nursery on my own and do a food shop (also needs to be done today).

Ds has had 2 lots of eye drops now and his eye looks a million times better. Another 4 days of treatment though. He’s currently napping on bed. I’m aiming to drop him off by 930. So will wake him (if he isn’t already awake at 9). His nose is super snotty and some of it has dried on 🤮🤢 but he won’t let me wipe it, screams the place down when I try... Guess my kid is going to be the crusty snotty one at nursery today then...

I slept amazingly well so feel full of beans although my eye is a bit itchy

ChristmasSeacow · 17/04/2018 08:30

Love on the basis of your actual duties does it seem like it might be a temporary job or will they have an ongoing need for someone to do what you do? I wonder whether they are using the device of a temporary contract to have a sort of probation period (since probation periods in permanent contracts don't really mean anything)? Or are they keeping their options open to reduce staffing ‘painlessly’ in the future by issuing temporary contracts? It must be one or the other.

I think the only thing that makes a significant difference to your job security is whether there is an ongoing need for someone doing your role. If there is, and they like you, they will either make you permanent after 3 months or will issue another temporary contract (and keep rolling like that). It will make a lot of difference to how you feel (settled or not!) but it doesn’t make a huge difference in practical terms. You don’t have rights to redundancy pay until you have been there there two years. And those rights apply whether you are on a permanent or series of temporary contracts. So basically, before 2 years employers can get rid of staff relatively easily (especially if in a unique role in organisation as they can make the role redundant; much harder if they are, say, one of 5 drivers doing the same job as you’d have to have a fair basis for selecting a particular individual) ; after 2 years of work on any sort of contractual basis the worker has the right to redundancy pay.

The nature of the contract makes a bit of difference to notice periods but before 2 years they’d only gave to give you a minimum of a week’s notice of making you redundant even if you were permanent.

I don’t know whether this will make you feel better or worse but what I’m trying to say is that, from my understanding, permanent contracts don’t offer much greater protection anyway!

There may be differences in terms of pensions, sick pay etc but I think staff on temporary contracts should have the same terms as permanent staff.

I would ask them about if I were in your shoes - calmly and in a matter of fact way - why the the role isn’t on a permanent contract and why this wasn’t made clear at the time of recruitment (when you could reasonably have expected them to make it clear). I wouldn’t react too much - poker face - but I would ask!

It’s taken me an age to type this as DS has had a massive meltdown. Which DH could have averted, IMO, so I am highly irritated with him as he left me to pick up the pieces!

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 17/04/2018 08:59

Love yep!! Was hoping for a nice sunny day to get all my washing dry, dd keeps complaining she has run out of tights/ knickers/ school tops etc!!

Creme you have my sympathies, I have never had a penny from dds dad Angry how some one can 'pretend' that their child is nothing to do with them is beyond me. I am lucky to have supportive parents who help with school trips.

Dd had a friend call for her this morning to walk to school together, this is a first and was nice to see Smile

Does anyone know if the 'rules' around snow days, when we had all that snow there was one day where I couldn't get into work, I spoke to my line manger and asked what I should do and she said work from home as much as possible which I did. Senior management are now threatening that it will be unpaid leave!! I thought if reasonable attempts had been made to get into work and it was too dangerous plus you worked from home they surely can't not pay you?!!

Anyway, plan for today is go for a run (after running on Sunday for the first time ever my legs weren't agony the next day!!) then do a few errands and need to get some food at Aldi.

WreckTangled · 17/04/2018 09:05

Girlie they should have a written policy on this so maybe check? If you're WFH then surely you should still be paid though? Our policy says annual leave or unpaid leave unless you have school Age dc in which case paid parental leave if their school is closed.

SnugglySnerd · 17/04/2018 09:37

Em they all get conjunctivitis when they start nursery. You also have at least one nasty d&v bug to look forward to and a permanent cold for the next 3 months or so. It's to make going back to work just that little bit harder! Hope he's better soon.

Should be another NSD today.

SunnyLikeThursday · 17/04/2018 10:05

Apparently I have vitamin D deficiency. Exciting How do they manage to turn blood tests around in less than 24 hours?

WreckTangled · 17/04/2018 10:06

Sunny many blood tests come back same day. My vitamin d is low too. Most people's are it's amazing the affect it can have on your body though. I'm ten days into my course and already feeling better.

ememem84 · 17/04/2018 10:12

Baby dropped off and now for breakfast with dh.

Aspiring to Affording April Amusements
SunnyLikeThursday · 17/04/2018 10:16

That's great that you feel better wreck. Great news. That's amazing that blood tests happen so fast too. I didn't know that.

I'm puzzling now about how to solve the problem. Supplements don't agree with me and fish makes me insomniac, unless I take magnesium supplements, which also don't agree with me. I tried magnesium salts in the bath once which made me feel very stoned for a long time afterwards. Clearly naked sunbathing is the answer. Or lawnmowing in a bikini, which one of my neighbours does.

WreckTangled · 17/04/2018 10:21

There's a vitamin d spray you can get might that be better on your stomach etc?

Fluffycloudland77 · 17/04/2018 10:47

I use a Vit d in olive oil on Amazon. 5 drops per day. I do have more energy now.

Loveabaconsandwich · 17/04/2018 10:48

You are right seacow, temporary contract or permanent contract, I don’t really have that many employment rights anyway. My job could end on the whim of my employer, but on the other side of this I do like the fact I could leave quite easily on a whim too. I feel less trapped compared to my old job iyswim and that have been great for my mental health.

This time of year is their busy time. I mainly help other people with their excess work rather than have my own standalone job. But everyone else does have too much to do especially as they want to work part time too. I guess I will know really when we have the review at two months (he seems to have forgotten to do the one month review) which I will ensure happens. His one in three Saturday rota doesn’t work without me and his other office staff won’t be receptive there will be a mutiny if they have to do more.

My washing is out on the line too girlie

ChristmasSeacow · 17/04/2018 10:52

Girlie for snow days they don’t have to pay you. I doubt the trust policy is specific about snow but they don’t have to allow paid leave so it will be up to the trust to decide whether they allow it in this case. Whenever this situation has arisen in my time in the nhs they haven’t Sad.

However, if your manager suggested you work from home, and you did, then it should be treated as a normal working day for you ie not leave of any kind. For staff in a role where they can’t meaningfully work from home (such a ward nurse on shifts) then their manager shouldn’t agree working from home in first place. If you could do some meaningful work from home then that is for your manager to agree locally. As they did in this case. So I’d talk to your manager (nicely, but if they don’t think your working from home counts as a working day they shouldn’t have agreed it in the first place, it’s their error!)

Most blood tests can be run in under an hour and often are for eg chemo patients who needs tests before their chemo can start. However, in central hospital labs they are run through big machines in batches so if it’s not urgent they will take a bit longer as they can then batch them up through the machine. Takes time to get the samples to the lab too.

Heading to M&S shortly to pick up a click and collect coat for DS. After ditching his winter coat I have realised his raincoat is looking rather small!

Loveabaconsandwich · 17/04/2018 10:55

Your exDH sounds a knob creme especially if he has no financial worries

SunnyLikeThursday · 17/04/2018 11:12

That's amazing that it's so quick Christmas. I had no idea.

Fluffy and Wreck those both sound good. I'll have a look. Thanks. SmileSmileSmile

I need to find a magnesium supplement too, as I don't sleep if I take vitamin D without magnesium. Do any of you try these magnesium on skin things? I've never done it, except with magnesium bath salts which gave me a woozly head.

Fluffycloudland77 · 17/04/2018 11:20

This one

SunnyLikeThursday · 17/04/2018 11:34

Thanks Fluffy.

My ds went back to school today and man-damn am I tired. Holidays are a lot of work aren't they?

Girliefriendlikesflowers · 17/04/2018 11:53

I feel like I'm going mad here, my clothes still smell 😭 have messaged my neighbours and one of them has had the same problem, ffs so it probably wasn't the machine at all and is a problem with the water or drains! !! I am so annoyed (putting it politely) going to ring the water people in a minute..... 😤

Thanks re snow day info, I worked from home on my laptop updating care plans etc but it seems so unfair that it's even questioned when a) we get snow about once every 10 years and b) I haven't had a lunch break in about 10 years!!!!

SunnyLikeThursday · 17/04/2018 11:55

Girlie That certainly would explain it. What a thought though. Yuk. Well done for working it out.

Bornlazy · 17/04/2018 12:09

Just checking in again. Have been mostly sticking to meal planning and have realised that it has to be written down in my notebook or it doesn't work. If it's just in my head I tend to deviate from it too much and DH also needs to see it to follow it when I'm at work.

Have also been using cashback sites as much as I can, although trying to not buy things I don't need just so I can get it...

Girlie the snow days were at the discretion of each Trust. Ours gave one for the worst day (a day that I risked life and limb and made it in) but as seacow said if they've agreed to you working from home then surely that's their fault.

Bornlazy · 17/04/2018 12:13

Aww Girlie I wish I'd posted earlier as sometimes it is the pipes that drain the water that are the problem. A washing machine engineer told my friend that the best way to maintain your machine is to never let any waste go down your sink. I so don't adhere to that Blush

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