Frugaleers chatting and saving in the April sunshine.

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Welcome to the new thread. This is a support thread for chatting and discussion of family budgeting.

Oh no mammy, hope you get in soon!

I have my legs crossed! ..

mammy, we are just discussing the marathon de Sable. You can join us in the dry dusty desert. 😀

Laska we took a motor home across Europe several years ago when we were young and feckless. We only came back because we weren't brave enough to homeschool the kids. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I am tempted to set up a consultancy to do my job from the other side.... It could be done remotely from a borrowed wifi. Maybe in the next round of redundancy.

Argh Mammy think dry arid thoughts. Hope your turn is quickly

Just seen ds for the first time in nearly 48 hours which was nice.

Dh has been to the house whilst I’ve been at work and left me a letter, honestly not sure how I feel about it.

Meeting with social worker later this week probably to discuss contact between ds and dh. I think dh is likely to get sacked as well as whatever else may happen so I am not sure what my financial position is but it looks like divorce is a definite from the letter. Quite honestly I was expecting a call today to say he’d killed himself and I’m not sure whether that would have been a relief or not which sounds like an awful thing to say.

Not really. I think much worse thoughts.

wolf you know any actions your dh has done is his choice and not a reflection on you. You also can't change the past so concentrate on your future. Visualise what it looks like for you, try out different versions and when it is what you want head straight in that direction without a glance back.
Sometimes in the worst parts of dh being a dick I would wish that he had decided to top himself or die in a horrible painful death....this would save me having to put up with my dm telling me that she was right and she always thought him a bad one. It was my fantasy get out clause. Don't feel guilty that you want a way to get away from the situation without any social fallout. It is very understandable.

Wolf I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time.

WreckCat is super fluffy tonight

Wreck cat is a gorgeous big teddy bear

Wolf Where is ds now? Is he with you? He must be feeling confused.

He is super chilled....

wolf one day at a time. My grandma says that things will be ok in the end and if they’re not ok it’s not the end. Wise old Devonian lady she is hopped up on gin and clotted cream and crumpets most of the time

mammy dry thoughts 🐪🐫

Dh has eaten practically a whole rhubarb crumble. Dm gave us leftovers. I hate rhubarb.

I’ve told him about ds’ day today. We are super proud of the little fella. I may have had a cry (in the shower while I was washing my hair). He’s going to be the best little person ever.

mammy that’s it - I’ll be getting that part of me back. I’ll get to be one of those those “busy working mums” I hear so much about. Dparents are looking forward to having him yes. They can’t wait!

NSD.

Snuggly ds is with me now he thinks dh is away with work

I love rhubarb. I have an amazing rhubarb and ginger ice cream recipe. It is heaven in a bowl.

Hm. I only like rhubarb when it’s pureed. And chucked in prosecco/sparkly wine. Sort of like a Bellini. But rhubarb not peach. Mmmm Bellini.

Wolf that sounds right. YY to whoever said his actions are his actions. Whether you could have known, stopped or controlled whatever it was is unlikely. Social services will no doubt be routine, depending on what happened.
Dh has to face the consequences of the situation but it's also bloody awful for you.

Can you get legal advice on separation. You are public service/civil service? The union have a legal helpline if you are a member. (Pcs union) also employees assistance are excellent too. (Eap) free phone 24 hours helpline.

By right I meant to tough in my first sentence

I got seen and he did normal ultrasound first and then I'd to completely empty my bladder for transvaginal one, when I came back after doing this doctor sent me back to loo, wanting to make sure bladder was completely empty, never enjoyed a visit to loo as much!

Wolf your dh must have done something terrible, not prying btw. hope you and your ds are ok and whatever happened it's all on him.

Em I love that saying

I had forgotten about employee assistance. They are really good. Our in house solicitors are also bob on with signposting and reading legalese. It may not be a topic that is their specialism but they are able to unlock the thirty eleventy commas.

mammy glad you made it...I would have been sat in a puddle.

Mammy glad you managed a wee I feel I need one just reading your post!

Unescorted after ds they were doing an ultrasound for me and had me on a drip at the time, the scan ran late & my bladder was overloaded the doctor asked me to pee out just half

Quick check in before bed 😪

Washing machine repair man confirmed I needed a new washing machine so have spent £320 on a new bosch one, went via cash back and bought from AO, it was def the cheapest. They are also taking the old one away for £20. Going to attempt to unplumb and replumb the old/new one 😕 myself.

Have also booked a summer holiday with my mum and dd in bideford, mums paid for it and I owe her about £190, will pay back nearer the time!!

No other spends.

wolf that sounds unbelievably stressful, well done on holding it together and getting through work.

em I liked going back to work, I actually feel like I appreciated the time with dd more, that said working mum guilt still creeps in now from time to time!! Unfortunately I think guilt and worry come as part of the parcel of having kids.

mammy eek!! I so need a wee now!!

It’s a piece of piss Girlie. Hardest bits getting it back under the counter.

If he leaves get him off the council tax so you get it cheaper Wolf.