Welcome Dotcom. I am sorry your pregnancy /labour has left you less able-bodied than before. You sound very balanced about it all. I hope things are going well with the baby anyway - sounds as though you are entering a new era all round which may be a positive!
Cag I feel for you, I know that sinking feeling too well. TBH I don't really know much about what is classed as a learning difficulty and what is not, in the context of ASD /neurodisability... However, what strikes me is that you've seen your DD's confidence grow since you started home ed (the odd setback from nasty kids is unavoidable unless you never go out!) and she and DS are engaged and interested in the world, and learning well. She may have some difficulties but you and she have obviously done a great job of adjusting how you work together, maybe without even realising. You have the great advantage of understanding your children pretty well, which many of us SN parents don't have. You are doing a great job. As someone upthread said, take the opportunity to Marshall all your questions before the next appointment and consider that the Ed Psych might offer some useful pointers. Chin up 
I had a call about DS's EHCP today - we are now in week 23 of the 20-week statutory deadline for completion 
. They have decided to send the NHS therapists' inadequate reports back to the NHS for revision. Which is what I asked for 3 weeks ago, so not sure what they've been doing in the meantime. One silver lining: they are obviously so far behind that I won't be getting a revised draft in the next 2 weeks. So at least I can push this baby out without a highlighter pen in my hand.
I have been unfrugal bad today 
. I paid £75 to have the car completely valeted outside my house. 2 men in a van came and spent 2 hours of hard work on it and it looks brand new. I usually clean it myself inside and out but haven't done for a year months. The outside wasn't too bad but the inside was dusty and sandy and covered in fingerprints etc and 'bits' where DH has been taking things to the tip. They would have done a quicker and cheaper clean but I thought I'd go full monty - they even buffed up all the minor scratches on the outside with something miraculous so they have disappeared. And it smells lush. I want to just sit in it. Now we can bring baby home in a lovely clean car 
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Other than that just £8 top up to get fruit and sausages for DS.
Oh, that's not true... I had to order 2 bras because the only 2 that fit me have both busted their underwires in the last week. I am not supposed to be wearing underwires but my boobs are so massive it's pretty much impossible not to. I buy the same bravissimo bra all the time as it's the only one that is a good fit, in my extensive experience.
Gawd, good job I've been earning recently 
. Back to proper frugal after the baby (when I can bend down and do my own chores).