need i hope its not a behavioural issue too. really hope is isn't. girlie it is super frustrating. and i am sure that she probably wasn't socialised properly by her first humans. (assuming she had first humans - she wasn't microchipped, and no one had come looking for her - the only sign that points to first humans is that she was in really good health, and that the kittens she had were apparently born to her and her brother cat - hence the heart defect hence them dying - if she didnt have humans thats too much of a coincidence).
whatever the back story - she's been through a lot and we have to continue being patient. as much as i wanted to cry this morning at the wet couch i just cleaned it, carried on talking to her, telling her it didn't matter. that it was ok. and praising her for being in the living room at nighttime. i woke up at about 3 and could hear her scampering about, playing with her mouse, and chirruping (another sign to me that nothings wrong - they don't make that noise unless happy).
whatever happens, we won't give up on her. couldn't do it.
I'm home from work now, and have steamed the couch, cushion covers have been washed today and I've bunged them in the dryer for a bit to dry off. i honestly believe that because i wasn't doing my job properly and cleaning the litter properly she was feeling uncomfortable. and because i hadn't cleaned the couch properly she was still smelling pee and therefore peeing.
dh thinks she's hiding because maybe she thinks we don't care (because of the litter box) or because she feels guilty for peeing on the couch. i hope he's right. i'm sat on the floor in the hallway at i type this, and she's sat behind the chair. she keeps poking her head out and looking at me. she knows I'm here, its almost as though she wants to see what I'm up to, but isn't quite brave enough.
i'm keeping track of pee mishaps now and litter scoops. its annoying as the lady we got her from told me to use the wood pellet litter. then told me to scoop the poop out on a daily basis. nothing about the pee. i didn't ask either i imagine though that with about 30 cats she had to empty boxes daily so didn't think about it really. the only times we have had mishaps have been: when she first arrived (understandable she wouldnt have known where the box is), then again the week later, after the vets (again, stressful situation) and last friday night and again last night (both of the last times, i cleaned the litter out the next day - and it was a bit damp - and last night i should have done it, but was too lazy bad cat mummy)
so am keeping track to see if theres a correlation.
trying we have a litter box with a roof and a flap. we started her with just the tray part, then added the roof. then put the flap on. she peed on the couch that night too. i think the flap confused her. so we got rid of the flap.
genie its interesting to hear about others spending habits. i read that you don't use/buy make up skincare etc and was initially shocked. how could you not? but then i thought about how much i spent last year. so its easy. i guess if its not something you've ever done its easy - I've been conditioned by society and my mother to do it. i don't wear make up at the weekends (don't actually wear much during the week) and i feel fresher for it. i like my skin to breath (although have the horrible thing now of hormonal spots annoyed i thought i was done with those when i was in my early 20's, damm coming off the pill and knowing they look awful without makeup but knowing that putting it on is making it worse...).
i am a sucker for shiny packaging i swear i must be part magpie and for a miracle product. and for a glossy fashion magazine. not that i buy the clothes...i just like the pictures. 
but have discovered pinterest for that.
i spoke to the boss today about us maybe being more "smasual" in the office, with smart only for client meetings. i could have done with being in jeans, boots and a snuggly jumper today.
have challenged my team at work to a no spend on clothes until december. and one make up free day a week. that was todays challenge. they've challenged me to cut down on tea. 
italian glad to hear you are ok and are resting 
keepon for me it is definitely about price per wear. i bought boots last year for walking. i had wanted wellies. then wanted dubarry boots (lovely but mega spends). i looked on amazon and bought a pair of toggi quebec boots. still £120 at the time, but are good for walking, and also for riding and they look nicer than wellies and are totally waterproof and comfy have switched them out for my short jodhpur boots now. so long warm waterproof boots. were planning on walking to work at least 3 times a week now, so when its cold and wet ill get my moneys worth.
id much rather have one really nice something than lots of cheaper not so nice somethings iyswim.
collie i think it was you who suggested i download the blunts app for my phone. i am now 14000 steps away from a £5 voucher for pizza hut/new look/somewhere! and so far this year on my mapmywalk app 1000km challenge I've walked....926km. so close. phew.
i think I'm caught up now....