We are Resolutely Frugal! Frugaleers continuing their new frugal year. All welcome!

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Hello! I hope nobody minds me starting the new thread :o

lovetoknit thanks! have dp ownloaded it , I like Dan Lepards reciped ( we use his bread book lots) , and the weighing of ingredents to ensure a set sounds good , last time the marmalade was a bit runny, (but it cured DH of gesticulating wildly , toast in hand, whilst ranting at the news at breakfast though!)

BTW I can spell, just not type !!

laska I've just come off the phone from Sony. They have apparently found the playstation, so now we just have to wait to hear what they say.

Hooray! north fingers crossed !

I saw that laska, outrageous! Although I noticed in the supermarket this week that all the Head and Shoulders was on offer except the men's one. I got DH the normal sort and he hasn't noticed!
I'm upset about something today but not sure how to confront it without upsetting my mum, I think I was a bit snappy with her as it is.
Basically she looks after DD on Thursdays in our house which is amazing of her and DD adores her. I know it's hard to prepare food with a toddler so I always leave something like soup or pasta she can microwave and she knows there is always fruit, cheese, crackers and sometimes cake for snacks. They had lunch early today because DD was hungry. Since then all she's had all afternoon is a satsuma that they shared and a few blueberries. DD was starving poor thing. She had also randomly given her half a fairy cake at lunch time, she thought a whole one might be too much!
I don't know what to say to her, DD usually eats a lot more, I don't want to seem ungrateful about the free childcare.
Mum worries a lot about choking and was very anxious when DD first started solids so I don't know if that has something to do with it. I'm wondering how I wasn't completely malnourished as a child!
Sorry that's totally off-topic, I'm quite upset about how hungry DD was when I got home.
DH gets paid tomorrow, his pay rise is about half what we thought. His work really undervalue him. NSD though - yay!

Pointless maybe send more food? Tell your mum you felt bad that she had to prep tea as well so you thought you'd just send it to make her day easier?

Sorry, forgot to mention I cook a meal for us all when I get home. Mum doesn't have to prepare any food at all, she just doesn't give her half the food I leave for her!

Ah ok. Maybe say 'dd is eating loads these days so I hope I've sent enough food she will probably want some toast mid afternoon as well as all that lunch'. I don't know it's tricky having family look after your dc! I've done my fair share of moaning behind my step mums back

Yes that's a good suggestion spotty, really don't want to upset her she's brilliant with DD in every other respect.

Pointlesss that would upset me as well, I would do up a pack lunch and put out all the food you would expect dd to eat. Maybe also leave her written instructions of dds normal routine. It is tricky when family are doing childcare though as they are doing you a favour but I think you have to say something.

Its been another work day today but not been too busy so that was a nice change! I spent £1.25 on a cup of tea and cinnamon bun which was delicious, also £2.50 on dds school dinner. Found out that school dinners have gone up to £2.50 from £2.30 last year which I think is a bit steep!

Pointless if ds1 tells me he is hungry between lunch and dinner i tell him to wait. Today he had a rice cake as he asked but I don't do many snacks outside meal times. I'm wondering if I don't feed him enough. Oops. He's two and pretty tiny. He gets three good meals and and a snack in the morning but in the afternoon he doesn't always.

Just popping on to share our fab news.........we have become aunty & uncle tonight
I'm an only child & dh has one sister (so chances of a niece or nephew were always slim) Sil & her dh have gone through Ivf, miscarriages, such a tough, traumatic few years. They had almost given up when she fell pregnant naturally. So now we have a beautiful tiny nephew and have cracked open fizz left from Christmas . Dd is bursting with excitement

Failed dry January. Epic fail.

Burns night was super fun. Had haggis wine canapés dancing and poetry. And bagpipes. Best corporate networking thingy I've been to for ages.

£8 on lunch. Galette avec cheese ham and egg, waffle with ice cream and strawberries and a coffee. Yum.

Colleague brought in custard donuts.

Not very healthy day at all.

northender fabulous news, Congratulations new Aunty (and a great excuse to buy unfrugal things for him!) !! What is his name?

Congratulations north that's so exciting! Have fun choosing baby gifts.
Pleased it's not just me being sensitive. I'm going to see mum on my own at the weekend so will try to discuss it calmly then, I was far too tired and grumpy tonight!
We've just checked our online banking. Our holiday balance is due tomorrow and because of our frugalling plus a bit of Xmas money we can afford it without using cc or savings - wow!
DH's birthday soon so need to start thinking about that/putting aside some money.

Congrats North! 😀

Pointless could you leave more soft foods for dd to eat (if your mum is nervous) ie yogurts

Not being very frugal at minute! But going to be very strict with myself & bring back a dress I bought in sales. Going to use the money to buy 2 baby presents & 70th present 🤔
Trying to stay within the grocery budget!

His name is Lewis Samuel. They holidayed on Lewis a few years ago and decided it was such a beautiful place that it would be their choice of boys name.

Congratulations North

NSD.

Had a phone call this afternoon to tell me DS us not doing his homework. I have given him sanctions, unfortunately DH got all uptight and involved, ended in a blazing row. DH threw DS's dinner across the room and I had to stand between them. FFS he's 11, not sure which one is being more childish. DH doesn't even care if the homework gets done or not, only that DS is lying about it. DS says he might as well lie about everything since he is never believed.

I made DH clear up the mess he made.

Tomorrow DS will have to apologise.

Sigh.

Sigh indeed. Men eh?

Congratulations Aunty North

Thank god DH is going away in the early hours of Sunday morning. If I can get DS to apologise and then stay out of DH's way tomorrow, he won't see him again until next weekend.

Pointless when I was small there were never any snacks. Maybe a combo of generation, slightly anxious of chocking, possibly forgotten how much food a small child can pack away.

Audit DH needs to apologise too, hope DS is okay.

Congrats Auntynorth

£3.30 in baker's
£2 on small hairspray
£2.45 on coffee

Audit that sounds like an horrendous over reaction of your dh does he have some underlying issues around lying I think he needs to be apologising to D's, had he have thrown your dinner in an argument people would be saying domestic abuse.

I think with homework have consequences in place if he doesn't do it and he suffers the consequence at school as well but you can't make a child do homework

EastMids I agree that DH should be apologising to DS, but I can't see that happening. It is very fortunate that DH is going away on Sunday. DS will be out tomorrow from before DH gets up, until he has gone to work in e evening, so they won't really see each other. Unfortunately DS is a bit of a smart mouth who also has a temper and they bring out the worst in each other. I have to get DS to learn to say things on the "inside" which was how o dealt with my dad.

I'm not aware that DH has specific issues with lying, but he is fairly open and would be likely to catch himself out if he tried to lie much.

Sorry, it was Adora who said he should apologise. The thing is, I don't believe in negotiating with children, but DH has harder still expectations than I do.

The stupid thing is, that DH doesn't really care if DS does his homework or not, as long as DS just says he isn't going to do it, rather than saying it is done, when it isn't.

I asked the school what further sanctions they have if detentions aren't working, and they said they didn't want to escalate it at this stage, just for me to be aware if the position, so I know what is going on. Talking to a friend, at her son's school, she receives a text if her son gets a detention for filing to turn in homework. I'm going to suggest this might be a good policy for our school to adopt.

I am going to ask to be made aware each time he doesn't turn in homework.

I can check his "show my homework" where most homework is posted online, but not all if it. I don't think DS realises this is punishment for me too.

Congratulations aunty north
Tough situation re the homework. Are you going to talk to DS while dh is away. The lying would get me too.
Nsd planned but running out of some fresh stuff so will need a top up before Mondays shop