The friendly frugaleers natter on through November...

[blueteapot]

Hope you dont mind me starting a shiny new thread

Aw thanks need :) definitely have solo bath time down in this house lol! I'm just feeling good sorry for myself with this sodding sore throat. And I think part of it is also knowing that when I go back to work in a few weeks then both DH and I will be working long hours which will probably feel even longer than this past few days have felt to me to the DC. But for at least a year. Just feeling sad all over today really

Em I've just chewed Dh out for leaving shit everywhere too. It's really getting me down. He will cook and will clean the bathroom if I nag him for three weeks first but it's the stuff left lying around/not put away/ not put back properly that posses me off. He uses the office floor as laundry basket (3 steps from the actual laundry basket) and then bangs it all in th e wash at once. I just find it disrespectful and lazy

And the worst bit about the junk everywhere is they will always ask "have you seen....?" or "Do you know where ....is?" The answer is always "no". He even rings me at work to ask me. We have been married 20 years you would think he would have learnt by now that even if I know exactly where it is I am not going to tell him because it makes his life easier after he has made mine harder.... pah!

Anyhoo - Today is monthly shop day. I am so lacking in inspiration. It is going to be one of those throw random crap in trolley shops. I musn't forget bog roll.

unescorted see that's the magic thing in our house. I always know where things are. Dh has just spent the last half hour looking for his keys. I know that they're in the washing basket. Because they were in some jeans that were washed yesterday.

I've just taken all my washing out of the hamper and shoved it all in the machine. All together. It's mostly darks.... So should be ok. I hope.

He's agreed he will sort the spare room today. We'll see.

I'm making lists of things to be tidied, thrown away, given to charity. All to be done after exams. Today's study chapter - takeovers and acquisitions of plcs. Yawn.

"do you know where X is?"

"In the cupboard by the fridge"

"it's not"

"it's not there"

"it is. You're not looking properly"

"It's"

"found it?"

"Yes"

"where did you find it"

"in the cupboard by the fridge, but it was behind something"

Every time. I refuse to go and help if I know something is definitely there.

Fluffy...are you me??!

Peppa it is a transcript of a conversation Fluffy overheard in our house.

Electro it creeps up on you.

Pointless I don't think you need to worry about offending your neighbour. I'm sure she realises it could be weird to have her clean your house. Oddly I was thinking that same and I mentioned to a friend of mine who cleans that I was looking for someone and she got all excited. She said she had no slots left though, so couldn't do it. Shame really.

Need and blue my dh was the same when ds was small. He was working 8am right through to 1am (telecommuting to US) every day with only breaks for meals, and I was doing the night shift as well. dh was working from home which was nice but somehow the working from home meant that he never ever stopped working unless he was asleep. It was pretty crappy for both of us and once he got an office outside home he started knocking off at 6pm and that was much better.

Electro, maybe you can save yours. Ours were badly trained.

£13 in tescos but £10 of that will come back off click snap. When it does I can buy some stuff to make my own scented candles. This Yankee candle is rubbish.

Fluffy I smelt some Homebase Christmas scented candles last week and they were horrific. I asked DH to sniff them too and they made him wretch. They put me off all candles - even Yankee ones. I'd love to make my own! Intrigued to know how yours turn out.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/arts_and_crafts/a788341-Oooooooooh-I-have-just-made-candles-with-10-oils-and?msgid=57541161#57541161

I've been reading this old thread. Seems doable.

Blue sorry you are feeling like that. It is the pits feeling poorly on top of the what feels like single parenting. (I know it's not the same before I get flamed but it is tough) it's always worse when you are ill. Be kind to yourself and do what needs to be done to get by. I'm a shift working, never in on time at the end of the shift widow so I concur.

Spendy day £46 on shirts for dh as he is moving in to a none uniform role. Was £82 so a good saving. Still needs more shirts, shoes and another suit. £23 in waterstones but one was signed by the author. £17 on cafe lunch, £10 at Christmas craft fair

For all those who have dhs who leave stuff everywhere and hate cleaning and can't find anything - I am also that person. I am always into doing things and starting new projects and I almost always fail to tidy up the loose ends of the last one before finishing the next one. Hence total stuff-chaos. One of the reasons why I wanted to get a small job writing was because then I would have something to do that didn't involve more clutter. It's tough for a natural clutter-bug to become tidy though.

Good luck there Blue. I remember that phase so well, and I really have no idea of what to say to help. I feel your pain though and I hear how hard you are working. There should be some kind of medal for this. The Russians used to give women medals for raising children.

I'm really enjoying having our hall look a bit more civilised today. It's still just an empty room with bare floorboards but it's so much nicer than the old carpet.

Ooh, ipsos, you can't come and live with me then, sorry. I am a neat freak and we would drive each other nus!

I am a real neat freak lol, happy enough to tidy up after my DH to be honest as hes so tired all the time with all his commuting / work that if I waited for him to do it there would be arguments, which I don't want as he's so lovely (just messy with it, but that's just him). I am beyond tidy so I can understand how those standards could be hard to live with...

Feeling a bit better now thanks guys. Had family for dinner and spoke on the phone to DH who is going to try to get away from work a bit early. Both kids are napping which helps!

Home made scented candles sound worth a go! I am currently working through a stash of Yankee tarts from last xmas, they're now seasonal again lol

There's DS up - I spoke too soon lol

Glad you're feeling better, Blue.

NSD.

We've had a grown up day out today. Watched spectre then had a burger at five guys mmmm spent my boots points on Christmas bits dh bought my mascara and bras plus party shoes for dd advent calendars and batteries. I bought a load of cards and paper in card factory for £6 something and shoes for ds for £19. I'm annoyed boots won't let you use your nhs discount when redeeming points

Same conversations here time after time with DH.

Glad you are feeling a touch better Blue. Sometimes, just having a few minutes with no children around helps enormously. I eventually got mine into napping at the same time and that hour saved my sanity in a long day.

Ipsos You can bugger off and live somewhere else too, don't try and live at mine, 2 teens and a DH, all messy, are quite enough

Been to a Christmas craft fair today and had a lovely day with friends. Bit spendy, but I ordered DH's Christmas present.

It's a needastrongeone family tree, etched into black slate. The bottom will have our marriage date, then above, there's a lovely etched tree and in the leaves will be our names and dates of birth. Was £69. But so original and DH doesn't need anything in particular and he will love this.

Also bought some super cards 5 for a fiver and paid for coffees as my friend drove.

Hello all, glad you are feeling a bit better Blue parenting is bloody hard work and I find everything feels much worse when you are under the weather yourself.

Had a busy day in the end, met my mum for coffee this morning, spent £10 in Poundland on bits and bobs and found the cable I need for the dvd player for £3 in Morrisons. Been at a kids bowling party this afternoon and gave dd £2 to spend on the arcades with her mate. Oh and also spent £7.40 on lunch in Morrisons. Eek quite spend really, oh well.

My skin is awful at the moment, I have so many spots its ridiculous - I am going to be 37 next week ffs!! Anyone with any good skin care tips advice welcome

La Roche posay duo cream is excellent. there was a code on the net for £3 off a tube.

We have a word for it in our house, we call it man-looking! DH is rubbish at finding things.
Pleased you are feeling a bit better blue.
NSD here. Have made a veg, chick pea and Quorn casserole in the sc to use up bits. Made some dumplings and put them in half an hour ago but they don't seem to be cooking. Need to eat in next 15 mins, panicking a bit!