How were the lockdowns for you?

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looking back

Im on the left but started listening to Talk TV (then talk radio) when they announced the November 2020 lockdown

I remember you posting about this at the time, and the responses you got.

I hope that all those who were so utterly vile to those unable to wear masks even though we wanted to, and made a difficult time even more awful, look back now and feel thoroughly ashamed of themselves.

Hard with a newborn, but on the plus side DH had to be at home too which was a bit of a relief. Tbh I think if we hadn’t had a child I would have found it a bit frustrating but fine, just would have read more books. I wasn’t permanently negatively impacted or anything. No-one I know has suffered long term negative effects and luckily we didn’t lose anyone.

Awful. Lockdown 1 just found out I was pregnant and told we were 'covid pregnancy guinepigs'. Lockdown 2 giving birth when husband's weren't allowed in with 15 month old at home. Lockdown 3, illegal to see friends and family...newborn and 18 month old. End up on anti-depressants that I haven't managed to get off of. Seems worse looking back, I was in a total blur at the time. Took to Februaru 2021 to realise the effect and seek help from docs.

I remember it too Utterly vile

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/coronavirus/3991985-Rape-survivors-being-castigated-for-not-wearing-masks

That’s horrific, your poor FIL, I can’t imagine anyone being callous or dismissive of CSA. Some people are just monsters.

Mixed. Awful work wise - I had to lead a cohort of students through a degree entirely online with no support from the university. To be honest I'm still exhausted from it because we never stopped. Personally it was ok and allowed us to move house to somewhere we love. But I'm still astonished by the mental load that work allowed lecturers to carry.

I am sending you my deepest condolences Flauralaura. Suicide has a devastating effect on all those left behind I know.

Poor FIL was in the vulnerable category on several counts as was MIL so he had every reason to take all preca but this was something he just couldn't cope with. At least his oncologist was sympathetic.

I feel terrible saying this but it was probably the best year ever.

After about April 2020, when we began to realise that maybe we weren't all going to die, we just got on with it.

We have two teens and live in a city by the sea, and 2020 for us was long cycle rides, tennis in car parks, summer spent by a river 30 minutes away as the beaches were heaving, late nights, late mornings, yoga at home.

It can be summed up by a feeling of huge gratitude for small positives really.

@Flauralaura well this is the other side, gosh. I am so utterly sorry for what you went through.

Unfortunately this was a theme on here. One poster in particular was very vocal, telling rape/abuse survivors that they needed to get counselling and snap out of it and stop playing the victim.

Aside from the first few weeks when it was all clapping and baking bread, sadly lockdowns brought out the worst in a lot of people.

I really, truly hope that they have had a chance to reflect on the damage they did to others.

My DC were pretty much abandoned, no meaningful education and it was made clear we could go whistle for any NHS assistance for our ND child. That was and continues to be a very bitter pill to swallow. The social side wasn't as bad as it could've been because we only really did the first couple of months, then made the decision to continue seeing loved ones once it became clear which way the wind was blowing.

I was about to return to work after maternity leave, but didn’t as I knew I’d need to home school. We ended up living in cramped conditions and having to budget carefully. However DP’s line of work was unaffected and is now growing and he’s been promoted. DD did well with homeschooling and I had the time to help her. However DS has a very significant speech delay. I feel guilty that I maybe neglected him to help DD as he was only 2. I have returned to work now, but part time/low paid and I’m more doing the ‘mum’ role. Lots of things we can’t afford but I’m trying to focus on the very basics and ensure the DC’s are ok - particularly DS. There’s been a ‘shift’ in me. I’ve definitely stopped socialising as much - and things like going out to a pub, out for a meal : I can’t afford/don’t really enjoy anymore…

Hats off to you. I've only recently graduated and am seeing horrible things at times, but obviously I've missed the start of the pandemic. Some shifts I can't stop thinking about how nurses were working through covid.
It must have been truly horrendous.

Horrific. I worked in icu and did c sections at the bedside

Awful. I thought my 16 year old DS was having a breakdown. I hope it never happens again.

Stressful and tense but not bad. I had everyone I love with me. I enjoyed zoom quizzes and it made me realise who my friends were.