CV with Covid and no-one gives a toss

[EatSleepRantRepeat]

Tested positive on Weds, since them have been getting far worse with symptoms, been in bed pretty much since then and using my inhaler several times a day.

Not one person has bothered to check in on me and DH to offer any help. All the friends who were bleating on demanding continuous lockdowns to protect the vulnerable on their social media have disappeared or DGAF, eveb my DM the hypochondriac hasn't texted to ask how I am. My DH has even been suggesting that now it's legal, I can go outside for a walk around in the fresh air to see if I feel better!

Meanwhile when friends have gotten ill I've been offering to do their supermarket shopping, pharmacy runs and even popping little things in the post to cheer them up while they were isolating.

I'm all for not having the population locked down by law, and for people taking personal responsibility to avoid infecting others, but any remainder of support there was has moved on to the next drama-creating, virtue signalling exercise. Frankly I wish they hadn't bothered to pretend they cared about CV people in the first place, or I'd have had time to arrange other support.

I don't know what I'm looking for with my post, just to vent I guess.

@Swayingpalmtrees

People do not have limitless empathy. They usually save it for people that are genuinely in trouble these days.

The problem is when those people are also those who are inly too happy to ask that same empathy and support when they are nit well themselves.

The switch to ‘oh covid is just a cold’ means that people who weren’t actually that ill got lost if support 6 months ago but people who are ill now (even when they are actually feeling pretty shit) are told to get in with it.
And THAT is an issue.

I doubt the OP will forget how her friends reacted vs what was expected from her for the exact sam illness.

The problem is when those people are also those who are inly too happy to ask that same empathy and support when they are nit well themselves.

What a bleak view of the human race

Sure as heck not MY experience

What help do you need Op ?
I do think it's different now compared to lockdown when no one could go out if someone in your household had covid , I'm sure your husband could do a quick food shop for you.
The most any of my friendship group say now is 'oh no get better soon'

When my first friend tested positive in Mar 2020, I literally dropped everything to make sure she had everything she needed.

Now I'm living in a world where people can and do go to work with a positive test. I'd like to think I'd check in on a reasonably close friend who was feeling very ill but "just" having Covid wouldn't get any special attention from me now, just as I didn't expect anything from anyone when I had it recently. It isn't anything special anymore. Obviously if you're more ill than what's now considered normal, you need some help and should ask for it.

If I was in a position where I really couldn't be left so DH could do a shop, I'd (or he'd) ask for help.

@NdefH81

*The problem is when those people are also those who are inly too happy to ask that same empathy and support when they are nit well themselves.*

What a bleak view of the human race

Sure as heck not MY experience

But that’s the oP’s experience.

She helped her friends and when she is now unwell, no one is bothering….

Read your post
Is clearly your view too!

@Swayingpalmtrees

If you are that ill, which some of us have been, you don't have the energy to text anyone updates or work out who has failed your expectations or to post on MN. It was all I could do to stay conscious on the forth night and out of hospital.

Actually that isn't quite true. You can be very poorly and still be capable of texting and using MN.

I was in hospital with covid and more than capable of using my phone or tablet. My breathing issues and dangerously high blood pressure readings didn't render me unable to type.

Despite this, if the OP is so I'll that they need their partner with them constantly and is feeling so dizzy they can't make it to a bathroom, then they should be calling their gp or 111 to access medical attention. The op also needs to be checking their own health via an oximeter, thermometer, etc so they can be aware of any sudden changes too.

My temperature that was so high for three days I could not send texts because I was totally delirious. I have had major surgery and been able to text immediately to let people know I am okay. It depends on how you are feeling, but when you are properly ill most people haven't the energy to start judging who is helping - that usually comes afterwards if you are that way inclined. I have dropped off shopping and meds for friends, but that was because no slots were available, now they are freely available so I am not sure why op needs people running around for her. It is much easier now than before to take care of your own needs, if you live with other people.

I know someone self employed who was still sending work emails after being admitted to hospital with Covid so I don't think being able to post on MN is a good guide to how well the OP is. However I do think it's reasonable to assume her DH could pop out for food and medicine - if you need help OP, just ask!