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CV with Covid and no-one gives a toss

109 replies

EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 10:38

Tested positive on Weds, since them have been getting far worse with symptoms, been in bed pretty much since then and using my inhaler several times a day.

Not one person has bothered to check in on me and DH to offer any help. All the friends who were bleating on demanding continuous lockdowns to protect the vulnerable on their social media have disappeared or DGAF, eveb my DM the hypochondriac hasn't texted to ask how I am. My DH has even been suggesting that now it's legal, I can go outside for a walk around in the fresh air to see if I feel better!

Meanwhile when friends have gotten ill I've been offering to do their supermarket shopping, pharmacy runs and even popping little things in the post to cheer them up while they were isolating.

I'm all for not having the population locked down by law, and for people taking personal responsibility to avoid infecting others, but any remainder of support there was has moved on to the next drama-creating, virtue signalling exercise. Frankly I wish they hadn't bothered to pretend they cared about CV people in the first place, or I'd have had time to arrange other support.

I don't know what I'm looking for with my post, just to vent I guess.

OP posts:
AskingforaBaskin · 02/04/2022 14:16

@EatSleepRantRepeat

Unfortunately I need him at home *@Rosebuud* - I'm having trouble even getting to the bathroom by myself at the moment as I'm so breathless and dizzy. It is absolutely not like a cold for many people, but those of us speaking up are being ignored for political reasons

It's not even the lack of practical offers, it's the lack of contact at all - as if everyone's just bored of it now.

Where is your nearest shop? You couldn't even spare him for an hour with your phone next to you for emergencies?
PatientlyWaiting21 · 02/04/2022 14:17

Well you’re not alone so don’t need anyone to do your shopping. Covid is old news, they aren’t even doing tests in England anymore. Treat it like any Other respiratory virus, rest up, get up and out once you feel better. If you feel like you’re getting worse call 111, if you feel you’re life is threatened call 999. I had it this week, few days feeling like utter garbage, just feels like a cold now.

TheNameOfTheRoses · 02/04/2022 15:22

And tell the people who have long covid, the 1 millions of them that it’s all in their head and it doesn’t matter anymore becaus it’s just like a cold…
Plus of course those who have developped an auto immune disease, have type 1 diabetes, got suicidal, have a hear attack or la stroke.

Yep all of them just had a cold. Not even the flu. Just a cold ,all because it’s ‘old news’.p and people are bored.

Is that what you mean @PatientlyWaiting21?

AskingforaBaskin · 02/04/2022 15:24

@TheNameOfTheRoses

And tell the people who have long covid, the 1 millions of them that it’s all in their head and it doesn’t matter anymore becaus it’s just like a cold… Plus of course those who have developped an auto immune disease, have type 1 diabetes, got suicidal, have a hear attack or la stroke.

Yep all of them just had a cold. Not even the flu. Just a cold ,all because it’s ‘old news’.p and people are bored.

Is that what you mean @PatientlyWaiting21?

I have pneumonia right now because I had Covid.

I am a fit and healthy 30 year old.

It is old news. And people do need to learn to live with it. The Op is not alone and other people have busy lives. What is she doing to assist her situation?

Swayingpalmtrees · 02/04/2022 15:28

I have long covid and still accept that people need to get on with their lives.
Yes it is crap, and I have no idea when and if it will ever end, but I am alive to tell the tale, and we have got at least a few decades of covid so the quicker we can accept the situation as it is - resilience.
I could catch other viruses that could also make me ill for a long time. Glandular fever etc can be terrible for some.

Toddlerteaplease · 02/04/2022 15:41

Since you no longer need to isolate, they probably think That your DH can do shopping etc.

gettingolderandgrumpy · 02/04/2022 16:02

The thing is op pretty much everyone has had covid as it’s 2 years on so if you need help you ask . Yes people could offer but I’d assume you need something you ask . Online shops or your dh can pop out for the essentials I’m sure you’d be ok for half a hour if you rest while her gone .
I really don’t think you need you dh with you 247 send him to the shops then get him to arrange a online shop . Hope you feel better soon.

Claddinghell · 02/04/2022 16:08

I currently have covid and live by myself. I did an online shop first day of testing positive and thankfully they had next day slots available. I have. Habit of not having food in. However lots of things didn’t appear and no substitute. I had to ask friends to drop off some things - mostly cat food and litter.

Most have checked in a few times, but not as much as I would of thought. One friend, who I did lots for when they had covid a few times sort of grumbled when they asked if I needed anything and I said yes.

However I feel it’s cause I am bored and have lots of time to think, as house bound and everyone gets on with life. Also feel covid is not special now and lots of options online to get food. I did a top up shop on Amazon grocery.

Don’t take it personally

TheNameOfTheRoses · 02/04/2022 16:25

@Toddlerteaplease

Since you no longer need to isolate, they probably think That your DH can do shopping etc.
Except that the OP is ill enough to not be able to stand up on her own and go to the loo. That she needs her DH to stay with her.

Is it now compulsory to be only mildly affected by an illness because it’s covid?

If it had been any other illness where someone is that unwell, you wouldn’t hear the same comments.

MargeSimpson79 · 02/04/2022 16:25

Sorry, I’ve got to agree with most others on here that you are being unrealistic at this stage of the pandemic to expect multiple people to be checking up on you particularly when you have your dh around.

If you need something specific from a friend then just ask them directly. It just isn’t at the front of peoples minds anymore. Plus I assume you are cv from asthma from what you’ve posted? Most people will probably by now know many people with asthma who’ve had it and been absolutely fine, I certainly do. Being in the cv category does not automatically guarantee someone being really poorly from it so people will not be assuming that you are really poorly just because you were cv.

As a pp said if you are so unwell that he is unable to pop to the shops for half an hour then you should think about seeking medical attention.

Smartiepants79 · 02/04/2022 18:09

How long does it take to get to the shops for a few essentials?
Can’t be more than an hour or so surely? I would expect an adult to be able to stay in bed for an hour without the need to get up for a wee.

Tara336 · 02/04/2022 18:39

I'm so sorry your feeling so ill I'm CV too and caught COVID before Christmas, it's taken me months to feel better again and I was so angry to find someone who knows I'm CV sat at my desk when I got to work the other day whose wife has just been diagnosed with COVID potentially putting me at risk again. It isn't just a cold to some of us I was really ill. I dont expect the world to stop for me but for gods sake show some consideration for those of us that can be badly affected

gamerchick · 02/04/2022 18:58

I'm sorta wanting the husbands version of events tbh. If you're that ill then you need medical attention.

NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 20:18

@gamerchick

I'm sorta wanting the husbands version of events tbh. If you're that ill then you need medical attention.
Agreed

Your wife is telling you can’t go out for even a minute because she’s at deaths door, as you watch her tapping furiously on her phone to update her mumsnet thread!

Anoisagusaris · 02/04/2022 20:37

Yes it’s but crap when friends don’t check but it all seems a bit dramatic if you can manage to post on MN. Even if you were in hospital you wouldn’t have 1 on 1 care 24 hours a day. Surely your husband can leave you for a short period of time.

NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 20:39

Op won’t be back, no way!

Mickarooni · 02/04/2022 23:35

I would not think to offer practical help to someone with another healthy adult in the home but I would drop them a text to check they’re ok.

OP if you’re too ill to lie in bed while your other half goes out to the supermarket, you should like you need urgent medical attention.

OliveTree75 · 03/04/2022 07:55

@NdefH81

No pile on

just baffled you’re so serious that your dh can’t even leave to pop to pharmacy but he thinks your fitter enough to go for a walk

And I’m interested how everyone found out? Text or social media announcement?

This
Swayingpalmtrees · 03/04/2022 15:53

Grin Covid is like having a first born. Anyone would think it has never happened before.

Swayingpalmtrees · 03/04/2022 15:58

If you are that ill, which some of us have been, you don't have the energy to text anyone updates or work out who has failed your expectations or to post on MN. It was all I could do to stay conscious on the forth night and out of hospital.

BeenToldComputerSaysNo · 03/04/2022 15:58

OP, hope you feel better soon. Seems like empathy is in short supply!

BeenToldComputerSaysNo · 03/04/2022 15:59

Apparently it's too much to ask a new mother how she's doing now too, as she's not the first mother in the world!!

NdefH81 · 03/04/2022 16:02

@BeenToldComputerSaysNo

Apparently it's too much to ask a new mother how she's doing now too, as she's not the first mother in the world!!
Confused
Swayingpalmtrees · 03/04/2022 16:09

People do not have limitless empathy. They usually save it for people that are genuinely in trouble these days.

GrannyBloomers · 03/04/2022 16:10

Hope you feel better soon. Do try to get anti virals if eligible.

I’m cv, live alone and reckon nobody would work out if I died for a few days.

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