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CV with Covid and no-one gives a toss

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 10:38

Tested positive on Weds, since them have been getting far worse with symptoms, been in bed pretty much since then and using my inhaler several times a day.

Not one person has bothered to check in on me and DH to offer any help. All the friends who were bleating on demanding continuous lockdowns to protect the vulnerable on their social media have disappeared or DGAF, eveb my DM the hypochondriac hasn't texted to ask how I am. My DH has even been suggesting that now it's legal, I can go outside for a walk around in the fresh air to see if I feel better!

Meanwhile when friends have gotten ill I've been offering to do their supermarket shopping, pharmacy runs and even popping little things in the post to cheer them up while they were isolating.

I'm all for not having the population locked down by law, and for people taking personal responsibility to avoid infecting others, but any remainder of support there was has moved on to the next drama-creating, virtue signalling exercise. Frankly I wish they hadn't bothered to pretend they cared about CV people in the first place, or I'd have had time to arrange other support.

I don't know what I'm looking for with my post, just to vent I guess.

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FairyCakeWings · 02/04/2022 11:22

Honestly, I think you're expecting Farr too much from your friends. You have a husband, he can do the shopping and the practical things you need.

If you were on your own it would be different, but you're not.

gogohm · 02/04/2022 11:22

Can't your husband pop out for 45 mins just after you have been to the bathroom etc. my dp had covid, I went shopping leaving him in bed, I suspect your friends would be thinking along the same lines. You can go out if you are physically capable, your dh is right, fresh air might be helpful, even just by car and sit on a bench near the car park for a change in scenery.

For 90% of the population it's barely a cold, for the 10% that are getting worse symptoms it is frustrating that others appear not to care but I think we are collectively fatigued by it all now and it's falling off our radars, I went to work even (have own office) because life goes on. Hope you feel better soon

lazymum99 · 02/04/2022 11:22

I did not wait to be contacted for anti virals.
Positive on Sunday. Phoned 111. They made me a telephone GP apptment for next morning. GP referred me to unit dispensing anti virals. They phoned me later in afternoon and the pills were couriered to me the next day.

They are miraculous. And the system worked impressively well

cloudylemonade13 · 02/04/2022 11:30

(but one had the fucking cheek to write her name on their race number without asking)

Yikes, that's so shameless you've almost got to admire it!

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 11:30

@lazymum99

I did not wait to be contacted for anti virals. Positive on Sunday. Phoned 111. They made me a telephone GP apptment for next morning. GP referred me to unit dispensing anti virals. They phoned me later in afternoon and the pills were couriered to me the next day.

They are miraculous. And the system worked impressively well

That's good to know @lazymum99!
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Glamping1234 · 02/04/2022 11:31

I'm sorry your feeling poorly and let down by the people around you. I echo what another poster has said some people just are more thoughtful and others can be slightly more wrapped up in themselves!. Just remember those who have helped you during hard times and those how haven't. That's not to say don't speak to them ever again but I wouldn't be going out my way to help them again in the future. Get well soon.

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 11:32

@Glamping1234

I'm sorry your feeling poorly and let down by the people around you. I echo what another poster has said some people just are more thoughtful and others can be slightly more wrapped up in themselves!. Just remember those who have helped you during hard times and those how haven't. That's not to say don't speak to them ever again but I wouldn't be going out my way to help them again in the future. Get well soon.
Thank you Flowers yes I think I'll be taking that approach in future.
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pitterpatterrain · 02/04/2022 11:34

@FairyCakeWings

Honestly, I think you're expecting Farr too much from your friends. You have a husband, he can do the shopping and the practical things you need.

If you were on your own it would be different, but you're not.

Yup
JimmyShoo · 02/04/2022 11:34

People didn’t “pretend” to care about the CV. There were no vaccines at that time and we all knew that those in that group were at greater risk if infected.

Many of us helped people in that group at the time. I wasn’t pretending to care, I genuinely did and helped shop for those that were vulnerable.

Now though, if someone was CV and had someone they lived with, I wouldn’t think they were really in need of additional support unless they specifically told me they were.

Hope you feel better soon.

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 11:35

You can go out if you are physically capable, your dh is right, fresh air might be helpful, even just by car and sit on a bench near the car park for a change in scenery.

While this is legally correct, morally it just feels wrong to knowingly be ill with a virus and risk spreading it to others. We live in an AONB which is very busy with walkers and cyclists, particularly the retired. I wouldn't want to give this to anyone else (as I wouldn't if it was the raging shits or anything else).

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Abraxan · 02/04/2022 11:35

Re antivirals. I wasn't contacted automatically. I called my gp surgery for a telephone appointment. They called me that day and I told them I was positive, what medication I was on/health condition and asked about the antivirals. He then called the hospital unit for me who called me back the same day. I had the antiviral drip on day 5 and was much much improved 24 hours later.

If eligible then it's worth looking in to. Made such a massive difference to me and how I felt/my health. I went from a strong positive to the faintest of lines overnight,

Lilaclavenders · 02/04/2022 11:37

If you’re so unwell your dh can’t leave you to pop to the shops because you’re dizzy etc then you need medical attention

This! Please ring 111.

BeenToldComputerSaysNo · 02/04/2022 11:38

OP, I don't think YABU - it's not a big deal to check in on someone with covid - it's so different for everybody. Maybe they're covid fatigued/assume you are feeling better than you are/are busy/less selfless/assume you will ask for help etc. Hope you feel better soon.

Interested about the 90% no worse than a cold statistic from a PP - where did that stat come from?

TabithaTittlemouse · 02/04/2022 11:38

Ask for help. Ask if someone would mind getting some shopping etc

NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 11:40

Previously before covid
Would you have expected this if you had a D&V bug?

AchillesPoirot · 02/04/2022 11:40

I’m sorry you’re feeling so ill. Like others I’d assume your DH was looking after you. Hope you feel better soon.

NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 11:41

Yes it married
Why would friends be popping to the pharmacy for you and not your husband?

NeedAHoliday2021 · 02/04/2022 11:43

Have you got the ability to check your o2 levels? I think you should have called your gp but it’s now Saturday so call 111 for advice. I currently have covid and feel exhausted but not overly worried as my granny has just recovered despite being 96 and very frail. Very few vaccinated people need hospitalisation (Although lots are in hospital with other things and covid right now). If you had a bad cold, would your friends usually all keep messaging and doing your shopping? Why can’t you just order online? Back in 2020 there weren’t enough online slots but there’s loads now so it wouldn’t occur to me a friend needed me to get food for them. If they asked, of course I would. Just ask rather than feeling annoyed at them for you not being there centre of their world.

NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 11:44

You’re so serious that he can’t pop out to the pharmacy?

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 11:46

Thanks to everyone for your posts thus far - I'm going to leave it there as I can see the thread is now showing in active, so I'm unlikely to get any further useful advice apart from a Saturday pile-on (who seem to have missed that this isn't in AIBU). Appreciate the advice about the anti-virals, I assumed there would be a process like the vaccination programme but maybe not!

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NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 11:47

How does everyone know?

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EatSleepRantRepeat · 02/04/2022 11:48

Just ask rather than feeling annoyed at them for you not being there centre of their world

You don't have to have someone at the centre of your world to be a good friend.

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NdefH81 · 02/04/2022 11:49

No pile on

just baffled you’re so serious that your dh can’t even leave to pop to pharmacy but he thinks your fitter enough to go for a walk

And I’m interested how everyone found out? Text or social media announcement?

TulipsGarden · 02/04/2022 11:52

Do you have an oximeter? If you're dizzy and breathless you need to check your oxygen levels, and I would definitely contact 111 to see if you can get additional help.

GettingTooOldForThis · 02/04/2022 11:53

Re the anti virals

I tested positive and called 111 asking for them as I was eligible. They said the unit would call back within 24-48 hours. They didn't but it was over a weekend.

I tried again on the Monday and they said there had been a huge number of referrals and they were allowing them up to 7 days and was told I'd hear very soon.

I was eventually called on day 6 and they said I wasn't eligible as I had said I felt a bit better with the headaches as I was taking pain killers. So I never got them and am still feeling breathless and tired over two weeks since my first symptoms started.

It depends where you are I think as to whether it works well.

I then received a box of LFT's saying as I'm eligible for the anti virals I could now use them to test. Wasn't impressed at all.

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