Going out with covid is it ok? Or aibu?

[boredoffmatleave]

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and tested positive yesterday I seem to managing ok with just rotating paracetamol. I need to pick DD up from her nans she's been there since Monday as she went to their holiday home in Wales with them.

DS is bored and wants to get out in the sun and I have a lot of things to get done OH does everything half arsed so I would rather just crack on with it myself instead of just lying in bed.

Is it ok do we think to just carry on or a big no no? Of course I don't want to make people sick.

I know we don't need to self isolate anymore but it still feels a bit odd not doing so.

No it isn't bloody ok.

Ignore the hysterical nonsense in some of these replies and use your common sense, OP. Picking up your daughter is fine as long as you stay in your car or keep well away from other people. Going outside is fine, as long as you find a quiet spot to go for a walk or bike ride or have a picnic or whatever away from other people. Drive, don’t use public transport. Obviously don’t go into shops, cafes or anywhere else there are people.

I'm triple jabbed but got covid a few weeks ago. I felt awful and wouldn't have gone out and spread it to others.

*TakeYourFinalPosition

*@georgousbold*You do at my hospital, the husband is tested with a rapid test, takes about an hour to get the result.

You can refuse. It's against nice guidelines to make someone or refuse access is they say no*

Crapping hell what is wrong with people ?
I think the hospital can refuse visitors (which birth partners are) for any reason they like. Can't refuse patients obviously.

I’m honestly terrified this question has been asked in all seriousness. There are so many things in life that aren’t illegal but that you wouldn’t do because it could harm others. Every time you question your decision to stay in you should think to yourself, how would I feel if someone just nipped to shop and their need for sweets ended with my vulnerable dad dying?

It’s really, really not difficult OP. If you’re sick stay home. I do completely understand some people cannot afford to lose their jobs or are risking fines with school due to keeping sick kids away (been in both scenarios). I know it’s not straight forward. But here you have an option - you write your useless other half a shopping list and you say he needs to be an adult.
If you infected someone who works in hospital and there’s not enough staff to birth your baby, how would you feel? Sorry but it’s that simple. Think about it.

I stand by this opinion no matter what the government says. My kids test if they have a sniffle. If they have a stomach bug the 48 rule applies.
If I’m unsure, I phone the school to confirm what they need me to do. I can say, hand on heart, that I try to remember what’s at risk for the vulnerable.

I tested positive 8 days ago and haven't left the house once, but that's my choice and nobody was forcing me to stay in. I wouldn't judge somebody for going out as it's none of my business.

You don't need anybody to tell you what to do OP.

If you want to go out then go out, i would just take reasonable precautions. Mask, hand sanitiser etc.

Some of these replies are like 2020 again.

Don't step out the door OP you will kill someone.

I think going for a walk is fine, just don't go indoors with other people about. Use common sense, as with any illness, stay away from others.

I don't test anymore anyway.

Walk avoiding people ok. Deliberately mixing with others - not ok

Use common sense really- walks outdoors are fine. I have also needed to go to the supermarket once so went when it was virtually empty and wore a medical mask.

@WhiteCatmas

Going out to an isolated spot is all very well, but what if you were in accident and needed the emergency services? What if you ended up in an ambulance unconscious? Just stay at home OP, you know it’s the right thing. It’s a pandemic for God’s sake.

You could have an accident at home and need emergency services, not just at an isolated spot

I'd definitely go out but you just have to be quite imaginative where you wouldn't come into contact with anyone.
Wouldn't go shopping or socialise .
But I'm quite lucky where we live there's loads of fields paths and beaches where you wouldn't see anyone

If OH was good on his own i wouldn't care but he's useless, he will go to his mums now to get DD and will sit there for hours not thinking about doing a food shop before he comes back

So you already gave two kids (which sound like they're his, but either way...). why the hell are you having a third child with this incompetent twerp?

Jesus wept.

Can't DD stay where she is for a few more days? Why risk giving it to her, then her maybe giving it to DS or DTwerp?

& he'd go from twerp to wanker if he goes with you to hospital knowing he has covid, though it sounds like he'd be as good as useless anyway & would probably just take the kids around to his mums anyway.

You need to rest. Pregnancy puts a strain on your body including your heart, covid does too, covid in pregnancy is very hard on your body (whether you 'feel' ok or not). Look after your baby, rest!!

@BorisKilledMyHusband

Depends if you fancy killing a vulnerable person.

Yes if people were confronted with the people they harm they would feel very differently about going out and spreading what can be very serious for some people.

I've been struggling with covid and it's after effects for 3 weeks now, I'm sure whoever passed it on wished me no harm and wouldn't have done something to make me struggle for weeks if it was something they could see they were doing.

I think in your position you should really rest, the first couple of days weren't bad for me by day 5 I was really struggling and it is only the last couple of days that I've started to feel better. So lying in bed might not feel necessary at the moment but save your strength, trust me I've given birth with flu and it wasn't nice and I'm pretty sure labour plus covid wouldn't be great either.

This is why case rates are so high, I guess. Selfish people not giving a shit about anyone else.

I understand that it's very difficult for some people to isolate for financial reasons, and I don't judge anyone who genuinely feels that they have no choice. But that clearly isn't the case for the OP. I'm amazed that she feels the need to even ask tbh. Surely it's obvious?

If people have this attitude it won't be long until we're in full lockdown again.

Legally you can do what you want. If you still require meds then you are ill, it's not a good idea to go out ill whatever the illness, it's not fair on other people.

My dp has covid (tested + Thursday) but now has no symptoms so we may go for a walk in the countryside but we won't be going to the pub unless he tests negative later (and I do not test positive!)

Be sensible, don't go into situations where you are in close contact with others or indoors

@BorisKilledMyHusband

Depends if you fancy killing a vulnerable person.

Oh for goodness sake. I can see from your comment and your username you’ve suffered a loss and I’m really sorry for that, but these comments do not help. Don’t guilt trip the OP. We do unfortunately have to live with this now.

OP I would go for a walk if you’re in a big outside open space but otherwise isolate if you can. Most isolations are now much shorter

I think besides just the other people argument you need to think of yourself. You won't know you have over done it until you have over done it if you know what I mean. Be kind to yourself and rest up.

Stop pandering to you manchild d- twerp @boredoffmatleave.

You’re heavily pregnant and ill. Stay in bed. If you don’t get enough rest you may take longer to recover. Stay there until Monday at least.

Don’t guilt trip the OP. We do unfortunately have to live with this now.

Yes, but living with it doesn't mean pretending that it doesn't exist. It means everyone taking careful, sensible precautions to protect other people. Going out and about with any infectious illness potentially puts others at risk and it's selfish to do it if you don't have to.

We have been living with chicken pox for years, but I would not have let me dd go out and about with it while she was still infectious because that would have been a twattish thing to do.

Obviously not mixing with people but how is it going to hurt to go on a walk outdoors??

Anyone who’s expecting the majority of Covid positive and not-particularly-ill people to be staying inside the house for ten days at this point is living in cloud cuckoo land. Saying that, I’d be resting up if I had any illness at 37 weeks pregnant and woe betide a partner who didn’t competently deal with the existing children and housework, food shopping etc.

I’m on immunotherapy currently and I and only a handful of others are wearing masks in store.for the benefit of others not myself and this is the real reason its more terrifying to go anywhere still! That people think it’s ok

You’ll do a click and collect for him to pick up? Why? Why are you enabling a shit OH?

“Darling, I’m 37 weeks pregnant and I have covid, so I’m staying in bed. On your way to or from picking up DD, please could you get a shop in?”

If he really can’t do that, you have much bigger problems than covid.