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Going out with covid is it ok? Or aibu?

168 replies

boredoffmatleave · 19/03/2022 09:29

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and tested positive yesterday I seem to managing ok with just rotating paracetamol. I need to pick DD up from her nans she's been there since Monday as she went to their holiday home in Wales with them.

DS is bored and wants to get out in the sun and I have a lot of things to get done OH does everything half arsed so I would rather just crack on with it myself instead of just lying in bed.

Is it ok do we think to just carry on or a big no no? Of course I don't want to make people sick.

I know we don't need to self isolate anymore but it still feels a bit odd not doing so.

OP posts:
thebabynanny · 19/03/2022 09:31

You’re still supposed to isolate.

If you had chicken pox or d&v you’d stay away from people, wouldn’t you?

curiousxxx · 19/03/2022 09:32

I wouldn't do anything or go anywhere where I come into contact with others who I might end up infecting.

Movingonup22 · 19/03/2022 09:32

It’s very selfish - so it depends if you’re a selfishboersonnor not basically

You know that you have a highly contagious virus that could be very dangerous for some people who are clinically vulnerable - not everyone has been able to be vaccinated. The government has thrown those people to the wolves by just removing all restrictions instead of being more balanced. You do. It have to do the same thing

LIZS · 19/03/2022 09:32

Why can't oh do the outside stuff and you the house, if you feel up to it. Half arsed does not mean he gets to opt out Hmm

Wowzel · 19/03/2022 09:32

Of course it isn't ok, it just isn't illegal any more

Januarypip · 19/03/2022 09:35

I think if you don't come into contact with people it's ok. So a walk outside I would do but anything else nope. Stay home it's only for a short time

orangina01 · 19/03/2022 09:38

This blows my mind. Of course you shouldn't go out. If you're still rotating meds to be okay then you are likely still infectious. You don't know if the person next to you in the shop is vulnerable. Please think of others rather than yourself.

WeatherwaxOn · 19/03/2022 09:39

If you're not going to have contact with anyone else then OK, but if you could transmit it to others then no.
I've jut got over it. Wasn't ill with it at all but kept getting positive tests. I've got something not right with my ears that started up about 7 days in.

BeanStew22 · 19/03/2022 09:41

It’s a very bad idea both from infection control & your own health: having Covid is exhausting and you need to preserve your energy and avoid being more unwell than necessary, esp in late pregnancy

You might ‘feel’ ok now but Covid can be a slow starter

SprayedWithDettol · 19/03/2022 09:41

Jesus. Just stay in. My son has covid atm. He lives alone and is stuck in his house and would love a walk, he is staying put because it is the right thing to do.

Piggy42 · 19/03/2022 09:42

Of course you are being massively unreasonable.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 19/03/2022 09:44

Also don't give it to your DH or you will have to give birth alone as no way will they let him anywhere near maternity ward if testing positive.

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 19/03/2022 09:44

You only tested positive yesterday so literally stayed in one day???
You may test negative on day 5 and 6 so it's not like its weeks

Your oh needs to pull his weight. He can take ds out so hes not bored for a start.
He needs to step up now. What will you do when the new baby needs feeding or settling and your ds is "bored"?

Neurodiversitydoctor · 19/03/2022 09:45

Get OH to pick up Dd

CollyFleur · 19/03/2022 09:48

@thebabynanny

You’re still supposed to isolate.

If you had chicken pox or d&v you’d stay away from people, wouldn’t you?

This. The only changed is that it's no longer illegal to leave the house knowing you have Covid.

In your position, at your stage of pregnancy, I would also be giving my body every chance of a quick and full recovery by resting as much as I possibly could.
Sustaining a full term pregnancy is already a huge strain on your body. Add Covid into the mix and you're very prone to complications / both with the pregnancy and with Covid.

Porcupineintherough · 19/03/2022 09:50

Absolutely go out. Maybe there's an nct group you could meet up with, or an old people's home you could visit. Or soft play is always good for an afternoon. The important thing here is that your OH hasnt got to get out of bed, that's super important. Hmm

SleepingStandingUp · 19/03/2022 09:51

You have an OH problem not a covid problem.

BorisKilledMyHusband · 19/03/2022 09:52

Depends if you fancy killing a vulnerable person.

Cbes · 19/03/2022 09:56

I’m going to go slightly against the flow by saying if you want to go for a walk around an isolated wood, or pick your daughter up while you stay in the car and don’t come in contact with anyone (assuming it’s not a long trip) then that would be fine.

But for gods sake don’t just go mingle with people as if you don’t have it!

inacloud · 19/03/2022 10:02

Sure, you go and spread it around, don't worry yourself about other pregnant women who might be unvaxxed and end up MC, old dears whose immunity is waning and Covid could finish them off, self-employed people who lose all income if they can't work etc Because DS is "bored". Confused seriously?

toomuchlaundry · 19/03/2022 10:02

So what is your OH doing?

Neurodiversitydoctor · 19/03/2022 10:02

But being in the car with Dd = v. likely to give it to her, thereby potentially fucking up your childcare arrangements for the birth . Honestly at 37/40 Just lie on the sofa, close the door, hope OH hasn't already got it and concentrate on your recovery.

zafferana · 19/03/2022 10:05

Of course you can pick up your DD OP. You can also go outside with your DS, just don't go and breathe on other people! But if you need to do stuff where you would be around others get your lazy OH to step up.

Posorneg1 · 19/03/2022 10:05

I tested positive yesterday and although it’s not a legal requirement I wouldn’t go out even if I felt up to it. I feel absolutely awful and wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. The weather is quite nice where I am today so it would have been nice to go somewhere but I would feel awful if I passed it on to someone

MakkaPakkas · 19/03/2022 10:07

The way I think about it is, how likely are you to infect others/ how vulnerable are those you interact with vs how much do you need to go out?
So;
Rush hour tube journey = I wouldn't as I can WFH if necessary. If I needed to work & couldn't afford to loose any pay etc I might do this as I'd be weighing up providing for my family (who I care most about) vs a more theoretical threat to mostly low risk and vaccinated others who I don't have a caring relationship with. So in that case I might just mask up and hope for the best.

Visit a care home/ elderly person who can get their own necessities another way = no

Go for a walk around the park = yes
Go for another outdoor activity= probably
Etc...
There's a load of context to all these things.
Hope you feel better soon & good luck with the birth & new baby

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